Is being out spoken a good thing?

Question

I was brought up to tell it as it is, I have strong beliefs on God and unmarried mums getting married in white in church just to name a few I know I upset a lot of people, but I am very a honest person, who else is like this?

Answer 1

I'm afraid you and I are both afflicted with the same ability to tick people off with very little effort.However,it is helpful to learn things like diplomacy and tact.Those 2 things have saved my hide on more than a few occasions.

Answer 2

Being outspoken can be both a good and bad thing.

The good thing: People can rely on you to always give an honest opinion. It's great that you aren't afraid to tell others what you think about certain things.

The bad thing: Those who are outspoken can come across as obnoxious and annoying. In order to prevent seeming as such, make sure you listen to other people's opinions. Although you might not agree with him or her, respect his or her beliefs. Being tolerant is very important; Most people feel more comfortable talking to someone who has this quality.

Answer 3

I would definitely find someone with your same morals and background and beliefs to marry if you are not already married and marriage is what you want. I think that it is good to be honest, I am, and outspoken, I am that too. But on the other hand, I do not go around telling people how I judge them and if their life offends me then I need to just have them not in my life.

I disagree with a lot of what people seem to believe but I don't go around burning all of their crosses and churches and I prefer that they don't burn my books.

I give my opinion when I am asked and then people are often offended but they asked for it, their problem and they really should not try to change it too hard, it will just end up frustrating them and our relationship, whatever that may be. Unsolicited opinions always suck.

Answer 4

Being assertive, confident, and having high integrity is good.
Being agressive and pushy is bad.

But you know what else is good? Not being highly structured or narrow minded. After all, character has little to do with religion, for example, as is witnessed by the actions of so many folks espousing religion.

So in addition to being assertive, confident, having high integrity, I would add flexibility, a positive attitude, having a sense of humor, and being an affectionate person.

And if you can't see that, then YOU have some character improvement to work on.

Answer 5

Honesty is a good thing, but then so is tact. It should be possible for you to put your point of view forward without upsetting anyone/everyone. You must remember that your point of view is just that, yours, and won't be shared by everyone and isn't necessarily right. Accept that not everyone will or should agree with you, be tactful and perhaps you won't upset everyone.
PS I have strong views/beliefs and don't upset anyone with them - although from what you've written I don't think they're the same as yours.

Answer 6

The only thing I would add to what has already been said is: if you dish it out, be sure you can take it. If someone comes back on you and tells it like it is, then do not get mad or run off pouting or start yelling and crap. What is good for the goose is good for the gander as my grandpa always said, so make sure you have tough enough skin and feelings when someones slaps you upside the head with their feelings.

Answer 7

Nothing wrong with airing your views - its how you do it that counts. Kindness is a virtue and tact is a form of kindness - it means putting things in such a way as to not purposefully cause hurt. You say you know you upset a lot of people - how is that kind? - do they need to be upset just because you want to voice your opinion. You should have enough strength in your own convictions without having to force them down the throats of others.

Answer 8

Being outspoken is one thing, but tact is a large part of being able to express oneself. That doesn't mean you have to compromise your standards or values; it just means that when you "tell it like it is" most people tune you out if you do it in an over-bearing, know-it-all way. If you are trying to persuade people to the truthfulness of the Gospel you must do it with love and compassion. To me, being outspoken means you are not afraid of the truth. It doesn't mean you have a right to pass judgement on others, and too many times that's what I feel "outspoken" people are doing. It's not our place to judge another. Only God can do that. He sees the whole picture. We don't.

Answer 9

You should use discretion in being so very truthful. The tongue can be like the double edged sword as God says in the Bible.

Draw your line in the sand and as long as others don't cross it, mind your own business. If they cross it, then is when you stand up for what you believe in, when it concerns you personally or your minor children. You have to stand up for them until they are old enough to draw their own lines.

Answer 10

As long as you are perfectly lucid when you are shouting it out from your mouth..I brought myself up to be this way..My mom live in an "old fashioned narrow minded world" and all due to a step-mom. That much describe part of who I am or how I am..The rest that you listed are irrelevant to me.