I'm 23 years old and my boyfriend of 4 years is very interested in getting married -- I think he's planning to buy a ring around December.
A lot of people say I'm too young and that I need to enjoy being a bachelorette and living my life before getting tied down.
2007-10-08 03:07:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i wish i would've saved money had a career and a home b4 i had kids n got married
2007-10-08 03:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question-- are you interested in getting married to your boyfriend? Don't let other people talk you into or out of something. You are the only one who can say what's right for you. Spend some time thinking about what you feel, what you want for yourself and if you want to make a life with this man forever!
And let's face it, if you've been in a relationship for 4 years, you're not exactly living the "bachelorette" life???? If you need time to be alone and do things before you get married then you should do that. If you're in love with this man and want to spend the rest of your entire life with him then you should do that. and if you want to get married to him but you have some "things" whether it's travel or whatever that you want to do before you get married then you should discuss it with him to see how he feels about it.
Good luck.
2007-10-08 03:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by Doodles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, but there's nothing wrong with a long engagement. You can do the same things when married as when you're single, save working in a sex profession assuming your husband wouldn't care for it. It's when you have a child that things you had planned for yourself must fall by the wayside in order to provide for your children. Put off the babies; not the man. But you need to make sure you're a completely formed person before you marry. I wasn't complete until I was 30.
2007-10-08 03:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school. I met/married man, let my future go by not finishing school. Ended up having to work crap, minimum wage jobs because I gave up my college education for a man. Only to be divorced 5 years later as a single mom.
Just because engaged, doesn't mean you have to get married right away. You can be engaged as long as you would like. If feeling pressured, take your time.
Being married, main benefit is at tax time. Also if you have no health insurance, can now get it at his place of employment or yours.
Another thing to keep in mind that once you tie the knot, make sure everything and I mean everything is talked out and agreed upon. I* wish I would have had prenup agreement. I lost everything I had worked so hard for because he got half! Even though was mine to begin with.
Separate checking accts, one main acct for household. Agree who is to pay what etc. Biggest thing- BEFORE children, make sure you talk in great length and are on the same page in raising children, if you don't agree- you will have lots of battles ahead. Spliting up household responsibilities etc. I have been married twice- now this is my third. First two assumed since I had the "chest" LOL, that it was my job to do all the 'wifely, motherly, home things." Even though I was working FT as well.
They thought their only job was to bring home the bacon, the rest was up to me.
Main thing is to talk talk talk and agree, if you cannot come up with compromises, or sharing of houselhold, how to raise children, who is to do what etc. resentments grow and eventually creates animosity, etc. which in most cases ends up in divorce.
2007-10-08 03:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by tbird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 is a great age to get married, if you wait & boyfriend moves on, the next guy probably will have a car full baggage. Being a " bachelorette" sometimes will create baggage of your own,, like DUI, STD's, addictions, babies, never being happy with current mate,,,,
2007-10-08 03:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people think they got married too soon. Just think about this before getting married
Is this guy someone i can live with, or
Is this guy someone I can not live without.
2007-10-08 03:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Diego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
College. living on my own, having my own place. I never got the chance until I was 36. I'd say took the chance, but when I tried my second husband to be manipulated his way in and never gave me the chance to be on my own.
2007-10-08 03:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married when your ready. Everyone has their idea of when its the right time to marry...the problem is they like to impose THEIR timing on YOU. Do it when your ready !
2007-10-08 03:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish I had not gotten married
2007-10-08 03:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i had gone to Greece, but then again i can do that when all of my kids finish school (in about 18 yrs, ha ha ha )
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2007-10-08 03:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋