All of us are born accidentlly - that is - the result or an end product of an amorous lust between a man and a woman. After being born we became elders, discharged our duties and responsibilities and brought up our kids with a cherished dream that they will take care of us at the fag end of our lives. We also gave our luxuries /ambitions/personal likes because we wanted our kids to live happily and get whatever that was denied to us. Look at what happened - the kids grew up, left for green pastures and left us high and dry. Syndrome is natural. I am finding it difficult to even go to the loo because my kids are not around to help me. What says U?
2007-10-08 04:48:43 · 14 answers · asked by Vasanthkumar Mysoremath 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
I am overwhelmed by some very encouraging and some downright opposite views. Many have not agreed that they were born accidentally but were born out of love even though they know that the end product of love is birth through lust. We can debate on this.
Many have said that suicide is not the means to an end. They want to live on hope which is an eternal bliss for human beings. This is fine when u r fit enough, but when your body does not obey the commands of your willing and hopeful mind, then u will know what pain means and it is at this point that we feel like crying out loud - help, where r u my darlings?
2007-10-08 17:10:52 · update #1
I don't believe we are born accidently. We are each a gift to someone from God, who has a plan for every one of us. Part of that plan is knowing Him. When children grow up and go off on their own, that is part of the plan but, they are also to honor their parents (you don't necessarily have to like them but you do honor them). Parents are supposed to bring their childrern up knowing the ways of the Lord. When it's done right, parents are not left in the dust, they are cared for by the children they cared for. Suicide is never justified.
2007-10-08 04:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well....I for one looked forward to getting older. Now....I do have to say that is an option I would have NEVER thought of before. But when you get bombarded with "seniors bankrupting the economy".....one illness leaves your family homeless....or spouse homeless.....when you have people wanting you out of the picture......it's hard to keep the hope alive and the desire to live there. They have taken the hope of something better away to just hanging on at a HUGE expense.
I never had my kids thinking they would take care of me when I got old. I know many cultures do. I've known for a long time that in my elder years....I would be alone. I just never thought that no matter how well I planned....one illness and it's gone anyway.
I would say for the most part it's a changing global scernio. It amounts to potential and production.....once that's gone....you are no longer required. You can't run on just consumption and expect the "used up" to be valuable with that mind set.
I remember a Star Trek episode where once people reached a certain age....they were expected to kill themselves. Die at your peak before you became a burden. Can't remember the name of it.....but that seems more on the way we are going. I see them more eager to take our body parts or experiment on us ...than to help us. Heck....people are suffering in severe pain and they are more worried about addiction and the rowdy teenager stealing your meds than treating you.
I don't know if it's justified. I just know back in my parents day.....1 income was enough. Now it takes 2. Parent's can't even raise their own children....let alone care for the elderly. You can barely raise your own pet because they want you 24/7 for nothing.
I just remember my parents were at a brink in their life when they were called upon to care for their parents. Then my parents told me they didn't want me to alter my life, to the distruction of it ,to care for them. Now...my kids wouldn't think of it......they might just be having their first child about the time I'm an invalid......child vs old person? I'm looking at suicide vs even a few months of worry for the people I love.
2007-10-08 12:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't born accidental, and although my younguns don't live with me anymore, I'm enjoying them as adults -- the grandkids are a pleasure too. I want to stick around and love this beautiful life God has given me. Between some ticker and other problems, he's had to give me a couple jumps starts to ensure I get a few more miles out of this barely used "old" machine.
2007-10-08 04:59:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess what I am going to say is not so much to help you out but more for me to reinforce how I feel about my kids. With 6 kids only 2 do I deal with on a regular basis. All I know about the other 4 is that they are alive. I will not lay out my hopes for my elder years on any of them. I am too independent to place any semblance of hope on any of them. Although the 2 that I deal with on a regular basis have always promised never to leave me to my own devices. All that I ask of them is to take care of their mother over me. To me the most beautiful peaceful death is to know that my wife will be taken care of when I am gone. Is that asking too much?
2007-10-08 14:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tinman12 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your mind is clear. There are life options open for You, even if You choose to live at home. Your kids are being selfish, no doubt about it, and You aren't alone in this predicament. On the other hand, we have not ALL abandoned our parents.
When loved ones are in hopeless pain -- or when I am! -- i believe in the suicide option. Personally, i would not rush into it, though. Explore all other options!
God Bless You.
2007-10-08 06:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully soon they will have the technology for direct computer interface. Then online worlds such as SecondLife or Ultima Online or whatever is preferred will become the alternative to laying in a bed waiting for the end.
But just to be sure Im working hard not to get that old. :)
2007-10-10 09:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Gandalf Parker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Re: the first part of your question..the 2 segments of
American society that have
the largest incidence of
suicide are the Seniors and
the teens.
I can answer a lot of why for
the Seniors, because I am living the rest of your scenario. But I can't let it
get me down. I cannot make
decisions for my kids anymore and if they choose to
be real jerks, that's up to them. I have made a life for
myself aside from their
personal relationships to me.
I am not hurt...except on my
Birthday. but I sure as hell
am not going to kill myself
because they are inconsiderate jerks. And if any one of y ou say its my
fault, I will tell you all I had to
do to get them raised by
myself.
2007-10-08 13:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's legal in Denmark or Holland. Thank God I don't live Oregon. I guess the kids need their inheirtance quicker due to the changing global economy.
2007-10-08 04:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by sparkles 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Reading all these answers really depressed me.......there's a lot of truth in these words however I just can't get with suicide as being a viable option....and certainly don't think of myself as solely a thing of consumption.
2007-10-10 07:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't beleive in accidents. Lady G pretty much summed it all up in her answer. I don't beleive we should ever expect our children to take care of us. If they do that is a plus but regardless we will make it out of this life and nto the next.
2007-10-08 05:48:01 · answer #10 · answered by Southern Comfort 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋