This is very early in the relationship, but he didn't go through with it.. what are the odds that he will cheat later on? I do know of a few relationships that have gone through this.. One of these couples have been together 6 years; he was tempted early on, but didn't go through with it, his wife found a "number" but he regretted it, and hasn't done anything since. Another couple in the same boat, it's been three years since.. And the last couple I know, it's just happened. Again, it's like these guys were tempted very early on in their relationshiops, got phone numbers, you know, but then they didn't go through with cheating. Does this mean that they probably won't do anything knowing what they almost lost or are they still likely to fall again.
2007-10-07 13:35:24 · 11 answers · asked by Karla Marx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Each person is different and have different motivations for their actions. Whether he will try again is something that only time can tell. However, trust and honesty are the foundations of a strong and stable marriage and if you go through life fearing that your spouse will cheat, then you are cheating yourself out of a loving and supportive relationship.
2007-10-07 13:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by squidsgirl97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phone numbers are definitely a temptation and bad sign, but I don't think this indicates it will drive a person over the edge to cheat.
Usually, if an individual is strong in morals and integrity, then no matter how much temptation is presented, they'll pass it up.
It also has to do with whether they love their partner, and how much they value the marriage/relationship.
The guys you speak of were obviously somewhat smart. It probably would have been smarter for them to say, "No thank you, I'm taken" but instead, they glowed in the attention.
Either way, some men need to work on how they react to situations, because taking home phone numbers is a sure fire way to cause strife if they're found.
2007-10-08 06:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by darkening_hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Temptation IS always around, and them 'almost' giving in doesn't mean they will later on and they might. You never know. I've been married 20 years and I'm sure we've both been tempted many times, esp. during bad periods, but have stuck it out and never given in. It's all in the maturity and trust in a relationship and never allowing yourself to be alone very often or any lengths of time with someone who may 'tempt' you.
2007-10-07 20:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by dawnUSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What it means is they will be more smarter about not leaving phone numbers laying around where the wife can find it. How do you know they didn't go all the way with the girls.Did the husband tell their wives they didn't go all the way with them.
I don't know about you but i can't think of one boyfriend or husband that would come out and say to the wife or girlfriend,yes honey i did go all the way with her but it won't happen again i promise.
2007-10-07 20:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion on the "cheating" thing is that if he didn't because he regretted it or backed out, he is likely to not do it. HOWEVER we must remember if the thought is there to cheat, then the option will eventually present itself again, which if he is feeling lonely, or there has been a rough spot in the relationship will he turn to cheating again as a means of comfort or self indulgence? I would be leary or someone who has cheated, or has been in the position to cheat. My husband "cheated" on his ex, however I know that he has never cheated on me, and he wouldn't , because he knows the consequences of that action~period, he knows that it is something I don't have to tolerate (I am educated, and perfectly capable of being self sufficient without him) it!!!
2007-10-07 20:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank heaven there are still men out there who are strong enough to say 'no' to temptation. I would consider these guys to be morally strong for the long term because if something like this has occurred in the early stages, before the real commitment set in, and they still didn't yield, they have values and aren't afraid to use them.
2007-10-07 20:42:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of knowing what a person will or will not do later on. Depends on the strength of the couple and how weak they are as individuals. Temptation is always around, it never goes away.
2007-10-07 20:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every human being is capable of cheating , wether they want to admit it or not so the temptations are always inside of us.
The fact these men thought about it is nothing new , the fact they didnt act is something new for me anyways.I'd trust my instincts , if you think he wont cheat and you keep a positive vibe around your relationship then he wont .
2007-10-07 20:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only God knows a person's heart. We, as humans, can only go by a person's actions. I do not tolerate what I do not give. In other words....I do what I know is right.....and I do not tolerate not receiving this in return. I find that it has saved me alot of sorrow in my life once I started putting this into practice. There are alot of great people out in the world. I make sure that those that I let in my life are those kind of people
2007-10-07 20:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes wider enough because even if he did cheat, its not written on his forehead for you to know. If he attempted, he will go for it, It's a matter of time and calculating the best time to go that he can't be detected of any wrong doing. A man can't say it unless caught.
2007-10-07 20:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋