My boyfriend well I think, and I have been on and off 2 years and really it has been nothing more or less but argueing and drama with spurts of happpness..I am 5 months pregnant. He does not trust me at all! So when I went to check his e-mail he changed his password)he said he did cause we were fighting) and he wont let me read his emails when he normally would...he said he was asking personal questions on here about our relationship and I would be able to read them when he got some answers back. I am concernced theres a little more to it. before this he wanted to take a break so he could work out and feel better about himself,to better our sex life and so I am attracted to him more. but we would still keep in contact. This sounds not good. I am in a not so normal situation so please pray for me that the baby is at least okay.
do you think there is something else going on? any advice would help
2007-10-07 14:16:57 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The first thing I am going to address is that you are pregnant. You need to keep your stress levels as low as possible, and especially not stress over something that could be nothing. This can risk the health of not only yourself, but your unborn baby as well. If you feel extremely stressed and overwhelmed, talk to your OB/GYN ASAP!
With that being said, a relationship HAS to have trust, it just has to. My husband and I check each others emails, myspace accounts, etc, but that is because we are married. Your boyfriend may not feel comfortable with you doing this, and really, you don't have a right to do it, especially if he doesn't want you to. Whatever his reasons may be, you have to trust him when he says he's not doing anything. The truth will show itself at some point. If it does turn out he is cheating, then it's hard but you move on. I say, however, that there is no sense in having jealous feelings or hurling accusations unless you have cold hard proof that he has done something. Has he cheated on you before and been caught or admitted to it? If not, then there really should be no sense in you not having trust for him. You don't mention your age but you seem to be young. However, you are pregnant with a child (I am assuming it is his...it is, right?) and it is time to grow up. Instead of worrying about what could possibly be going on, you and your boyfriend need to be planning for this child and planning a future together, if there is one (and with no trust, there will not be one, be assured of that.) If you aren't going to be together, you need to decide how things are going to go when this child is being born. If you do love each other, trust each other, and plan on raising this child together, you need to focus your priorities on the future of this child. That is what is monst important. Not being jealous and checking up on each other.
2007-10-07 14:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been arguing a bit more since I've become pregnant so I understand what you are going through. You both need to be patient with each other and just breath. I'm sure he's just as stressed as you. That doesn't excuse being rude, neither does the hormones, but lets be realistic b/c we all know that both makes for short nerves. Because you only gave us your side I am going to just assume you are a bit rude too ( as I am sometimes). Don't take offense to that though. Take a break from each other- an hour or two- when things start getting snippy. Be positive with each other everyday. Things like " I appreciate that you......", thank each other - even for the small things. This has to be a 2way communication. Sit with him and let him know how this is affecting you. You don't need the stress but you both have to work on it
2016-05-18 03:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, well try to keep the stress level down. its not good for the baby. and as for the boyfriend. if he has trust problems then well i would leave him. because i can tell you now, it wont be all that great in the future. specially with a baby on the way, you dont want that for the baby. and yea the emails,well maybe you shouldnt trust him. maybe he is hiding something, but i would leave him for good before everything goes down hill. ok? i hope it all works out and congrats!
2007-10-07 16:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by yummy_20032001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound good foryou but you need to communicate. love is trust and honesty and apparently neither o fyou have this of each other. its not blind either. you have to be one and it sounds like you aren't. but you know you could let someone adopt your child and this baby would have two parents and love it needs and grow up with two parents and you aren't ready yet it appears. you do not want to be with someone that has issues like him not trust ing you and not letting you read emails etc. this is part of love. so therefor it would be best and you can make a new life and start out knew not worrying about the baby you had i know its hard but sometimes we have to do things that are not good in life for us. but ican pray for your mind and you to make up what is going right.
2007-10-11 14:17:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend doesn’t want you reading his email that is his choice and you need to respect this. From what you post this relationship doesn’t even seem healthy, spurts of happiness that isn’t much. You and he deserve to have happiness all the time. Not be in a relationship where its 90% auguring and 10% happiness if that much.
2007-10-07 14:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is this in Adolescent? Are you a child, 5 months pregnant? If you are I can tell you what the problem is....your to young!
2007-10-07 14:27:13 · answer #6 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋