she begged us to moved in with her bec. she was hospitalized but now it's been 4 years and she changes alot from nice to very mean in law...i agreed to move with her for i thought we will be moving out once she gets better!!!!don't know what to think...and do???he is being manipulated by "momma!"
2007-10-07 20:53:28 · 17 answers · asked by honeybabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is putting him on a guilt trip, just tell him that he is being used and you re sick of it.
He has to choose between living with you and living with mommy.
2007-10-07 21:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend in the exact same situation and she is miserable. She really loves her husband, but can't stand her mother in law telling her what to do, how to raise her kids, not cleaning up after herself. My friend is at the point where she says she is moving out and if her husband comes, great, if not, she is leaving any ways. YOU have to take action here, he has the best of both worlds, mommy and you. You have to either learn to deal with it or tell him you can't and leave. If he really loves you, he will join you. (nothing will happen if you don't make it happen) Good luck!
2007-10-08 04:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by meljoy444 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am sure it is hard for your husband to "leave" his mom behind. Obviously she doesn't have anyone there with her. But it's not your responsibility to LIVE there and take care of her. If she really needs help you can get a caretaker that is provided by the government (if she qualifies) and they can go daily or even live there. I doubt your husband wants you to leave him so you need to show him that there is a way for you two to still have your marriage and have his mom taken care of!! Good luck!!!
2007-10-08 04:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Let me say history repeats, i think you understood once you become old if your children treats you in the same manner, i hope you will realize how important to be with your own people who guide us, may be due to ego or other things they will try to put pressure on us to do the things as per their wish. Please don't take hasty decisions, love your mother-in-law and do service to her, I hope you feel more satisfaction in the coming future. I pray god to give more strength to you in building lovable relationship with your people.
2007-10-12 03:54:55 · answer #4 · answered by sriram_rahi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is to take him out of the house to somewhere you can talk without being interrupted by momma.
Tell him how you feel and what you want. Be specific and be blunt. Guys tend not to get subtle hints and he will be spending time trying to figure out what you want instead of listening to you.
If he is unwilling to listen to his wife and chooses his mother over her, then it is time to pack your things and move out. You need a husband and not a mommas boy.
2007-10-08 03:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
When a couple married, the man leaves his mother, and the woman leaves her home, and the two become man and wife, one union and live their life together. Note that the man leaves his mother in favor of his bride.... and future family.
If you have the means, go apartment hunting and move.
2007-10-08 04:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell him that it is time to move. Find a place and tell him he can either go with you or stay there. Then move. Good luck.
2007-10-08 04:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go out and rent a house on your own and then tell him about it and invite him to move in.
2007-10-08 03:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, he's being manipulated. And you should put your foot down and leave him. Once a mammy's boy, always a mammy's boy.
2007-10-08 04:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him choose between you and his momma. And hey, he got be away from his parents, he's married already.
2007-10-08 03:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Sir Raulo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋