I DONT KNOW HOW TO DO. HOW DO I TELL MY BF AND HIS REACTION MIGHT NOT BE INTERESTING. WHAT DO I DO. ADVISE PLEEASE
2007-10-08 00:52:06 · 24 answers · asked by Mercy J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
STOP HAVING SEX!
2007-10-08 04:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by robinandmarty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alrighty, well, I would like to start by saying have safe sex. Aparently you didn't want a baby if you have had four abortions, so you really need to start being more carefull! Protect yourself and your partner and if you can, get on the pill. You need to use a condom even if you trust your boyfriend because you don't want to get pregnant, and you don't know if he has something that he can give to you. Then not only could you get pregnant, you could end up with something like HIV and other STD's. I would think that four abortions is kind of a lot to put your body through also. Maybe you're ment to have a child since you're pregnant again. It is all such a sensitive subject and a very personal decision and it's all yours to make.
I would tell your boyfriend right away. Because the baby is partly him also, not just you. Don't worry if he has a good or bad reaction. If you two talk (would be the best thing since the baby is there because of the two of you) you can figure out a plan together. I don't know, his reaction may surprise you. Everything will work out, just tell him so you guys can talk together and figure this out. AND BE MORE CAREFULL...my goodness!
2007-10-08 08:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by sweeet_p_8_2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Amanda K is absolutely wrong about this, it is a doctor-proven fact that abortions have absolutely NO effect on future conceptions, the best thing to do is possibly get a morning after pill, or even take the "abortion pill." It is generally cheaper than the surgical process, however it has many more risks.
Otherwise, nothing much you can do besides have the baby, so talking to your boyfriend about it will come sooner or later. Recommendation: Start having protection (ie condoms, birth control pills, NuvaRing, etc.)
2007-10-08 07:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by leeloo ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortions are not meant to be a form of birth control. Your boyfriend might be shocked or upset, but it takes 2 people to make a baby and he was 1 of them. Tell him. If you want to continue with the pregnancy then good luck to you and start seeking appropriate prenatal care for you and the baby. At the very least, you need to take vitamins and be seen by a doctor. I will not pretend to know how previous abortions affect a pregnancy, but your doctor will be able to tell you if there are any increased risks. If you decide to get another abortion, you know what you need to do...but please get on birth control afterwards.
2007-10-08 08:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by patty0317 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont take this the wrong way but I think you need serious help. Most people learn their lesson having an abortion once let alone 4 times. Speak to your doctor and get referred to a counsellour for help. I do not want to judge you but the more you have abortions the more you are putting your future at risk when you do want children. Once you have got this situsation sorted please get some reliable contraception and dont allow it to happen again.
2007-10-08 08:25:04 · answer #5 · answered by emma157 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off; Abortion is NOT a form of birth control!!! Second, Do you want the baby with or w/out the bf? and third, how old are you? Those are the questions you need to answer first, then you have to live with your decisions,no matter what. It's your life, ultimately. What do you WANT? But please keep in mind you could cause yourself to damage your reproductive organs, and not be able to have another.. Just one of the possibilities to consider.
2007-10-08 08:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by redszone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I only have a few pieces of advices for you, but first, I have a question for you, to whom are you pregnant, your bf or from another guy?
If your pregnant from another guy, well, expect that your bf will really really be mad at you to a point that he might dump you. Well, that's your fault.
Now, if your pregnant because of your bf, there might be two effects:
1.) Your bf will dump you.
2.) Your bf will stand for you, since it's both of your fault.
I only have two advices for you:
1.) SAY IT! Don't wait for your bf to find out.
2.) Abortion for the 5th time might be dangerous to your health.
2007-10-08 08:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Cairo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should research local clinics who will sterilize you for free? I don't mean permanently, but many offer free IUD or the like.
As for your current situation, you need to tell the father. It's your body, but it's his child too, and he also has rights in this situation. He may not be ready for children; but if you have an abortion of his potential child without telling him, you're very likely to lose him and any trust he has in you.
2007-10-08 08:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Oxford Comma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should have used protection? Not much else to say but either get another abortion, or keep the baby or adopt it out. You have to tell your bf but I don't know him and you do, so you will need to judge the best way. You are a silly girl!!
2007-10-08 07:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
u gone through 4 times of abortion before, yet you still don't know how to do a proper contraceptive, oh my god, no one can do it for you, you have to be alert when you didn't prepare to be a mother, is it so hard just to take pill, if you do it early, you wont have to kill your own baby, is a life ok, your baby is not a toy, you can't just dump it when you don't want them, don't you have a heart, i am so angry with what you did, i know is not my monkey business, but what you did was so unresposible and inhuman, i don't know what to say to you, my only advice is, pls stop doing this again, when i imagine those baby was tears inside, it tears my heart too.
2007-10-08 08:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by moonrider 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about having the baby for once. There are many people who would love to have a child. So give at least one of your 5 a chance.
2007-10-08 08:01:49 · answer #11 · answered by suzie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋