I have a 8 week old beautiful baby and i love him with all my heart. i have to go back to work in 1 month and i don't know if i should. My husband and i are 80% not to go back and 20% to go back. The reason is because it's a County Job and it's not easy to get a job there. Plus the other and most important reason is because they have really good benefits, the insurance is so good. In the other hand, i don't make a lot of money and it doesn't make sense to only use the money that i'm making to pay someone to take care of my baby. Right now my husband don't need much of my help , now he thinks is not so hard. I think i used to expend more money when i worked. I know that nobody is going to take care of my baby like i do and i already know him. Another very important thing is that because i'm with him 24/7 i worry too much and it is not easy for me to leave him with anybody else without me being there. Please help me!!!! i don't don't want to make a decision that late i will regret.
2007-10-07 17:25:08 · 12 answers · asked by ITALY06 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Well if you feel better about staying home stay home because there is no telling what some ppl might do to your child while your not around i would make sure i had cameras if i left him with some one else but in about a year you should put him in daycare because when they start school that helps them adapt easier my little cousin stayed at home with his mom and never went to day care and when it was time to go to school he didnt kno any other kids, wasnt used to playing with them, and was used to being with his mommy so he cried and pitched such a few the first few weeks of school they told his mom she needed to take him out of school for that year and let him start a year late, so right now it may be best for you to stay home but make sure he does go to daycare while he is a toddler
2007-10-07 17:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is a decision you both have to make. I am a new stay at home mom, my girl is 3.5 months and i am loving it. If you can afford to stay at home i think for your baby that would be great. My mom went back to work and i have always wished she could have stayed at home. It is hard having another person take care of you. If you can afford to stay home for a while i think that it would be good for both of you.
If you do decide to go to work, make sure you have some one you trust 100% so you arn't stressed all day about your baby, and your baby is getting good care. What really matters is that your baby is being taken care of and you are keeping your sanity!
You could also try doing something part time to see how it works, or if you do go back full time and it is not working out you always have the option to leave and go back to being at home.
2007-10-08 00:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Noodle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very difficult decision to make after having my first I went back to work for some of the reason you listed it was a great good a great company and I had my 6 & 63 licience that would expire if I didn't return I convinced myself that I needed to go back. We get caught up in how things are and fear stops us. I knew I wanted to get pregnant again and did not want to go back to work. I am now home with my 4 and 2 yr old and I would not trade it for anything.
2007-10-08 13:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't need the money that bad, stay home. Your husband can look for other jobs that pay more and have better benefits. Also, when your baby is a little older, like after his 1st birthday, you could always get a nanny job. That's what I did. I got to take my son with me, or I bring the kids to my home (I have a better and fenced yard). I take them to the park when it is nice or to the Children's Museum, etc.
2007-10-08 00:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like both you and your husband have already made the decision. Stay home with your baby. He will grow up faster than you can imagine. It seems like just yesterday when my first was 8wks old. I can see her wrapped up in her blanket and looking so pure and sweet. She is now 8 and having her first crush!! Time flies and you don't want to miss a second of it!!
2007-10-08 00:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by elloel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went back to work after 8weeks. My bubba loves spending time with other people and i think its great that as he gets older he will be fine to stay with family and away from me. it was hard to start off with as i was always paranoid somehting would happen when i wasnt there. I love just being able to have adult conversations again and do stuff other than sit at home. This is tottally your choice, it has its pros and cons, but i have a great supportive family who will look after him and i only do 3 days a week for 5 hours. i think its great to get back to work and i love my baby with all my heart also
2007-10-08 05:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by coopers_mama07 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have never taken my baby to babysitter...i had a friend who had a kid that got shaken and ended up dying at the babysitters. I promised her and my babies i wouldnt leave them with anyone who would hurt them i have been a Stay at home mom for going on 4 yrs now and i absoulutly love it...we are preggo with number 3 and i cant wait to see this one grow also!!! I say stay home. I love it you will too!!!
2007-10-08 00:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by mominkansas03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can decide this but you and your husband.
You will likely never regret choosing to stay home with your child if you can afford to do so.
2007-10-08 00:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please stay at home with your baby,they grow up so quick and you don't want to miss a thing.
I worked in a child nursery as a nursery nurse and the amount of parents that have missed out on their childs "firsts" is unbelievable.
2007-10-08 16:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pebbles 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we can't tell you but you are the mom, you make the decision.
but as what i think, if you need money elither you or your husband can work & one of you can stay at home with the baby,
or get a walfare.
2007-10-08 00:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋