I hate my husband!!!!!! HELP !!!!!!!?

Question

I married for what god only knows. I feel I did a mistake. I am a nice person atleast I think. My husband says he loves me, he is so cold in everything. when we talk, he does not know what else to talk, looking at that I feel sad and then I also say, 'ok then..' Sometimes he does funny things, that time I could just feel he is a friend . We fight a lot, if I say something out of anger, he will revert back as a threaten. But he says he loves me..I feel he wonders if I love. What shd I do? I need a change, its just 2 months of marriage and I am like this. What shd I do?????

Answer 1

Wow. I honestly cannot even imagine what you are going through, I'm very close to my husband. But our first year together was by far the hardest so far, because we were still getting the hang of 'two becoming one.' It's difficult to merge yourself with another person! If you married him, you must have seen something in him. If he is threatening you, then get out and get help. But if you are just frustrated, give him a chance. Tell him you're frustrated and why, and if the two of you together both think it's best to go your separate ways, then I guess do that. But don't take marriage lightly, the vows are' till death do us part,' NOT 'till inconvenience do us part.'

Answer 2

Is he abusive? If not, wait it out a little. 2 months is a very short period of time. The 1st year is always the hardest. Do you really hate him, or do you just feel unfortable in the marriage? If he is abusive - physically or verberlly - get out of the relationship! But if you both are just unsure about the marriage, give it more than 2 months. Go to a marriage counselor and give it a real shot. You married him for a reason. Try to remember what that was. Try to see the good in him. You will regret it if you don't give your marriage a real chance.

Answer 3

If you are having this much of a problem now, after two months of marriage, you have a big problem. Even so, it's not all hopeless, if you will do one thing: get professional counseling. It's critical. It's also important to chose the right counselor. I wish I could say that all licensed professionals are good; but they are not. Generally speaking, a LCSW (Licensed clinical social worker) is very well trained, particularly in marriage and family counseling.

Also, your use of English appears limited. If you are foreign born, and your husband is American, that could play a part. Often, when women from overseas marry American men, there are problems.

I do hope you consider what I suggest.

Answer 4

Don't Give Up It's Only 2 Months Right, Talk To Him In A Nice Way, Give Your Husband A Second Chance

Answer 5

first thing you do is get counselling together. You have to TRY to make it work. You made a commitment. Also it's only the first year. The first year is the hardest. You loved him 2 months ago, if it changes in 2 months, thats nothing. Give it time. You made a promise for better or for worse, so don't give up yet. Counselling, time and patience. Also communication and love. If none of that works, than you have the go-ahead to request a separation, but first try all you can.

Answer 6

two months of marriage and you alrready wonder why you got married? Wow. At least my ex and I lasted seven years...

If you never knew exactly why you were getting married, even before the ceremony, then you should never have gotten married at all. End it, now. Find out if the marriage can be anulled. Chances are, you will have to divorce, though.

I know from experience that staying ion any relationship just because you "love" him/her is not a good idea. You have to be able to communicate, and you do not seem to have this all-important capability.

Answer 7

Get out of the situation before you end up bringing children into the marriage. That would be worse. Just tell him that you made a mistake by marrying him, and that you are miserable. If you are afraid of him, just leave when he is not there, and do not let him know where you went.

Answer 8

Wow. I have been married for 9 years and my husband has cheated on me, has a baby by this woman and will not leave her alone. I stayed with him because people make mistakes and when we got married we expected ALOT from each other. But, didn't live up to this "ideal mate" that we have envision. But, my point is after you have done all you can do, worked out all your problems and you still hate this man it's best to get out the situation as soon as possible. It will not get any better. You will grow to hate him more and more each day til you get like me that your skin actually burns when he touches you, stop having sex with him and you don't get upset or start an argument because you don't want your hatred to the best of you. Trust no man is worth going to jail over. But, also only you can make the decision to leave or work it out with your husband. Word of advice: low your expectation of him and you might begin to like him again or actually love him again.

Answer 9

It will take time to understand. He is in love. thats true, but he is in love & sex. After some time his lust became a controllable he will show his true love. U can safely feel him as a friend. If u feel he is a friend that will rearly solve many problem. Don't try to be possive right now. Let age gives u possesiveness. I Think u have brought up by religious family, u should obey husband...like that. No need for that. just pretend to be friend to him, & please wait. Sometimes guys need time, & will be good to u in long run.

Answer 10

sounds familiar. my marriage only lasted one month but our live in together was 2 years before that. and he was the same way the whole time. I too do not know why i said i do knowing how cold he was. anyways, what worked for us is i left his azz and seperated for about a year and we still saw each other but the minute he was not meeting my needs or being cold, i went home or cut the date short. this time also gave me time to see what i needed to work on for myself. needless to say, we both needed to deal with some issues of our past and it certainly was an eye opener for him. he realized how much he :"loved" me and began to want to work on not being so cold. it is a long journey but it is all worth it because you only get one life and why be stuck in it. ya know. good luck.