When I put her down or put her down to sleep (she has been fed and rocked and already is asleep) she wakes within 5 minutes. It's not just a fussy cry its a screaming cry and I just wont let a 5 day old baby do that. Is this a normal stage or is there something wrong or something that I am doing wrong? Understand though she does sleep and is content as long as I am holding her. This is very exhausting. Please Help!
2007-10-07 14:36:40 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My guess is that she likes the comfort of being close to you. This can be simulated by swaddling your newborn very well. Your baby is still used to be being couped up in your tight little womb. Try swadding her nice and tight after she's been fed and changed. Hold her for a little while and when she falls asleep she may not even notice if you put her down if you do so gently.
If this doesn't work at all take your baby's temperature. Does she seem sick? If you baby can be consoled by you picking her up she may just enjoy being close.
2007-10-07 14:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definately swaddle, it should be tight and some babies fuss for a couple of minutes until they get used to it. This is your best solution as your baby is probably waking himself when he moves, swaddling stops that.
Also find something with white noise(a radio set between stations, running water cds, a fan). This should be fairly loud instead of quiet, at least as loud as you would listen to the TV. The womb was a tight and loud place, thats how the baby is used to sleeping and when you hold her she hears your heartbeat and feels your arms. Try to replicate that feeling.
Oh, and by a swing for really bad days, but don't let your baby fall asleep in it too often or you will have to keep using it.
2007-10-07 22:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Do your own homework! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice?? get used to it!! Read up on Attachment Parenting (I love Dr. Sears)!! My daughter fell asleep every night while I nursed her on the couch. I held her until I was ready for bed and we all went to bed together. At nine months she stopped falling asleep on me and the struggled forever in my bed. After a week I tried laying her in her crib and she fell right asleep and slept until 6am. Now I rock and nurse her for a few minutes, put her in her crib and she falls asleep. Sometimes she'll cry for a minute but usually not. I never let her cry for more then that I just go back in and rock her. Babies need their mommies!! You will come to appreciate this time with her so very much...especially as you realize how much she needs you now. My lactation consultant nailed it when she said you guys will develop your own rythym between 4-6 weeks. Hang in there!!
2007-10-08 02:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by coolmommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely swaddle, and tighter than you'd think. Make sure the room is the right temperature, and I'd also recommend a sound machine so it's not totally quiet in the room. And most important, put her in the crib on her back. Goodluck
2007-10-07 21:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by me&2kids 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK, Look, I'm not gonna feed you the voice of expreience. You gotta chill.
Get used to not sleeping. It is exhausting, and you're not done. It won't kill you, or your new kid. You're doing everything right, I swear. You're fine, your daughter is fine. Just make sure she has eaten and sleep when she does. Take advantage of family if you can.
Trust me; It WILL work itself out, and you'll never regret it. You may not agree yet, but you will.
2007-10-07 21:54:13 · answer #5 · answered by Rubber Cranium 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She probably has a couple more burps and needs to fuss to get them out. make sure you burp every couple of ounces and put her down on her back or side only. you cant hold her all the time so you need to find out what the problem is now. will only get worse otherwise.
2007-10-11 21:34:43 · answer #6 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Its hard, but this is normal. Try finding a toy or something with a heartbeat. Also bundle her up as they did in the hospital.
Good Luck and it will get better.
2007-10-07 21:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Old Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is definitely normal- as are your concerns! my pediatrician told me that the first 2 weeks are survival mode. and 2 babies later, he is so right! do whatever it takes to settle her--and take the time to ENJOY her!!! after this you can begin schedules if you want. you are not doing anything wrong!
now, go rest!
2007-10-07 23:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by linymama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All her instincts from thousands of years of evolution tell her if she lets you put her down the wolves will eat her or she will freeze to death.
Honestly it gets a lot easier around 6 weeks, and then again around 3 months. But babies require a lot of human contact to thrive so I wouldn't count on being able to just put her down and walk away.
In the meantime babyproof your bed and then you can at least lie down with her. Even if you don't sleep lying down will help.
2007-10-07 21:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋