2007-10-07 19:04:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok heres the deal people...I live in Australia and have been living with a married man AND have an 11 year old daughter with him. We have lived together for 15 years and neither of us broke up the others marriage. We were both seperated from our spouses for a long time before we met and got together. I divorced my ex mainly because he wanted to remarry. None of our friends or family look down their nose at us or think it odd he has not divorced. Maybe we Aussies are not quite as anal as other nationalities about this. Even if my man did divorce I have no intention of marrying him. Why fix what ain't broke! Our daughter legally has his name and I am on good terms with his wife.
2007-10-07 19:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by gloria b 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, but it depends on what kind of man he is. I think the possibility is low. From what little you have said, he doesn't seem to take the idea of marriage very seriously. He is presently legally married to another woman, but he is living with you. (She has some claim to their joint assets, may want to demand spousal support, and if they have kids, he could owe child support.)
If he had any common sense, he should have divorced his first wife, then figured out what he wanted to do with his life, such as hooking up with you. I don't know what he has said to you (whether he legally separated, or the divorce is in progress between their lawyers, or what), so it's not clear what he has 'promised' or is leading you to believe. If he is non-committal or has said some things but not followed through (such as he will file paper work 'soon') then I think he is leading you on.
That you two already have a baby doesn't mean that he will marry you. If I were you, I would contact a lawyer and make sure that your BF has established paternity for your child. Then give your BF an ultimatum - 1 week to find a lawyer and file for divorce, and get it done fast.
His 'good word' is not backed up by the way he has acted or is living his life.
2007-10-08 02:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Tom-SJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why hasn't he divorced his current wife?? Does he say he wants to marry you? If he is dragging his feet on the divorce, I'd say there isn't a good chance that he will actually marry you.
Chances are, the relationship will not last. If he cheated on her, why would you think that he won't cheat on you. What kind of man would cheat on his wife and go live with another woman?
I wish you the best. You are in a bad situation. Try to get some respect for yourself and do what is best for you and your baby.
2007-10-08 02:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living with a married man, and you have a baby. Congratulations, you are in the running for "Loser of The year".
Number One: You are NOT eligible for any kind of benefits through HIS employer. Number Two: Even though he is going to have to pay support for the child, he is NOT required to support you, since he is NOT married to you.
And Number Three: He is MARRIED and cheating on his wife. How do you know he isn't also cheating on you? It doesn't matter whether they are "separated" or not - he is still MARRIED, and not to you!
2007-10-08 02:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by archerdude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you live in a country that allows polygamy, he needs to get divorced first. It doesn't matter how many kids both of you have, if you get married before he gets divorced, it won't be valid.
But, seriously, if he hasn't divorced by now he may never do it. I mean, just about the worst thing that could happen in a marriage, happened...and still he remains married?
2007-10-08 02:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by amrf-4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he already is married. If you have to ask the answer is probably no. I mean you have a baby together. If he hasn't left his wife why would he now. You are wasting your time, you could be with someone who really loves you, not have to share a man.
2007-10-08 02:15:44 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where is his wife if he's married? Does she know you're living with him? Is she living with the 2 of you? Or are they separated or going through a divorce? If they're going through a divorce, after it's finalized it's possible that you could maybe get married someday, but otherwise, i don't know what to tell you...
2007-10-08 02:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating on his wife, why on earth would you marry him?! There's nothing stopping him from cheating on YOU! Don't ever get involved with married men. Ever. They are taboo, forbidden, off-limits, etc. And don't think that because he's with you now, that means he won't pull the same crap on you as he did his wife. Send the loser back to his own woman, and find a man who's willing to commit to you and only you.
2007-10-08 02:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Tigerlily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is always the probability,,,Depends on how truly is his love and commitment. But he´s with this previous engagement and until isn´t over he´s not a man with a word you can fully trust...He has something he hasn´t finished.
Good luck...
2007-10-08 02:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he hasnt got divorced by now he wont from her till she divorces him and living with a married man and having a child wasnt to smart . why didnt he leave her . or did she get tired of his bullshit get a life seem.s his wife did the answer to your question is. no he wont marry you he find another one who keep his sorry ***. my honest opion?
2007-10-08 02:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋