why do people say marriage is such hard work?

Question

i know people shouldn't rush into it, and I also realize that people aren't perfect so there always going to be some problems... but does it need to be such hard work? why is that? why are there so many divorces and things?

Answer 1

Marriage does take hard work. It is difficult sharing the same bathroom with someone for many years. It is difficult waking up next to the same person for many years. it is difficult putting up with someones illnesses and idiosyncrasies for many years. And that is why there is so much divorce. People don't want to make the commitment and do the work that it takes to keep a marriage going.

Answer 2

Because people are lazy. They don't want to work at it. When I say work I mean like if there are things that bother you about your spouse people these days are quick to just say this is too hard and just get a divorce. It doesn't have to be such hard work if your with the right one. And it's not a prison. I love being married. My husband and I get a long great. Marriage is a commitment. And through marriage there are legalities, so as to make it a bit harder to just run and get a divorce. And marriage does look better when you go to get a mortgage and such. Marriage shouldn't be such a dirty word. Of course waiting til you find the right one is best. I waited til I was 38. I would have never wanted to get married to the first person I dated that would have been tragic. and what bobby k said is just stupid you might have double the expense but if your spouse isn't a lazy sob then you have double the income, that was really an ignorant thing to say. I'm better off now financially then when I was single.

Answer 3

Any commitment requires dedication and hard work to be successful. YES ... marriage is hard work because it requires understanding, compromise, trust, acceptance and sacrifice. You are no longer doing things for #1 ... you have a whole other person to consider and their feelings and well being. Don't mistake hard work for something that is not rewarding. Anything worth having requires hard work, but obtaining a happy successful marriage is extremely rewarding. There are so many divorces because of people who don't believe that marriage should require work. Things don't go they way they think they should and instead of working to find the problem and then a solution, they throw up their hands and walk away all too often!

Answer 4

Divorce happens most of the time due to finances. One spouse spending more than the other or hiding money from each other. Secondly -- kids. Mostly also because people don't go into a marriage fully committed to make it work. Thirdly one spouse ends up doing more than the other. Though my marriage hasn't been the easiest thing in the world, divorce is not an option and I am speaking for my husband also. We've come from parents that have been married more than 50 years. People just don't want to commit anymore and they divorce due to the stupidest word "incompatibility". I call it lazy-itist. People just don't want to work anymore.

Answer 5

Well, just because it is hard work doesn't mean it's not worth it! There are so many things in life that take lots of hard work but the rewards make it so worth the effort. Having kids is also hard work, but it can be very rewarding in the end to see your children grow up to be responsible, hard working, loving adults. Getting a degree can be hard work, but knowing you achieved your goal makes it worth it. Anyways, you get the point. There's so many divorces and things because people give up or don't see the worth of putting work into it.

Answer 6

"... The truth is, marriage is damn hard work. Long-term marriage isn't for sissies. There are times you think about giving up rather than giving in. Not all arguments have happy endings ... Creating a lasting marriage is a humbling experience. It's part skill, part luck, elbow grease and blind determination. It isn't always pretty ... So, I'm here to remind those of you in marriages that get stormy or rocky, welcome to marital territory. It's part of the deal. Get a good raincoat or 4 wheel drive vehicle for rocky terrain ... Working through the tough times - or just surviving them - gives you a chance to right yourselves and reconnect around your strengths and the things you love about each other ..."

Answer 7

It is hard work. You need to put alot of love, time, effort and compromising into it in order for it to work and be successful.

That is the reason why there are so many divorces because people go in thinking of the cute house with a white picket fence and bed of roses then they bail because it's not what they thought it was.

Answer 8

I dont believe that it is hard work. If you are both on the same page then it shouldnt be hard. I have been married for 2 years and yes I am still learning things about my husband but they are good things. Divorce has been made to easy for people to get. As Dr Phil says you shouldnt be able to get a divorce untill you have done everything in your power to save your marriage. You have to earn your way out not just quit.

Answer 9

Nobody is willing to sacrifice anymore. People have become too selfish and would rather quit than fight to save their marriage. Two people trying to build a life together is hard. You've got two sets of goals and dreams, two ideas of what family should be and two people who change and grow, and they don't always grow in concert. No matter who you marry, it's going to take a will to succeed and a willingness to compromise. Yes, it is hard work, but I think it's worth it.

Answer 10

Plan a day with $50 for both of you for breakfast, lunch and dinner and any other expense for that day. No staying home and watching Tv. See how well you can manage eachother. Anything you experience multiply by a 1000. The weakness and differences are unnoticable while you are in love but after the honeymoon phase, it will creep up under your screen.