i have been cheating on my husband some 20 times over the last 4 years. He's a good man but cant please me....what should i do
2007-10-08 02:17:41 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Introduce toys to your bed....or just leave him that way you don't have to use the excuse he doesn't please you.
2007-10-08 02:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many "reasons" to cheat....but no honorable ones. Few people are naturally-born good lovers; but everyone is capable of "learning" to be. The problem here is, you didn't explore that option before going outside of your marriage to find satisfaction elsewhere. If he was just some guy, (or maybe even a boyfriend) you could make a case for moving on on that basis, but this man is your life partner...your husband, which implies a deeper level of commitment, and a bigger requirement to dig deep within you to find solutions to make things work out.Stop betraying your partner. Find a way to bring him up to speed; there is professional help available if you can't do this on your own, but NO good will come of a continued existence of deception. Good luck to you.
2007-10-08 09:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this one question: how would you feel if he cheated on you like that? If you don't like the answer, DON'T CHEAT ON HIM!!! If he doesn't sexually please you, then invest in sex toys and develop a rich, inner fantasy life. If he is such a "good man", don't mess him over like that. Also, ask yourself if you may be developing a sexual addiction; to be cheating that often is usually a sign that something else is wrong, and you need to talk to a professional about it. Good luck and God bless.
2007-10-08 09:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have been sleeping with a woman off and on, that has been married for 10 year its a great relationship for both (just a physical meeting when ever)...if your having fun make the most of it while you can. The husband will be waiting at home once your done to do the lawns...LOL Just dont get caught or pregnant or come home dripping wet and climb into bed with him.
2007-10-08 09:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by rim_master2002 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is a reason its called cheating. Before you went out and betrayed his trust you should have talked to him. Because once you lose the trust its hard to get back.
2007-10-08 09:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Girly1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough. I too did the same thing, but only twice. You should really tell your husband. I hope its only one person you are sleeping with, you wouldnt want to bring anything home. (diseases) I understand its very frustrating not to be satisfied, but you knew he didnt satisfy you before you married him and like me you settled because he is a good guy. You should be strong, me too, and tell our husbands, they might be able to find someone who they will satisfy and we can go find some guy who will probably hurt us in the long run. Tough decision, I dont have the guts! LOL! I think I will stick to what Im doing, Im sure it would hurt him if he knew, but it would hurt him worst if he knew and I left too!
2007-10-08 09:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you discussed your problems with him? Everyone who cheats uses excuses so they won't feel guilty. Ask yourself if you are doing that. I suggest you divorce him so he can be free to find someone who will be faithful to him. He will find out one day. Why not end it now before he does. It would be much kinder to him.
2007-10-08 09:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't please you?...well clearly sleeping around is a favor of yours so didn't you know this before you married him?
And marriage itsn't about having sex and being pleased. Maybe you don't please him?
Maybe instead of cheating on him and acting like a whore then you should tell him how you feel and let him know what you want.
He should divorce you and hopefully he will so he can find someone that actaully loves and cares for him.
2007-10-08 09:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being very selfish and unfair. If you can't control your self, you should file for divorce. It's unfair that he is thinking he is making you happy, when you are getting it else where. Leave and Let him move on.
2007-10-08 10:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your poor husband,, ask him what you should do!! Stop being so selfish and think of the person you are hurting.... I hope there isn't children in this marriage..
2007-10-08 09:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He probably wasnt pleasing you before you got married, so why did you get married. Why do people not take marriage serious anymore?
2007-10-08 09:29:17 · answer #11 · answered by mudslide_23511 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋