I tell ya, I'm about baby sexed out. I have been TTC for 18 months, this is my first month on clomid, and I'm tired of having sex for what seems like a lost cause. I feel like all me and my husband do is have sex to get pregnant. It' getting to the point where I'm just like, hurry up, get in and get out. Ok, so I don't SAY that to him, but that's what I'm thinking. Does anybody else feel this way? And does anybody have these stupid clomid cramps right now? I am about tired of them as well. Give me some encouragement girls. What gives?
2007-10-07 23:15:51 · 11 answers · asked by Jenny B 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Im telling you, that is the same way I feel at the moment!! It is as if the days which are NOT fertile I just want to ignore him - go away and come back when im fertile - i am not in the mood!!! LOL! Im sorry! I think we just put soooo much pressure on ourselves that when ovulation is over we just want to relax...
I think now that you are on Clomid you might see an improvement. The cramps are most probably from Ovulation because you never used to ovulate and now on Clomid you are and you are also feeling it! I wish you all the best and hope it happens soon! xxx
2007-10-07 23:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by girlygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you are saying. My Husband and I have been trying for 15 months now. I was on Clomid and recentally I had laproscopy to clean out some things.
Sex can really suck when you are TTC and not getting pregnant, it totally is a chore, it isn't fun anymore and I totally agree I feel the same way like "enough already."
My Husband and I went on a vacation because I was so stressed out and needed to relax. When we were away and in a different element things became fun again. Try going away, Dating him again by going out to eat, the whole shabam.
Making love should be just that, hang in there and don't give up. Pray for God to give you the strength to make it through it all.
Good Luck!!
2007-10-08 07:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Andrea T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I can't tell you anything about the clomid cramps, cause not taking it, but I am with you on the in and out situation. We have been trying to conceive for less time than you but I can assure you that we are also all sexed out. About two weeks ago we decided to just not doing it anymore. To stop trying and go back to having just plain old fashioned sex. No more charting dates, checking when ovulating, taking temperatures etc and so far it is working. It is not easy NOT thinking about conceiving but with a bit of effort and keeping busy helps alot.
I suggest you giving it a go.
Enjoy the time you spend with your husband and I am sure that it will happen without you stressing about it.
Good luck
2007-10-08 00:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by hairspray 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK. Here goes...
STOP having baby sex! Sex is still sex! OK, you might have to alter your sex life in some ways. For example, get your husband to orgasm is the missionary position or from behind, but thats it.
Get some nice wine in. Play soft music. Dull the slight. Passionatly kiss. Make the sex spontaneous. Lead to to the bedroom upstairs (hell you may live in a bunglow!)
Have passionate sex like you used to. Forget about the baby making. Be intimate. Tests have shown tht when a woman is 'horny' she has a better chance of conceiving.
I've been TTC for 10 months now, but my sex is still passionate. We still have fun and make love, and I don't say 'hey buddy, jump on top now if ya gonna ***!', I get to know my partners movements and sounds, and when I think he is going to ejaculate, I turn over and let him enter me from behind.
Yeah, its a little different. But its up to you to put that spark back into your sex life.
I know you have probably tried all these but a few quick tips for TTC:
Drink a cup of warm green tea a day
Take 1 folic acid capsule per day
Don't drink tea or coffee
Keep a pillow under your hips after sex to allow sperm to soak in
Try pre seed - a lubricant proven to help conception
BBT
OPK
Get on www.twoweekwait.com and read through other peoples symptoms and things, it gave me some encouragment.
Get away for the weekend together. It will do you the world of good. Enjoy each other, don't use each other as a piece of meat for conception!
If sex is like you described, the chances are you WONT concieve. It also help sif you orgasm together.
Get a sexy nurses outfit, sexy underwear, have fun, spend time together. Even a bath together with candles will do you the world of good.
Good luck and get sexed up!
2007-10-08 01:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_steph27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hated clomid because the side effects are ovarian cysts which i got when i was on clomid and they were very painful(you may want to get checked if you get cramping bloating and painful swollen ovaries) also it made me very ill to where i couldn't eat anything and i gained about 20lbs...not sure how with all the vomitting. none of these things can be good for someone who would shortly be trying to sustain a baby. also it caused my eyesight to deteriorate slightly to blurred vision and so far they have not returned to there 20/20 state, i've been off it for 7 monthes. the sad part is i was only on it for three monthes. i was tired of the baby sex to so i just ave kind of given up and if it happens it happens but it's hard to stop thinking about it. good luck and God bless!
2007-10-07 23:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by britbutt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby about the problem & maybe think of some ways to make it more interesting.Sometimes "baby making" sex gets boring because thats what you're thinking try to stay positive & maybe spice things up a bit or put some time into making it romantic (if he's into it!) Good luck ttc & baby dust to you both
2007-10-07 23:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by tigerlily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I've been fortunate to really separate sex and TTC in the bedroom lol I know when my best fertile days are, but I don't force myself to have sex just to procreate. I have sex because I want my hubby haha
Just try to go with the flow and only do it when you're really in the mood - you might find that it works for you!
Of course, I've been trying for almost 2 years and it hasn't done me any good lol
Baby dust to you, me, and all the TTCers!
2007-10-08 01:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no how you feel, this baby making thing is frustrating me, having sex with my fiance is the best thing but trying to make a baby is getting very confusing.
But I love my man dearly and I enjoy every night when we have sex
2007-10-08 01:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of 2 w/ PCOS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to put some fun and spontaneity back into your love life ( I say love life, not sex life). Devote some time to making each other feel good and reconnecting. Good luck
2007-10-08 01:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by scatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest to your husband, just tell him that you want to do it naturally, and dont want to just keep having sex for the sake of it. You will most probably want to conceive a child from loveable sex
2007-10-07 23:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋