had a boyfriend. Do you think that's weird??
i've been in 2 flings...never a relationship.
my parents think dating is against christianity
2007-10-07 13:29:18 · 45 answers · asked by kissn'tell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my parents had an arranged marriage. I think people look at me and see me as being pakistani and decide they don't want to have anything to do with me.
2007-10-07 13:35:49 · update #1
Do they one day want you to marry a man
that you have never dated so you can get to know him ?
Or to be an old maid ?
2007-10-07 13:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by louie_bennie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've lasted this long. I do believe you should be dating. Just don't be unequally yoked. Move slowly. Look for someone who stirs you on the inside but never turn off your brain. You also have to be free to move on if things are not right. It's not like jumping , landing on a spot and like you have to stay there.
You have to experience men. You can't rightly know a good one until you've rubbed shoulders with a bad one.
Because a man is good, doesn't mean he's your counter part.
No it's not easy , but you have to get in the game. remember , " Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" He's Got someone for you.
2007-10-07 13:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its weird to not get a relationship when your 24 years of age. maybe it takes a while for people to date and you need to wait when the time comes. if you want to be in a forever-relationship you might need to dress and make your facial appearance to attract boys. Dating is no WAY near Christianity beliefs because it doesn't mkae sense. if your parents is against christianity why are your parents married together and give birth to you? i know this is kind of mean, but i need to prove my point.
2007-10-07 13:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by ♣♥♠♦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your parents had an arranged marriage, they don't know how to teach you how to develop a relationship with a man, and to find one who will be right for you.
Their attitude towards dating is erroneous and is part of your problem.
Check with a local college and see if the psychology department can help you locate any classes that will help you in learning how to develop a healthy relationship. If no such classes are given in your area, maybe you can talk them into setting one up... possibly as an extension class. It would benefit society if all colleges with psychology departments offered such classes as part of college curriculum as well as extension classes.
Not everyone will judge you as Pakistani. Those who do, don't deserve your friendship anyway.
2007-10-07 13:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course your situation isn't "weird", and don't let anyone tell you that it is. In my world (which is the present day US) that is unusual, but unusual isn't necessarily bad.
I would use the terms "traditional" or "conservative" to counter someones challenge that your circumstances are "weird" if it helps.
Our true friends will always understand, accept and love us no matter our choices or way of life. Those who label you as weird are not worthy of your friendship, so don't worry about them, or what they think of you. You are choosing to honor your parents and your heritage and you are to praised for that. Too few of us pay the due respect to our elders, and I'm glad to hear that you are someone special who does.
2007-10-07 13:44:38 · answer #5 · answered by artistagent116 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I just think you have a lot of catching up to do! :) Just be responsible about it, keep your options open in guys there's no reason to try to find "the right one" at your age.
I'm a Christian and I've known people think that casual dating is "wrong". I don't see anything wrong with it.
2007-10-07 13:32:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its weird if its your choice. But for your parents to think dating is against Christianity is weird. If you don't date how do you get to know someone? What do they think? That you should marry someone before getting to know them? Seems a little emotionally and possibly physically dangerous.
2007-10-07 13:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are great but they aren't your feelings nor the ones who have to wake up every morning with your life before them. It's not weird at all. Just the way you've managed. It's never too late to try something different. Go for it. Be careful. Good luck.
2007-10-07 13:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by allthatsolid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You parents think dating is against Christianity?? Wow! How did they gt together then, didn't they date?? I think your parents may be part of the issue as to why you have never been in a relationship.
2007-10-07 13:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by green_clovers66 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to ask yourself if you have never dated a guy seriously because your parents think it's unChristian or because you're intimidated.
Decide that and go from there. That's going to be your key; wondering how weird you must look isn't going to be good for you. You're an adult. Your parents raised you the best they could, but now it's YOUR turn.
2007-10-07 13:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a very faithful christian and I have dated over 15 guys and im 16. I wont have sex till marriage but I still date, if i didnt i wouldnt know what i wanted in a man.
2007-10-07 13:33:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋