I have been married for 9 years and been with my husband for 12 years. 4 years ago, I found out that the lady that my husband made go see and became friends: we went out, wash clothes together, etc. And come to find out this woman was carrying my husband's child. He didn't tell me until the child was at least 6 weeks old. I let this woman move into my house for a week because she got evicted from her apartment AND her husband wasn't around. My husband has taken food out our house to give to this woman, brought a lot stuff to make her life easy and etc. I don't have sex with him anymore and I do not have the same feelings for him anymore either. I have feelings for another man and I hated him at first but he is growing on me now. I am confuse and I don't know what to do or how to handle my feelings for this man. Or if I should give him a chance to see if he would treat me better than my husband. He did tell me the other day that he hasn't seen his girlfriend in months. What? HELP ME!!!
2007-10-07 19:45:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are u serious? If ur husband can treat u like s*** (sorry to put it in those terms) he does'nt deserve u to give him a cup of water!! let alone give yourself to him. How can he go next door have sex with this other (girl) cause i wont call her a women ,cause women dont act like B****,then return to u like nothing,i say leave this worthless ***,and go out with this other man,enjoy yourself no strings i've been there and still trust that there is still a few good men out there!! wish u the best ,oh and as for the B**** what goes around always comes around,she'll have her day.
2007-10-07 20:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by lost love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a boyfriend is fine, except for one detail. You ARE married. OK, your husband isn't a great guy. That is immaterial. As long as you are married, don't have any boyfriends. So, IF you want a boyfriend, file for divorce. THEN have any kind of relationship with anybody you wish, as long as the guy is single. One last thing- why would you continue seeing a guy that you say you first hated? How the heck did it go from hate to growing on you?
2007-10-08 04:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first you have to solve what you want from your marriage, do you want to do what your husband did by looking for a boyfriend when you are married?, no, that is to decrease to your husband level, no.
Whenever you know what you want from your marriage, you will be able to do what is next.
If you hated a man and now you... what??? forget about having your revenge you are the one that is gonna be more hurt after. Heartbroken and used no.
the competition of who treats you better was over when you choose to marry your husband, so let the childish behavior to him not imitate him.
what it should matter for you is how you treat yourself, not another man, respect yourself and try to be happy, choose for what it matters not for a question of the night..
2007-10-07 20:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by Dragonheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you are even asking that question. After all of that deceit, how can you even consider staying with your husband regardless of whether you have someone else or not? File for divorce and take everything that sob owns if you can. Make him pay!!!
2007-10-07 19:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you deserve better than both of these guys. U should go do your thing for a while, dont look back and live your life. Be happy...
2007-10-07 20:03:32 · answer #5 · answered by Jeff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your husband and find happiness on your own.
2007-10-07 19:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you live in a polygamous society, please, for your sanity, get a divorce. Then, after you're all sorted, start dating again. I think you're too emotional right now to be hanging onto another guy.
2007-10-07 20:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Linni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should get a clean break from ALL of it. Why deal with unnecessary drama if you do not have to?
2007-10-07 19:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Kimchi♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋