also, if she's too sexual, they're scared!! seems like all they want is a barbie.
2007-10-07 18:35:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Some boys and men in this forum have rarely gone out on a date with a live girl/woman, so they have reasons to be scared. If you have poor social skills, as evidenced by a few people here, you're not going to find anyone who's going to be interested in you. Some of the people asking and answering these questions are 13 years old, they don't have a clue what a woman or a feminist is, or sex for that matter.
2007-10-07 18:43:50 · answer #1 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 12⤊ 8⤋
Cynthia has got it right, As a 34 year old down to earth guy I can say I've looked for and found a SECURE and BALANCED woman who does not CALL herself a feminist but is instead more of a feminist through her strong sense of self than any of the crazy "I am a feminist"'s that I've dated over the years.
My advice ( although many "feminists" would be loath to hear that phrase ) is to lighten up and if a guy treats you poorly recognize it for what it is -- an encounter with a jerk!
I know that sounds harsh, but I grew up with a feminist mother and even as a child I remember some of her staunch feminist friends saying some of the stupidest things I've ever heard to date.
For example:
(at about eight years old I asked this woman...)
If there's a job that requires lifting big, heavy boxes, wouldn't you want to hire a stronger, bigger person -- a man?
Her answer: They should make the boxes smaller.
At eight I knew that was bull and I still do today.
We're all different and have different strengths, lets all take a deep breath and recognize that.
What most ("good") guys are looking for is a strong,smart, interesting and sexual woman with whom to share their life (easy on the baggage). Not too much to ask...
2007-10-08 03:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by TUG 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Some men, not many. I've found that most men appreciate an intelligent, independent woman who's direct.
Perhaps you've met too many jerks. Keep looking and you'll find some lovely men. :) I have met my share of men who want a submissive woman, or a trophy, and too many who want only casual sex. I just move on. At 43, I've become wary of the dating scene. I don't yet aspire to become an amoeba (be celibate), but I date less often and more ssatisfactorily.
Of couse men have their dating woes too.
From all the contention here one would think women and men couldn't stand each other except for one night stands. Thank goodness it's different in the real world!
As for women being sexually direct, I admit we do still tend to condemn women we deem promiscuous while congratulating equally promiscuous men on their prowess.
On the whole, I find this too boad a generalization.
Yes, I'm a feminist. I find it extraordinary when ppl ask me if I'm a feminist. How often would the same ppl ask a Black person if she appoves of the Civil Rights Movement of the '60s?!
2007-10-08 02:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia_Secular_n_SillyHatState 2 · 10⤊ 3⤋
Not the men I know. Most of them if they're in the right mood they'll have feminist benedict for breakfast. Being sexual also doesn't scare them off. Could it be that the men you know are whimps, perhaps?
2007-10-08 03:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
men are not scared of women having power but women need to learn how to modulate there power .Men are aslo aware that many women do not modulate there power.
when most men exercise there power it is modualted like an dimmer switch for the most part proportional to the needs of the situation .
when some women excercise there power there is no dimmer switch its all on or off no middle ground
thats why men do not trust gender based feminism
just becuase you can doesnt mean you should
2007-10-08 02:32:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Hit the nail on the head there. The Barbies they like come with inflatable sections for easier access.
2007-10-08 02:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by The Ms. 4 · 9⤊ 3⤋
really, men that are "scared" of a woman that IS complex don't want a REAL woman---they want an "uncomplicated" child to boss around, a girl who adores and admires them and doesn't care about anything but his needs and desires.
2007-10-08 01:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by Kinz 4 · 11⤊ 4⤋
I bet deep down men are afraid of women and that's why they feel they have to act macho-it's actually because they feel really wimpy inside. I think maybe it's the women that are the powerful ones!
2007-10-08 01:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by whisperer 3 · 8⤊ 6⤋
It is laughable when a feminist starts the ole men are scared BS. You know as well as we do that it isn't fear. We just don't like the constant rejection just for a woman's enjoyment. Who wants to put themselves in a situation where some woman is going to get her jollies off of humiliating some one. You feminist are going to have to learn sometime that it is your own actions that are coming back to bite you in the hindparts. Everything is not a man's fault most of the time it is just your own actions coming back to haunt you. Start taking responsibility for your actions and think before you act and you will be happier silly girls.
2007-10-08 01:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Chevalier 6 · 6⤊ 10⤋
People ask if you're a feminist, Cyn, because feminists are a bunch of nasty man haters who lie constantly.
2007-10-08 02:28:14 · answer #10 · answered by feministscum 1 · 4⤊ 8⤋