What age does a baby get in to a routine naturally?

Question

i was very depressed when i had my daughter and tried to follow a book to get her in to a routine(bad idea).This just got me more depressed to the point i struggled to want to feed he or hold her.She was to weak to stimulate my milk and i ha no support i would have loved to feed her myself and after two losses this year i'm pregnant again and so far so good i would love to breast feed this time so would love to know how long a routine takes to establish ect thanks

Answer 1

Don't try to get your baby into a routine. My boys are 12 and 9 and so far they don't have routines :o).

Sorry, joking aside, there are 4 golden rules to breastfeeding.

1 The clock doesn't have a part to play. Don't schedule feed, feed as often as the baby wants and for as long or as short a time as it wants.

2 Make sure the latching on is OK. Don't let the baby suck on the nipple. The whole of the areola must be in the mouth, with the tongue under the boob. The face should be turned directly towards the boob. To begin with, it may help to place a finger on the breast to keep the nose clear. You would only need to do this for a few weeks until the baby is a little bigger. Purists say it's unnecessary if the positioning is right, but did it both times and I was very successful at breastfeeding. You will get some clues as to whether or not the baby is latched on. You may feel tingling in your breasts or a pulling at your womb. But if not, you should certainly notice that after a short time the baby will start sucking more slowly and strongly rather than vigorously and quickly.

3 Don't give bottles, at least for the first 4 months.

4 Don't become too focussed on the baby's weight. It's quite normal for some weighing sessions to show no change. If the baby is still giving you wet nappies and seems content and is as alert as it should be for its age, then there's nothing to worry about, even if there is a momentary standstill in weight gain. But it's a different matter if it loses weight.

Another point, if possible, try to put the baby on as much as possible in the 24 hours following the birth. But don't get upset if for some reason you can't. Good luck.

Answer 2

Ok, there is no routine for a baby. You get into a routine of recognizing the different cries your baby makes and taking care of it's needs.
Just because you weren't able to breast feed one child, don't lose hope. I had the same thing with my first child, but my second took to the breast really easily. The first week or two will be a little difficult but don't give up and start giving the baby a bottle. You will know by the amount of soiled diapers that your baby is getting enough milk from you. If you bottle feed during the first couple of weeks, then your milk won't come in properly. It is a supply and demand type deal. As the baby starts needing more milk, you body will produce it.
Too many mothers worry about their baby not getting enough with just nursing and although they have good intentions when giving them a bottle of formula, they are really doing more harm than good.
Good luck.

Answer 3

I think each baby is different. Don't worry too much about establishing a routine too soon. Just take time to get to know each other and above all... relax. That will do as much for your milk and the ability to feed your newborn than any routine.

Answer 4

I started doing an evening routine at 3 weeks old. At first I did his bath every night for a few months, but then I found it dried out his skin. From when he was 3-10 weeks old he went to bed at around 9pm. He's get a bath, bottle then bed. Bath started at around 8.15pm. At 10 weeks he started sleeping 12 hour stretches, and I prefer to be up early, so I started putting his routine a little earlier til it was a bedtime of no later than 7.30pm. He doesn't get a bath every night now, when he gets completely changed into fresh vest, babygrow and then gets his bottle he knows it's night time.

Answer 5

My daughter is 9 weeks old and I am exclusively breastfeeding. I'm not going to say it was easy at first; for about 6 weeks she fed pretty much constantly. But in the last 3 weeks she has started to space her feeds out and feed more regularly. She's not completely in a routine yet but we're getting there! My best advice for you is to not look at the clock. Doing this made me really stressed out. But as soon as I stopped and just fed her whenever she wanted, I became much more relaxed and began to enjoy breastfeeding. Sorry for the struggles you've had, and well done for wanting to breastfeed as it is a wonderful thing to do for your baby. I hope everything goes well for you. Hope this helps! xx

Answer 6

age baby routine naturally

Answer 7

Sweetie . . . you sounded like me.
I gave up breast feeding with my first and was so depressed and alone (husband travels). With my second; I took a neighbors advice and put my foot down. Told my husband that he was staying around to help. Told myself I was going to do this and do it good. I found a friend that had great success with nursing and had her support.
Calm down and get to know your baby. The routine will follow. Either she/he will follow your lead or you their lead. Also educate yourself on nursing. Get the books and read.

I am so sorry about your losses - For me, you'll always remember who could have been. Chin up and be stong!

This site was a great help too.

Answer 8

There is no set routine. Your question and explanation leave me a little confused. And a little worried for your children.
Anyway, best thing to do is try and feed your baby every 2-3 hours via breast....if they are crying and seem hungry, you can feed sooner. Only way to establish a routine is to pay close attention to your child.

Answer 9

babies don't have routines - as soon as you think they've got into one, they go and change it! They're growing so fast their demands change every so often. The best you can do is get yourself into a routine as much as possible, but try not to stress too much about it.

Answer 10

talk to your midwife she will be able to give you lots of advice and tips to make it easier.the main tip is to relax because baby's can feel your moods the stressed you are the more stressed your baby will be.breast feeding is not possible for every one i could not breast feed any of my kids.