I am aware that you guys are visual. I have gained baby weight and am working hard to lose. My husband and I havent made love in god knows how long. What can I do to get his attention and affection?
2007-10-07 13:41:50 · 7 answers · asked by forever charmed 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband has made it clear that he doesnt want to be intimate with me until he sees results of weight loss.
2007-10-07 13:46:58 · update #1
strip off
2007-10-08 18:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by the_best911 t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is thin does not mean you have to be. If you have an open relationship, and he says you look good to him, I would trust what he says. I think it will take a little bit more then putting on a few pounds to make a husband love his wife less. And there is no need to be embarrassed when you go out with him unless you are wearing things you should not be, such as size 6 clothes when you are a size 12. I would also stay away from the ephadra pills for health reasons, not just the price.
2016-05-18 03:27:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an inconsiderate jerk.
I don't think you should go out of your way to gain his attention. Stop all attention gaining ideas or other things you do to please him like his laundry , cleaning up. Leave him feeling the need to gain your attention and kindness. He should be made to feel like the jerk he is for such a stupid comment. Tell him you might make love to him when he provides you with something outrageous like whatever is next to impossible for him. A million dollars a body builders physic or a new house new car. And don't forget to make him sorry enough to apologize for his obnoxious attitude.
You need to make it clear CRYSTAL clear that you will not tolerate this kind of treatment and unless he would like you to leave and file for child and spousal support , he needs to take over the house cleaning and primary care of your child while you go to the gym or attend an aerobic class or two with your friends 3 or 4 times a week.
2007-10-07 18:24:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that he is feeling a lot of stress. A single guy can live nearly anywhere and survive on ramon noodles. Now he has a responsibility. Before he had the option of telling his boss to stick it. That option if not gone is greatly diminished. When you become a father responsibility hits you like a ton of bricks.
I think the main thing you can do is keep his home life as stress free as possible. Let him unwind in his own way, always be ready when he is.
2007-10-07 13:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i had and still actually have the same issue with my wife. But hey, marriage is about working things out.
The problem with us guys is that we tend to look at other women and compare with what we have. it's a male thing, sorry. You can get back his attention by spending more efforts and new ways to drive him nutts again. After all, we still need sex, he can't live long without it.
Show him that you are trying hard to get back in shape.
2007-10-07 14:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by spartan_virgo 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he still loves you. Maybe he's tired or he is afraid to hurt you?
Maybe --- i know this is shallow, but it's true... he seen you give birth and he is afraid he can't satisfy you anymore? I had a friend who was like that!
2007-10-07 13:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Huang K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use that wonderful imagination of yours...
P.S. You are still beautiful.
2007-10-07 13:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋