ok so ive had sex 3 times now within the past 3 weeks.
one of the times loosing my virginty.
each time at the beging it hurts.
but it kinda feels good.
but its not like an orgasm or anything.
so idk.. is this normal??
*we are using a condom
*i do love my boyfriend
so dont give me **** for that
2007-10-07 18:42:17 · 26 answers · asked by Brenna C 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Unfortunately, it's more normal than you'd think. Many women who have been having sex for years have never achieved orgasm. I wouldn't panic though. You're young and have just started. You have to find what you like. Explore your own body and figure out what pleases you, then communicate that to your boyfriend. You'll get there.
2007-10-07 18:46:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't say how old you are, and that can, but usually doesn't make a difference. You might want to use a lubricant if you feel dry. You could be experiencing a nervous reaction, depending on the circumstances. Your boyfriend and you could experiment a little on how much foreplay you go through before penetration. If it continues, visit your gynecologist to make sure you don't have a cyst or something which might physically prevent you from getting enjoyment. You also might want to get a sex manual for suggestions of different ways to get aroused. Most likely you don't have any kind of serious problem, but you should be able to enjoy sex every bit as much as he does.
2007-10-08 01:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off having orgasms can be a tough thing when you first start out. Some women more than others. I started having sex at 19 & didn't have an O until I was 21...didn't have REGULAR O's until I met my DH who is 8 yrs older (ahem...more experienced!) & I was 24. AND I could only have them by clitoral stimulation (cunnilingus or masturbation)....which is also very common.
Now at 31, I can still only O w/ clitoral stim - BUT I can have a triple now!!!! NEVER thought that would be possible.
All it is is getting in touch w/ your body, learning what works for you (be it by yourself or not) & then being verbal w/ your partner & letting him know how it works for you. Good luck!!
Edited to ask - who's giving all the bad ratings? These are really good pieces of advice being given to this girl!
2007-10-08 01:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by mkt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 times in 3 weeks isn't much experience . You and your boyfriend need to start with lots of foreplay before he enters you . Cuddling and kissing for a long time , he can masturbate you with his fingers , or let him go down and kiss you there ; helps to relax you both and warm you up , make you ready , lubricated and open for sex , halfway ready to orgasm . Many women do not easily have an orgasm , because they need a lot of warming up to it . If you have given your self an orgasm in the past and know what it feels like ; think yourself to having one when you and your boyfriend making love .
2007-10-08 03:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by kitiyapron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will become more familiar with your body as you get older. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you and it doesn't necessarily mean your boyfriend isn't "skilled."
For us men, it's much easier to enjoy sex. I have yet to meet a man that faked an orgasm.
I would suggest that you learn more about what you like. Masturbation is not just a way to get yourself off. It can also be an exploration of your body and a way to learn what feels good to you. Then, teach your boyfriend. Talk to him.
Keep it fun, keep it comfortable. Good communication is key to good sex.
Update: Wow... I just realized... I really hope you're at least 18.
2007-10-08 01:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by SoMunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal for women not to have an orgasm from intercourse. Try clitoral stimulation. I hope the potential consequences are worth it when you're not even getting an orgasm out of it.
2007-10-08 01:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by PontificalPape 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is new to this as much as you are, it's possible that it's just that you both don't know what pleases each other. You might want to try to find things that pleasure you! Like try different positions or different things that get you aroused. Since you're new to this and if your bf is as well, I'd try different things until you find something that pleases the both of you. For me my first few times were the greatest, but my boyfriend and I just kept trying different things until we were both comfortable and found things that we really loved and worked for us.
Good luck!
2007-10-08 01:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for you not to orgasm when you first start having sex, neither you or your boyfriend are experienced in what feels good to the other person. The two of you need to explore each others bodies and find out what each of you likes. Once you know this you can continue to use those "moves" which will in turn lead you to orgasm.
2007-10-08 01:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by DD75 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, maybe the two of you need to work on your foreplay. Sex is way more than just intercourse. See if working on that for about 30-1hr helps. Read some good books on this. Learn some techniques.
You may find if after months of trying and it's still not that great. That the two of you are not sexually compatible. Because, it should be pretty amazing if you are sexually compatible and have some experience.
2007-10-08 01:47:13 · answer #9 · answered by 354gr 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The question is do you know how it feels when you reach climax,and another thing there should be no pain you should both enjoy the sex.
If your partner knows more about sex he should explain everything to you,what should and what should not happen during.
And it's a good thing that your both using a condom.
2007-10-08 01:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by Snowy.com 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋