I am a woman thinking of having a 3some with my husband and another man. What do you think?
2007-10-08 02:20:36 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say, if this is something you both desire to experience, have talked about it thoroughly then go for it. There's nothing gay, unstable, needy, loveless, etc about it. What 2 adults do in their marriage to enhance their sexual activities, their marriage and so on is their business. No one here can knock anything unless they've tried it.
Today, the least person you expect, from the lady at the supermarket to the secretary at your child's school, or even the teacher, or doctor to the cop, your next door neighbor, your very own parents may possibly enjoy or have enjoyed certain activities, like MMF's, FFM's, orgies, swinging, etc, etc. and you don't even have a clue as to their extracurricular activities and possibly you never will. These very same people, have very healthy marriages, relationships. Those who don't, is because they went about their activities the wrong way, with the wrong intentions.
2007-10-08 02:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by AlS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your husband need to have a serious discussion on what is acceptable in your relationship. If you and your husband are ok with bringing another person into the bedroom then do your thing. HOWEVER, there needs to be a lot of prep work done between you and your husband. You need to figure out what is acceptable for both of you....ie: is he ok with this man touching you in certain areas or are you ok with him touching your husband in certain areas. This could be a potentially devastating situation for your marriage and I believe that this needs to be throughly thought out before it happens. Good Luck!
2007-10-08 02:31:44 · answer #2 · answered by ~Evolution's Apex~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its how he may feel. Would you want a 3some with him and another women? Talk to him and see how he feels. And he could say ok but have some bad feelings afterwards.
Good luck.
2007-10-08 02:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think there is nothing wrong with it, its up to each couple.
Contrary to what people here have told you, i do not think you love your husband any less because you want to do this, and it does not mean he doesn't love you if he agrees to it either.
But how would you feel if he then says he wants to try it with you and another girl? how would you feel about that?
If you both willing go for it.
be sure to choose the 3rd person well, think about your confidentiality and health, and think where do you want this to take place, make sure to do your homework first or it may all go wrong.:)
2007-10-08 02:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by well.theres.a.few 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This could go one of two ways:
1) Your husband is into this kind of thing and possibly even into men and/or into seeing his wife with another man and will appreciate this or
2) He claims to be into this and may think he is, but once it comes to fruition will possibly hold it against you, compare himself to the other man for the rest of your marriage and will make this a dynamic of many arguments in your future.
You need to first understand if he's doing this for you or for himself. He may claim both. But think of it in terms of 40%/60%. If he's doing this for you more than for himself, you're opening a can of marital hell. It makes a man physically ill to think of his wife with another man. This could very well ruin your marriage completely and change it's chemistry, all together. Please proceed with caution.
2007-10-08 02:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What the hell are you thinking? Your husband wants YOUR attention. not to see you banging another man. If this is about you, then you need to talk to a therapist (yes, really) If it is about him then you both need to be in counseling(yes really). If it;s just about excitement . . ok what about just you two in the bedroom. Like anal? Him? Toys? Freaky ****? It's all good until you bring someone else into the picture. nobody goes away happy. And your marriage is over. Go have sex in a public place for gods sake. do something new!
2007-10-08 02:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you should have done this before you got married. The chances of one or both of you getting hurt is greatly increased when others are invited into the bedroom. I would advise against it.
2007-10-08 03:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why? Is your husband not fulfilling you, thats the only reason I would want to bring another man in the bedroom. Your husband probably wont like it.
2007-10-08 02:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Doesn't matter what we think. It matters what your husband thinks. Most men aren't into having a 3 some with another man.
I think it's a dumb idea, but it is your life....
2007-10-08 02:24:17 · answer #9 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am sad for you that you have a husband that would think it was hot watching another man touch you.
2007-10-08 02:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋