I'll try to make this short....been married for a few years, have a child together, husband confesses to having several affairs, I left him and moved to another state, trying to move on with my life with my families help, but ex keeps calling. He calls constantly and sometimes uses the excuse to talk to our 2 year old child, but sometimes he'll call me at midnight or even later. What is that all about? He says he doesn't love me so why won't he let me live my life without him constantly calling me? He's the one that couldn't keep it in his pants for a couple of years and wanted to send me dissolution paperwork, but nothings come this way. I have to live in the new state for 6 months before I can file for a divorce...ugh!!!
2007-10-08 02:56:22 · 13 answers · asked by HeartbrokenGrl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't answer the phone often and when I do I put our child on the phone to speak to him.
2007-10-08 03:02:01 · update #1
If his calls are not at a appropriate time to talk to a two year old don't answer the
phone. When he calls to talk to the child don't talk to him just give the phone to your child and when they are done hang up without speaking to him. When your six months are up file for divorce and have explicit rules set concerning your child.
2007-10-08 03:07:33 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him. Tell him that he can't have his cake and eat it too. He can't be divorced and still keep you around as a partner for talking to about his problems, etc. Tell him what times would be appropriate for him to call and speak to your child, perhaps Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday at 4:00 p.m. he can call to speak to your child and if he has anything pertaining to the child or the divorce to discuss with you it can be done during that time.
It will let him know that you're trying to move on and that you're serious about this.
2007-10-08 10:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a form of control in most cases... he may not want you but doesn't want you to move on with your life. Invest in Caller ID and don't accept his calls. That will send a clear message after a while. If there is a message that he wants to talk to the child, then you regain control by establishing the times that he can speak. The more you play in to this "Game" he's playing, the more he wins.
Good luck.
2007-10-08 10:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This guy is a control freak. Change your number or block his number on your phone. You could get a cell phone for the child at a time when he would really like to talk to his father and have it turned on only at the hours you have prescribed for him to call. You CAN get this creep out of your life. If necessary get a restraining order!
2007-10-08 10:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by bevrossg 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He doesn't want to let go. You know the saying, you don't miss what you had until it's gone. He screwed up and now he can't let go. Change you phone number and let him know he you will not stand for him calling all hours of the night.
2007-10-08 10:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex did the same thing he would also show up at my house early in the morning. It is definitely a control issue. quite taking his calls, plain and simple. Get a mediator for visitation with his child. Because you do not have a right to keep his child from him. (Children are NOT tools)
2007-10-08 10:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me ask you a question. Why do you keep answering the phone? #
2007-10-08 10:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
change your number. he probably just misses the attention of you cooking washing keeping the house clean and sleping in the same bed. you are absolutely right. he couldn't keep in in his pants and now he is feeling guilty. GOOD FOR HIM! SERVES HIM RIGHT! good luck to you my dear.
2007-10-08 10:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get a police report onm him for harrasment and habitual calling...... yes youwant him to stay in contact with your son but he also has to give you your space limit him to one time aday and between the hours of >>. and >>>.
2007-10-08 10:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it must be hard but i think he's just confused??????????? Let it go and get on with your life, I know it's hard bc i just got a divorce after 12 yrs. and it's a LONG story but i have to get on with my life now. Luckily, no kids...................file that divorce ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-08 10:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Dream Maker 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋