me and my greatgrandma was soooo close. we did everything together.. and i told her everything... she died on friday and yesterday while the whole family cried at her funeral.. i couldnt... i miss her sooo much... but i couldnt cry.. i feel so cold hearted.... and im so sad.... but was it bad not to cry???
2007-10-08 05:25:05 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You couldn't cry because she wouldn't have wanted you too. Sometimes we can't cry because we are in shock...we don't know why this had happened and cannot believe it is real. At my best friends funeral I couldn't cry, I just couldn't understand and believe she was gone, esp. if it was closed casket you sort of have a feeling that it isn't them inside and it was a mistake. Don't beat yourself up over this, time will come when you can't control the crying and it will be OK. I am sorry for your loss, I know what it is like.
2007-10-08 05:30:01 · answer #1 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different reactions to losing a loved one. Sometimes its even harder to cry when you're very close to someone because you're not prepared to deal with the shock of it. My grandpa died fairly suddenly and I never cried at his funeral. My grandma however, died after being sick for several months. So I had time to mourn before she died and did cry some at her funeral. Whether you cry or not also depends on how you're socialized. In our society, crying is often looked down upon as a sign of weakness, its hard to subconsciously get over that, even when you're in a setting where crying is acceptable. There's nothing strange about not crying...even when you're sad. I'm very sorry for your loss.
2007-10-08 05:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kirsten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You may be just so hurt and in shock you can't. My grandmother died Dec 18 and I am still feeling the pain as fresh as it was yesterday. I don't think it goes away if you were really close. I went into shock and did things that had to be brought to my attention for me to stop. Like, I slept in her bed at my mom and dads house for 2 weeks after she died. I couldn't leave her and I didn't want to go home. I wore her nightgowns[still do], And I have all her makeup, jewelry, and clothes. I couldn't let her go and that was my way of dealing with it. Not crying could just be yours. There are worse things. Believe me. Hope this helps. Good luck. :)
2007-10-08 05:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kera L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People deal with grief in different ways. Just because you didn't cry does no mean that you didn't care. It make take a few days before you cry, or you may not cry at all. You sound like you were very close with her, and I don't think you are cold hearted at all. Give yourself some time.
2007-10-08 05:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by klyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sorry to hear about your lose.
My Grandma died a week ago, and while everyone was crying at the funeral, my eyes were dry.
She was a "second mother" to me...we were very close. I miss her horribly. Its normal to not cry, you just dont like to show your emotions in front of so many people.
2007-10-08 05:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by shanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! its not bad not to cry. people deal with tragedy in many different ways. some laugh, some get angry, and some might have a delayed sence of whats going on, like maybe since you were so close to her you refuse to believe that shes gone subcosiously.
it defenitly does not mean your a cold hearted person. hope you feel better and sorry for your loss.
2007-10-08 05:31:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! I mean, sometimes i can be REALLY sad about something and not cry, and sometimes i can cry over something that is totally not worth crying over! Just because you didnt cry doesnt mean you're not upset, it could even mean you're in a state of denial! And btw...im really sorry about your greatgrandma!!
2007-10-08 05:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm really sorry for your loss...its okay that you didn't cry. Everyone processes there emotions differently. My boyfriends dad died when he was 13 and he didn't cry at first. Just because you didnt cry doesn't mean you aren't hurting or you aren't upset. So don't worry about it too much.
2007-10-08 05:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not. I was the only one who wasn't crying at my grandmother's funeral, too. People handle grief in different ways. Don't feel bad about not crying.
2007-10-08 06:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone grieves in their own way and at their time. Just because you didn't cry then doesn't mean you didn't care for your Grandma or that you won't cry in the future. It's o.k. You'll cry when you're supposed to. Let the grieving process take it's course.
2007-10-08 05:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋