This question is for people that have been married for a while and are happy with life. What are the things that you do today to keep your marriage alive and fresh, things that you do for each other to keep your love alive and strong.
2007-10-07 12:52:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never take each other for granted and never close your eyes to what is going on around you. If you have a problem talk it out until it is resolved.If your gut is telling you something is wrong then it's a 95% chance that it is, follow through to find the problem and fix it. Don't get caught in the day to day routine of life if you do that's when everything starts to get boring.Do something different everyday know matter how small it is.
2007-10-07 13:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love, respect, trust and communication will keep any marriage alive and strong.
You should know eachother inside and out, mentally, emotionally and physically. You should do anything to make your spouse happy and your spouse should always take care of you. Never, ever be selfish! You can't be married and be selfish. It doesn't go together.
Always compliment your spouse. For example, tell your husband how gorgeous he's looking today, or how no other man could ever make love to you like he did, or you are the happiest woman alive and alot of woman are jealous of what I've got, etc. If you make him feel like he is standing on a mountain, he will be so happy that he made the best decision when he married you. That's when he will never want to be with anyone but you. It will just become stronger over the years.
Bottom line: Make sure he loves what he walks into at the end of a day. Always have a clean house, food in the fridge and really important, always make sure you look gorgeous.
You will have the happiest marriage till death do you part... Good Luck
2007-10-07 13:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is work everyday you have to see that not to equate it with a job or anything but you can never let it sit on the backburner. You always have to put the fires out per se when you see them burning. If you are mad apologize before you go to sleep no matter what. Schedule time for each other no matter how hectic life gets because you two are the foundation of everything. Remember that your children if you have them are little sponges and will soak up everything and I mean everything good and bad so be very careful of what it is you say and do around them. Remeber the love that brought you together during the difficult times I really think people have this disallusion that marriage is supposed to be the "knight on white horse" or "leave it to beaver" thing. That is not reality many things can happen but as long as you got each other you can conquer the world. Keep your faith and attend some kind of services this will really help your marriage and your children stay grounded especially during times of hardship and despair. As for keeping things fresh you need to both have interests outside the marriage not other people but hobbies or crafts even jobs will do sometimes if thats all you can manage even volunteer work but when you can come together and discuss these things and have that trust that the other will always come back to you that is priceless. And most of all communicate, no communication no relationship. Good luck.
2007-10-07 13:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate! This is number one. Talk about everything, never go to bed angry.
Put your spouse first. Very important. Don't get up and think what do I want to do today. Instead, ask yourself, what does my mate want to do today!
Do everything with love. True love will cover a host of shortcomings. Love means being kind, patient, understanding.
Experience life together! Of course, you both need your time alone or with freinds, but don't fall into the 'two seperate lives' routine. Find hobbies and interests that you both like.
Don't get too busy. Make sure you are living life at a pace that lets you appreciate every moment. Move too fast and everything is just a blur.
Stay close, physically.....you know, sexually! Intimacy in a marriage is a great privilege, enjoy it and never take it for granted.
Don't let money become an issue. Live simple and well within your means. Don't get caught up in materialism.
Some other little things....lots of love letters, kisses every morning, walks in the woods, sit in the garden, share the sad moments, always remember your first kiss, and snuggle.
2007-10-07 13:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by ChristopherGatti 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Mutual respect - never bash another in front of anyone. Always show respect for your partner in public and private.
2. Sense of humor - never take things too seriously, there's a silver lining on every cloud, find it and focus on it. If there's a way to laugh your way out of a fight, take it - you probably weren't fighting over anything serious anyway.
3. Total commitment - treat your connection to your partner as permanent and decide to stick by him/her no matter what
The 3 As that can break up your marriage are Addiction, Adultery, and Abuse. Everything else is workable. Marriages are reinforced every day, not once a year or once a week. Remember to be affectionate and gentle to each other and remind yourself how lucky you are to be with him/her. Remember to always prioritize your spouse above everything and make sure he/she knows that. Don't forget to do the little things as everyday reminders of your love.
Everyday acts are massages, hugs, kisses, little presents, little surprises, special meals prepared for each other, foot rubs, walks together, lots and lots of little compliments. Always show how happy you are when he/she walks through the door after a long day. Don't let the fast rhythm of everyday life stop you from doing these things. They are far more important than jobs, deadlines, or commitments to other people.
2007-10-07 13:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Laeticia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha vtjames that is so true.
Think and talk alot about where you want your married life to go. Express your fears, hopes and dreams to each other and be totally honest about where you see yourselves in say 2, 5 or even 10 years.
Marriage is hard work once the honeymoon period is over, you both need to make alot of compromises over everything and all input is 100% from both sides. Don't let it at any stage become stagnant or boring because that's where infidelity wreaks havoc.
2007-10-07 13:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say have a life of your own, but do things together. Mutual respect goes a long way. Fidelity is very important. Once you lose the trust of a loved one, it's never the same. Mutual interests, such as tennis, camping, reading - things you can do together and apart - discussing world events. Respect each other - that's the most important.
2007-10-07 12:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by La Gata 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1) If all else fails, just try to look stupid or as if you did not hear the question. 2) Do not buy your wife a vacuum cleaner for Christmas. 3) Substantial penalty for early withdrawal. 4) If you complain about the cooking, you will become the chef. 5) yes dear. 6) no dear. 7) your wife will look just like her mother in another 20-30 years. 8) Nothing will make your wife happier than always finding the seat down and no pee on the seat. 9) If there is pee on the toilet, blame it on the dog.
2016-03-19 07:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-02 09:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Ive been married for 23 years, and for the most part they have been good years, and i am basically happy with my life. and the only advise that I would give you is what I heard Dr. Ruth say years ago on her radio program.......
Be sure you marry someone that you can talk to because sex changes ( and sometimes ends) and if you cant talk to your mate there is nothing left when the fire fizzles.
2007-10-07 13:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by kathy h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋