My husband cheated several times and I took him back, he'd leave me at home alone night after night while he went out and partied and each time I'd tell him that I couldn't take one more lonely night. He shouts up and down about how much he loves me and how he wants to stay with me but he's not willing to give up the streets completely for his family. He was good for about 2 and a half weeks mabey even three(a record) and last night he left at 12 and came back at three.That was the straw that broke the camels back , I know he's not going to change. I'm not happy, and the wounds from his repeated infidelity are still fresh and raw. He dosen't believe that I'm really done because I've taken him back so many times but now I'm SERIOUS and can't imagine staying with him- I don't have the money or the resourses to pack up and go but he does that's why I'm trying to get him to go. Loving him use to be so easy but now all I can do is put walls up so I don't get burned again - What now???
2007-10-07 16:04:50 · 7 answers · asked by Chava 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
don't pack up your stuff pack his. Put the suitcase full of his stuff on the sidewalk while he is at work, and change the locks on the doors. (its easy, i've changed locks several times) Get to a lawyer immediatly, you can have an eviction notice with the divorce papers so he gets served with both at once, but make sure he is still responsible for the rent or mortgage payment until it is all settled in court. Unless you put his stuff out or serve him with papers, he will continue doing what he pleases because he thinks you will take him back. After all, you already have several times.
2007-10-07 16:16:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your are using you not having the resources as an excuse not to leave. sweetie is called family, friends. am sure they would love to help you as long as you leave that bum alone. if you are going to take him back thats your business but dont lie about it. sweetie he keeps doing this because he knows that you are all talk and that you have taken him back time and time again so whats different now. you need to be about it and not talk about it. make a move and move on. he is not the one. he has told you that he is not willing to give up the streets for his family and he means that. so respect his decision and let him go and be with the streets and all thats in them. at this point you need to focus on you and the kids. if you have to go on welfare and let them give you job training and life skills, training, and childcare than so be it. file for child support and keep getting up sweetie. you and the kids deserve better than this. or you can stay but devise a plan. where you can save up his money or get a pt job and save money than roll. be dont stay in this situation if you can help it this is mental and emotional abuse to you and the kids. you have to believe that you can provide for them kids and that you can make it without him and his crap. call on family and friends. they can help you if they dont know that you need help. GodBless
2007-10-07 16:24:26 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right he doesn't think you will go and i don't either sorry.If you want him out it's time to do something about it. Go get a restraining order against him and don't tell him about it yet.When he goes out on one of his party nights pack his clothes put them out front or take them to his mothers house.Now have all the locks changed on your house and when he comes home call the police and tell them he won't go away and you have a restraining order out on him. Now lets see how bad you want him out of your life. My mom was like you always going to leave but never did she had us to complain to about him. My dad was a very mean man but she put up with it and i never understood why. It took years to understand why she put up with all the abuse over the years. It made her feel wanted she didn't care how just that she was wanted.
2007-10-07 16:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need 2 set him strait the next tym he goes out again when he comes home dont even talk 2 him. Dont cook for him and seperate his clothes from the rest of the clothes and dont wash his. Dont do anything else for him anymore to get to his head that u r done.
2007-10-07 16:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by monki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. As long as you stay and allow it to continue, it will. You need a fresh start. Get out of that relationship. You have tried to talk to him and it only temporarily works. Do what you can to make him leave or find a way to get yourself out. He is exposing you to all kinds of negative possibilities...disease, abuse, neglect.....
2007-10-07 16:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by bigmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your question.. going back to mom's house would be better than this crap...
Leave... go to a shelter..
He will never take you serious as long as you have a bunch of bull **** reasons that you can not go...
JUST GO.
2007-10-07 16:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Bentley 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your on the right track. set him out
2007-10-07 16:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by spoodleroo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋