Women not being able to come?

Question

I don't understand this inability some women supposedly have. I read about it and am baffled. I am a woman who achieves about 95 percent of the time. 100 if The guy knows me well. Can anyone out there tell me what these women's problem is? I'm genuinely baffled.

I'm also not familiar with pressure from society for women not to want sex often or enjoy as is suggested below...And I'm from the south which is much more conservative! I understand this pressure used to exist-but I honestly don't see it these days. The double standard on promiscuity-that I see, but just an appetite for sex in general, no.

Answer 1

I've had a girlfriend that I don't think ever had an orgasm in her life. And I've had a girlfriend that orgasmed like 3 times every time we had sex. And she can masturbate to the point of orgasm in about 30 seconds. According to the second girlfriend mentioned, it has to do with how well the woman knows her own body and its sensations. This self knowledge usually comes from masturbation. So perhaps women that have trouble coming are not big masturbaters. The first girlfriend I mentioned that never came... I honestly don't think she ever masturbated. So that supports the theory. If the woman is not familair with the sensations, she doesn't know how to let herself reach that peak.

Answer 2

Oh, lordy. Well, congratulations for you. That's truly awesome. However, don't be so down on the rest of us. I only come during partner-sex when I, ahem, take matters into my own hands, and I'll tell you why. First off, I'm part of the over 70% of women who can't come from intercourse alone. This is simple biology here. Expecting women to be able to do this is like expecting all men to come from testicle stimulation alone. Yeah, it feels good, but that's not the really happy spot. And even the most aware, giving partners can have trouble understanding this.

Secondly, there's a lot of cultural pressure on sexually active women. Sex is a problem for women in a way that it's just not for men. We're not supposed to want a lot of sex or to particularly enjoy it, even nowadays. There are hundreds of negative words for sexually active women, and very few for men. Sl#t. Tramp. Wh0re. Just to name a few. Is it any wonder that a lot of women, particularly younger ones, internalize this? And then there's the other expectations placed on women- we're the caring ones, the ones who are supposed to make others happy. I confess, this is a problem that I have. I feel _bad_ when guys spend a lot of time on my pleasure instead of theirs. I end up thinking to myself, "hurry up, hurry up", which is not conducive to orgasming. I'm working on this, but it's a problem, and I doubt I'm alone in this.

So maybe the problem isn't with women, but with the way sexuality is treated in our culture and the lack of information that everyone has about female anatomy.

Answer 3

Well, In order to have an orgasm, an average woman needs to trust her partner. A lot of women these days do not know their sexual partners long enough to be comfortable around them even on social level... Unfortunate, but a fact... There is also a sad fact of selfish partners... You know who you are... People that worry about their own pleasure and that's it... I personally know quite a few ladies who settle into a relationship with a person like that, because he is a ' nice guy' ... and suffer sexual boredom and dissatisfaction for the rest of their lives...
There is also guilt for being human ( sexual ) placed on us traditionally and religiously by our faith and family... It is called : inhibitions... a killer of any possible pleasure in life...

Answer 4

I have always believed that in large part the problem you mention is mostly mental. I have only been with one woman in my life who seemed to have a problem enjoying sex,so I guess my experience with that is somewhat limited. Perhaps part of the problem is the number of women that are with men that they are "settling" for. If the man they're with is not really what they want it would seem to me that it only makes sense that it's going to be an issue. And of course there are the women that are with a "minute man" who will have a problem, but that's another issue I guess.

Jack

Answer 5

Well most women orgasm from stimulating the clitoris. It is easy to give yourself pleasure that way. Someone else can too if they know that you like .. it helps if you are comfy with showing and talking to him.

Most women don't often have orgasms from vaginal intercourse because most of us don't have enough stimulation that way .. because of the way we are shaped in the lower vagina and the fact that we are only sensitive about 4-5 cm in. Some women are more lucky that way though.

But the majority of women can have orgasms with someone else who is understanding about the reality.

And we have one great thing .. we can have many orgasms w/o getting tired! :)

Answer 6

It's mostly because of the "Mr. Wrong" syndrome.
However, I know some women who are always so stressed out it becomes difficult for them to relax.

Answer 7

i dont come during sex, not anywhere near it, whether i go on top or whatever. I cant get comfortable when my partner goes down on me so i cant then. I only do when he uses his hands. i havent told him this though as it would hurt his ego. xx

Answer 8

This is one of the ways I have to concede that women are all different. It's really different for all women. I don't think it is just psychological but a large part physical.

Answer 9

frigid

Answer 10

those women have never been with me.