My wife has decided behind my back without even telling me to pack up and leave to arizona with my kids. my 12 year old has just got his first love and doing great in school. same with my 15 year old and my other son is 3. things are financially tough right now. my wife says she cant get a job here so she wants to start fresh in arizona. she doesnt care what i have to say about any of it. she does not even care what the boys think. i have told her if she goes i want a divorce, she flipped out. what do i do and why does she not even care for her family. she tried to pull a fast one on me but when i had taken the truck to the store she left the rental agreement in the truck and thatis how i found out. when i approached her on it, she yelled and cursed me out and called me every name in the book, she even told me she hates me. hate is a pretty hurtful word to say to anyone but more devistating to your husband. i work my butt to the bone to afford this 1.3 million dollar home. help please.
2007-10-08 02:30:53 · 12 answers · asked by And your point is..... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep the home,& let her go.#
2007-10-08 02:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear this. You need to go down and talk to a lawyer file for temporary custody of your kids. This way she can not take them!!
This isn't a marriage if she went behind your back to do this. If she wants to leave then she needs to leave and let the kids be. You could sale the home and get a smaller one if things are tough. This isn't about her finding a job it goes deeper. try to get some marriage counseling if you think it will help but, at this point it might not . Go talk to that lawyer TODAY!!
2007-10-08 02:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like your wife is either mentally unstable or is having a midlife crisis. No woman with a stable mind would simply uproot her kids like that and move to new state to start over like that on a whim! How old is she? Has there been any sudden, drastic changes in her life such as death of a parent, etc. that would be upsetting her? My suggestion is to speak to your doctor about it so he/she can rule out hormones or some other chemical imbalance and then make an appointment to see a counselor together. Good luck.
2007-10-08 02:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by meagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into the reason that your wife wants to leave. If everything was good in the marriage she wouldn't bounce. Try a different approach and let her know how much you love her and want the family to stay together.
2007-10-08 02:46:34 · answer #4 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have the whole story about why your wife wants to move. It is really uncommon for a woman responsible for children to just up and move - women tend to like security.
Check cell phone and email records - what is for her in Arizona - family to support her or a boyfriend?
Also - I think you should check out http://www.daveramsey.com - they deal with marriages that are desolving over financial issues - and they can help you. Your wife may feel that everything is going downhill and there is nothing she can do about it ~ talk to her about why she feels she needs to leave and listen to her.
2007-10-08 02:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Professional in FL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See an attorney as soon as possible and get a restraining order to keep her from leaving the state with the kids. she probably would have expected you to pay child support to her while she was in Arizona.
2007-10-08 02:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm...could it be because you have been neglecting her for a long time ---- maybe you are working alot to afford the 1.3 million dollar home.
btw - money means NOTHING to some people..they would rather have love and together time.
2007-10-08 03:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best get to a lawyer and try to get legal custody of the children before she takes off with them.
2007-10-08 02:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying this to be hateful........but what's going on in your marriage that's causing her to leave? Your children do factor into the equation. IF she wants to go then let her go.. you can't stop her. But ask the older kids who they want to stay with.. let the 3 year old go with his mom. He's still to little to live without his mothers influence. And why not sell the house and go with her? That's my best advice.
2007-10-08 02:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Something else missing in your marriage?She sounds unhappy and you sound like you have made your descion and she has made hers.As adults you need to figure out what to do about the kids.
2007-10-08 02:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is very selfish and hasn't considered any ones feelings but her own. Let her go, you and your boys are better off without her.
2007-10-08 02:39:07 · answer #11 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋