Why do husbands never cherish with what they have?

Question

My good friend is tall, slim and very good looking. She is a working mother, has kids and people have remarked that she doesn’t look married. She doesn’t even look her age. She gets admiring looks from other men, even women gives her stares.
She is a very good cook, whips us dishes for her family. She coaches her kids on their studies and is always there for them. She makes a lot of effort for her husband, ensures she looks good for him, and satisfies him sexually, being a moral support to him when he has problems. She is very protective of her husband and kids. She is kind, humble and prays everyday. She is very understanding and she doesn’t nag at her husband like many wives do. Is she too good to be true as I know many men wish they had a wife like her.
But yet, her husband was running after a married colleague who is so butt ugly that one would really puke if you had ever seen her face. Believe me, I have seen it.

Why is the wife not good enough for him? What did she lack?

No, it is not me. I am still ravishing single. I am writing on behalf of a very good friend.

Archerdude: Sorry to hear that you had a bad experience. I have known my friend for many years. I have never see someone with such a kind soul and she cares too much. I always tell her to change her ways. But I know for a fact she will never change cos of her nature. She is real and I feel sad for her coz I don't think she deserves this.

Answer 1

I have no idea. If I had a wife like the one you've described, I'd never leave the house! And, I'd probably sit up with a shotgun at nights to make sure nobody stole her from me...

Answer 2

I honestly do not know. This sounds like my life, I am most of the things you said, but I do not take a lot of pride in my looks, and do not pray each day. I am not butt ugly but I am not gorgeous either. My hubby cheated on me with someone really unattractive also, and I think it hurts worse, because he could have done better. There are many reasons a man will stray and physical beauty doesn't have to be one of them. I know that he wishes he wouldn't have done it and he does cherish me now, maybe it takes some men the reality of losing all that you described to realize what they already have and will more than likely lose.
And for the record the wife lacks nothing, if all you say is true, but sometimes what happens behind closed doors stays there.

Answer 3

You paint a wonderful picture of the perfect wife.... But how do you know what really goes on when they close the bedroom door, or when nobody else is there to witness what happens? She tells you, I suppose...

Well, I was once involved with a woman who claimed to be all that you have described: The Perfect Wife who was ignored by her husband - and I fell for it. I found out, all too soon, that she was NOT the perfect wife at all, but a nagging, back-biting, lazy dog-of-the-female-gender who just wanted what she wanted. Yeah, she was all lovey-dovey in public, or whenever she thought someone was looking, but when she knew others were NOT looking she changed into the Bride of Frankenstein....

I'm not say that this is what your "friend" is doing, just that it does happen. It ain't ALWAYS the husband's fault. Sometimes he really does have a reason to "stray".

Oh, and what is "ugly" to one person is the epitome of Beauty to another. I, for instance, want to puke whenever I see a woman who looks like "Barbie".

Answer 4

Trust me it's not her. My husband is doing the same thing...messing around with a butt ugly woman. I think it's because she is humble and slutter than the wife. You she knows better tricks. Because married who has these type of woman will not leave the wife for her but will have sex with her anytime, anywhere and anyplace necessary. Wives are too busy working, cleaning, cooking and taking care of the kids to actually be able to do the tricks that the butt ugly woman can do. Mostly these women do not work, if they have children they do not have all of them, and their husband is a wimp. I don't understand it either but it happens all the time now.

Answer 5

It is never possible to comment without knowing the complete details of a couple's life. Often things are not what they seem to an outsider. Many men can say the same about their lives and wives, whether it is true or not.

I am sorry that you find yourself in such a situation. It is yourself that your are speaking about, isn't that so?

Answer 6

Wife never lacks any thing. Its the discontentment of hubbies that they are never sastisfied with the possession they have. They often run after the things they do not own and they put fruitless efforts.

Answer 7

Is she real? sure isn´t android or humanoid?
Well that man is a complete idiot!...I wish my husband has a woman like that,,,oooops no I mean....I could not be ever all that good!..
She is simply too much for a guy like that, he´s going to lose her sooner or later when she as smart as she is, realizes that a moron has been sleeping in her bed...

Answer 8

There are many temptations. Some women throw themselves at men whether they are married or not. So seriously, there are many women who are like your fren but then, there are also women who are merely sluts. Well ,men being men cannot resist temptations. Some are simply not strong inside. Sad, is it?

Answer 9

She doesn't "lack" anything. If he cheats, that's a problem within HIM. Look at Christie Brinkley, her husband cheated and she's a supermodel! I don't think anyone really knows why, but its DEFINITELY NOT the woman's fault!!!

Answer 10

Im going to tell you the same thing my husband taught me and that I teach my daughter. A man who does not love God...can never truly love you.

My husband used to be a complete wh*re. His spirit was so compromised that he drew unclean spirits merely by looking at them. Women flocked to him. He knew the Word...but he didnt love God enough to be right for Him. So how could he possibly love me as Christ loves the church?

It has been in the last year and a half, that my husband has been learning...learning....to surrender himself to God and in so doing, love me right. So long as a man holds onto 'himself' he cant wrap his arms around his wife.

What she is doing is the right thing...being a godly wife. What I would encourage her to pray is that her husband would grow to have a love for God, that exceeds his love for her. A love for the things of God that gives him a thirst that is unquenchable. A heart that longs to please God so much, that he dies to his own desires...

I touch and agree with her and every wife going through this specific storm, that we might have husbands with hearts like David, passion like Paul, and sacrificed spirits like Stephen. In Jesus matchless name..let us continue to pray...amen.