What does it take to lose your friendship?
2007-10-08 04:03:08 · 15 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
~~~ First of all I would never be friends with an evil person,so none of my friends could ever do anything that I couldn't forgive them for ,or find an excuse for. I know we are all people and can't be perfect. If I have a problem with the behavior or attitude of a friend ,I will ask them why they are acting that way and try to get to the bottom of it. If it continues, I'll still be friends with them ,but I will distant myself from them....such as not inviting them over,or accepting invitations from them. Eventually,things will get better. ~~~
2007-10-08 05:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by donelle g. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i lost a few friendships this year. one of the reasons is, say if one person wants to be friends more than the other, or less.
you can't do it on your own, sort of like dating.
another reason might be, the friend judges you for what you are doing, and so you don't feel like you can comfortably be yourself. ( or if you judge a friend, they probably won't have a feel-good factor hanging out with you.)
the other thing is helping people can kill a friendship. let;s say u want to help a person with money, getting them off drugs, help them organise their life, their apartment. if your help, however well meaning, isn't wanted - then it will be interfering and might mess with the friendship.
breaches of trust can ruin a friendship too. it depends what about and how good the communication/forgiveness is of course as to what happens then.
basically, life is short (relatively) and why would we want to waste time with toxic friends. we should hang out with like-minded people who love us for who we are, and vice versa. otherwise the fun is gone and we may as well move on.
i don't think moving on from friendships that don't work anymore is a lack of committment or loyalty. it's simply, if it's toxic, then what are you being loyal to, and for what reason? Much better to find a higher vibration of friend who better matches you.
i got quite successful a few years ago and i found some friends, it seemed to press their buttons. instead of being happy for me, they didn't seem to be generous enough to even say that, their angle was more like 'when is something like that going to happen to me.' so eventually you had one friend saying wow this is amazing and the other friend going all sad sack, eventually polarising the friendship. i can't say why this happens. i certainly wasn't rubbing it in. but how do you deal if one friend gets a record deal/ hollywood deal/wins lotto/falls in love/gets a promotion and you don't have your 'unsuccessful partner in misery' any more.
then the friendship could break up.
like any relationships, if it's good, it's good, no problem, it will be on . if it's not, there's a reason. if it's not right, just let eachother be and move on. i don't think there is any reason to stick with something that doesn't serve the best good for both people.
2007-10-08 04:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by meteorite 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I feel that I am putting way more of myself and my time into a friendship than the other person. Over time it really, really makes you feel bad..and sad. I know from personal experience on this one. It it just draining and not healthy to have a friendship like that.
2007-10-08 04:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a very forgiving and patient person, and it takes alot to get me angry coz I'm so laid back. One of the things that would break up a friendship for me is when they are very selfish, and just constantly think about them, and cause huge fusses over nothing to get attention.
2007-10-08 04:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Sophiee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a friend is someone who, so to speak, has your back all the time but if you see him or her standing there with a knife in their hand, it is time to lose them.
If that friend does something you are not comfortable with, does something illegal which would make you a part of it, or does anything that makes you uneasy, it is time to lose the friendship.
2007-10-08 04:08:59 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they no longer stand by you
Its a 2 way thing
2007-10-08 04:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Hanarr x] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would only have to betray me, and lie to me, and steal and cheat, then you would lose my friendship
2007-10-08 04:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they put you in a dangerous situation...and then just leave u to fend for yourself...or if they hit on or do **** with a guy you like...
2007-10-08 04:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when it is a one sided friendship.
2007-10-08 04:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by stayc 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first she was always rude. she thought it was funny when my car broke down but i was always giving her rides. she slept with my brother and then took his side when he tried to kill my father. when she finally got a bf she cheated on him all the time
2007-10-08 04:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by MiZZ G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋