sleeping with baby in bed?

Question

a lot of breastfeeding mothers are telling me that its easier to sleep with the baby in our bed that way i dont have to wake up all the way when she's hungry and i can sleep while she's nursing. how many of you did this? me and my husband talked about it and are both terrified that we'll squash her. i've heard stories of mothers falling asleep with their babies rolling over on them and smothering them. whats your opinion on this?

Answer 1

With my daughter I had her in bed w/me but b/c I was afraid I would smother her I put her in a laundry basket. Got a wide basket and put a pillow in the bottom and then put a blanket over the pillow like a sheet and she did great in it. I had a C-section so i usually slept propped up a bit so when feeding I didn't worry about rolling over plus couldn't move too much w/out pain to begin with. I would atleast get a sleeper to put the baby in if you do put the baby in bed.

Answer 2

I did it with both of my kids, and just finished about a month ago when my daughter turned 9 months old. Everyone is different, but even though I slept, I was always aware that she was there. I worried about it all the time, and I think that's what kept me so aware. I know the advice I'm giving you is bad and sooo not recommended, but you do get more sleep when the baby is in bed with you.

One thing I made sure of all the time, however: I never took any medicine that would make me drowsy, and I sometimes had a glass of wine with dinner, but never more than that. I didn't want anything in my body that would make me extra sleepy and less aware of her being next to me.

Also, I took off our large puffy blankets, or made sure they were pulled down really low.

Answer 3

I felt just like you so what I did was buy a bassinet with wheels and had it right next to my bedside, this made it easy to get the baby without even getting out of bed! it was great to have especially at night! when I was done nursing I would return the baby to the bassinet right next to my bed. I agree it could be dangerous if you are a heavy sleeper and may also not allow you to fully go to sleep with that worry on your mind.

Answer 4

I would not do it. I admit I have fallen asleep nursing mine a few times & woke up w/a scared feeling. (they would be asleep in the basinet & I would put them in the bed to nurse) You really can smother them. Thats why they say no blankets other than a small thin receiving blanket in the crib. If a thick baby blanket can smother them, I know a huge comforter & a 130 lb mom or a 200 lb dad can!

Answer 5

Me and my husband slept with our son and still do. I'm not sure if the stories are true that you have heard, cus mothers intuition is pretty strong, you will definitely know that your baby is there. But if you have any alcohol or drugs AT ALL in your system, then never ever sleep with your baby in your bed. But yes it was WAY easier to breastfeed him all you gotta do is roll over and then you can go back to sleep while the baby is eating. thats what i did

Answer 6

I've done it twice and both my babies are great..but i'm also a light sleeper. I wouldn't do it if you are a heavy sleeper and think that you might roll over on her. Then there is also the fact that now my daughter wants to be nursed to sleep all the time lol but every family and baby is different. You have to do what's good for you and yours.

Answer 7

Keep a bassinet or crib in your room until the numbers of the feedings die down. Some of my fellow mother friends are still trying to kick their now 5 year olds out of bed because of letting them sleep with them for convenience. One of them gave me brilliant advice when I became prego with my first child. She told me that as the kids get older it becomes more and more important to have your own haven in the house that the children cannot go into so you can have quiet time or calm down. What is convenient in the beginning might not be so convenient later on. I kept my daughter in our room in the cradle until she was sleeping through the night at four months and then put her in her own room. Although she occasionally snuggles in our bed now at nine months, she prefers to sleep in her crib with her toys. She is very happy in her room and seems to know already that is her haven and that mommy and daddy have theirs. If you do want to co sleep look up "co sleeping methods" and ask your pediatrician for pamphlets, there are safe ways to sleep without squashing your baby. However, I found that my husband and I did not really sleep when our daughter was in the bed, we were too scared. The cradle in our room was convenient and let us sleep soundly.

Answer 8

I had my babys crib right beside our bed, this way i just had to sit up and grab her to lay her in bed so i could feed. Its not only about the possibility of smothering your baby, but you really dont want your baby getting use to being in bed with you and your patner,coz once ther in there its hard to get them out.

Answer 9

It's better in the long run, to have a crib or bassinet next to the bed.

My wife preferred to have our girls in the crib by us, but she didn't want them in the bed sleeping with us. She was concerned about rolling on the babies and also starting a dependency of sleeping with us.

She didn't want the girls expecting to sleep with us all the time. She thought that later on trying to get them to sleep on their own would be tougher, if they always slept with us.

Answer 10

Nope, no cosleeping. of direction there is an occasional time while you're breastfeeding which you will doze off with the child on the mattress - yet i would not plan on doing it. Have the bassinet top beside your factor of the mattress. purely enable husband understand that the relationship you 2 have needs to be stored particular and delightful, and you want in uncomplicated terms the two one among you in mattress at the same time. you would be the two frazzled adequate with the recent one, that your mattress needs to be your retreat. stable luck to you!