my bf and i have been together for a year and a month now. we've been together twice b4 and that was 4 years ago. i broke up with him twice cuz i was young and i din feel ready to commit and i was afraid of all of the responsibilities. now its been a year straight. we live together i'm 19 and he's 20. we communicate realyl well which is surprising and i've been thinking of marriage simply because of the old tradition that u have to be married to be living together. he says he already feel like we are (and so do i) and we don't mind getting married i just want to know from more mature ppl who maybe have done it what do you think.
2007-10-08 02:47:16 · 14 answers · asked by Kimz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to the die hard christian who thinks she knows it all. what is marriage anyway?so until u have a slip of paper or spent tons of money for a cermemony or for that slip of paper you're not married? what if u are commited to that person, how unmarried are you? what about all those "commmitted ppl" who have the slip of paper and still fool around. i'm uncomfortable about it bt i'm not going to make u try to make me feel less christian because of it.we live together yes but try to live as right as possible and he does respect me and for the most part we communicate well. i can tell him anything and he in turn. it's hard for us to feel uncomfortable about things becuz of the openness we developed so b4 ppl go judging at least have good reason behind it.
2007-10-08 05:49:31 · update #1
You are committing the sin of fornication by living with your boyfriend. Sex is for married people only. He is totally disrespecting you, you should never give your precious self to anyone except your committed husband.
Have some respect for yourself. Move out and don't go back until he marries you.
2007-10-08 02:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
From my experience, I got married at 27 to my grammar school sweetheart and to this day I think I should have waited, so you may want to give it a few more years. Even though my husband is the greatest man, we didnt live together until we got married and thats when I found out alot that I didnt like but it will be that way any how but still think about years from now I thought being 27 was old after 7 years now we have a long way to go and it is really hard but we are making it!!
2007-10-08 09:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by hershey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im only 17 me any partner have been together for 4 years and been engaged for 2years, so if u feel like ur rushing it why not just settle for a ring 1st and see how it all goes for a couple of years. see if u's can handle being together because like u sed you've broke up b4 so who know's what could happen in a year or 2, so if i were u wait for abit to get 2 no bit bout eachother's bad habbits and the more u spend time with eachother u'll see weather u can handle the cumpony of one another all the time.... me and my partner row but we're that strong we laf bout it after so just enjoy the company or 1another 4 a few more years.....!
Good Luck!!
2007-10-08 09:58:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is working well, good. The only thing that would make me tell you to wait is the fact of your age. I wanted to marry someone at your age and I'm so glad I didn't. However, the divorce rate of high school sweethearts is extremely low. By this I mean someone you dated for a long period of time; not just on and off for a few months. You're right about marriage v/s living together. If things are smooth and your life goals are on the same page, go for it. Statistics are in your favor.
2007-10-08 09:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are back with him for 1 year but broke up with him 2 times within the last four years. You should wait a little longer before you get married. traditions are just that... traditions. they really in the world we live today are rarely followed any more. living together and seeing the way things go would be better at this point in time we're in. if another year goes by and everything is perfect between you both, then go for it.
2007-10-08 09:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married when i was 18 and my husband was 21 and we had only known each other for 8 months on at that time. That was nearly 6 fantastic years ago .I wouldn't change it for anything in the world.Young marriages can and do work. They like any other relationship require hard work, communication, honesty, love and respect. Don't look to someone else to make the biggest decisions in your life for you. This is one you and your boyfriend have to decide.
2007-10-08 10:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved in with my bf at 18 and we were married by the time I was 21. We divorced when I was 26. But truthfully, that marriage was because we were young. The second marriage is the one I regret because it was the most damaging. I should have stayed married to the first one, at least we were friends.
2007-10-08 10:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 22 and it is tough. I love my husband dearly and we work together every day. But marriage isnt like dating and it takes a lot of maturity and is a lot of work. You also have to be ready to give up something that you dont even think about. Girls night out died out for me, just conflict of schedules work so we could afford our mortage. Another thing with getting married young is that a lot of my single girlfriends dropped me. You suddenly have different responisblities, my friends had homework to do I had to pay the mortage and the utils and get dinner on for my family. Now all that being said and not to discourage you. It is so worth it. I love my husband we have a our own home. It feels so good to cook dinner in our kitchen and see him full. My only married friend and I take early fridays off of work and we go out to lunch and do errands together. I understand my parents a lot better. Marriage is worth it but nothing worth it is easy.
2007-10-08 10:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by sarah W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait a few more years.Some couples who get married at a young age regret it because they feel as if they've missed out on a few things.Although if you're sure and he's sure,you 2 could very well be the exception to the rule.Just be careful and do a lot of thinking before you take that step.
2007-10-08 09:52:12 · answer #9 · answered by honey_demoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wished I had never gotten legally married to my first husband... when you say the words I do and have the piece of paper to prove it then if you ever want out of it then it is going to cost yuo a whole lot more to get out of it....
my fiance and I are living as husband and wife without the paper and we sdon't see a problem with it
2007-10-08 09:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married at 19 -- at first you will have some rocky times...sit down and talk about finances....how the money will be handled...and especially chores and housework...before you are married.
we are going strong, we love, respect, and understand each other very well....
we have been together for 3 years and married for almost one year --20 year olds...
i am not saying that you shouldnt do it...it is very difficult even after living together...
2007-10-08 09:54:03 · answer #11 · answered by Mia ღ AJ ღ Faithy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋