Sellfish people shoot out negative vibes. I sometimes feel I am losing my confidence/composure in the presence of an selfish person. Sometimes we cannot avoid them as we have committed a deal/ some work with them. I felt I made a mistake by entering into a business deal with him.
Did any of you experience the same ?
2007-10-07 19:41:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, it is very tiring. I think the reason is that when we're faced with someone like that, life becomes like a chess game. We always have to think about how they might use what we say or do, against us later. We have to think about what their next move will be, how they will attack us, whether it is better to get on their good side or try to solve the problem or just ignore them. That's hard work, isn't it? You can't just be carefree when you have to think so much, and spend your time making sure that they can't stab you in the back. On the one hand it makes you feel bad to be defensive all the time, but on the other hand not paying attention to what they do can really hurt you if they are out to make your life hard.
Personally I have met quite a lot of these people, and I try to avoid them if I can. Since you have a business deal with him, I would suggest that you just behave professionally, do what is legally/professionally required from you, and leave it behind when you leave the office. There's no requirement to be friends with him, and if you only choose to work with people you like, most likely you will have difficulty making any money.
We can try to avoid them and minimise it when we can, but some times we just have to play with the cards we're dealt, you know?
2007-10-07 22:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by The Camel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, all negative people drain energy from people around them. Whether, selfish, mean, obnoxious, or just pain negative they all tend to drain any positive energy out of the room. I guess the key is not letting them get to you by not focusing on their actions. I try not to let them get to me by not thinking about them at all if I can help it. I know it's hard but hang in their.
2007-10-07 19:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by serenity2124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a friend who does that to me. She's so selfish and mean sometimes and I'm ashamed to say that as a usually very strong willed and independent person, she just drains it all out of me and I can't seem to break off our friendship.
My mom calls these people Emotional Vampires.
2007-10-07 20:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 10:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes yes! I call these people human vampires. They suck our life force. I am exhausted and drained after spending time with such people. I do my best to avoid these people.
When I cannot do anything to stop associating with them, I do my best to stay centered and relaxed. It helps. When I leave them, I usually sleep a bit to recharge my battery.
2007-10-07 23:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i still do., actually i'm surrounded with them, my father & brother.
it drains to know you witness their motives for the good of our finances and not care at all for those who where actually hoping.
2007-10-07 19:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by jace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens if they are energy vampires.
http://www.search.com/search?q=energy+vampire
http://www.ask.com/web?q=energy+vampire&search=search&qsrc=0&o=0&l=dir
2007-10-08 00:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by d_r_siva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, true.
2007-10-07 19:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋