a couple we have become friends with would like to swap?

Question

I am not sure what to say .I think my wife wants to try it but i dont know. His wife is nice looking but still i dont know

Answer 1

Ask your wife. Tell her you think it would be fun, but only if she is willing. If she is not willing to even consider it then forget it.

If she is willing, she should initiate it. A husband should not initiate it because the other husband may get upset and the wife may freak out. If your wife initiate it, no one gets upset, and when the other husband agrees, his wife will then agree.

Answer 2

That depends on your experiences as a couple and what this new issue will bring to your marriage. This opens a whole new Pandora's Box and you may end up living a nightmare instead of a dream night of boning some strange. The first questions whether asked or not will be "how did we compare?" Then you may not like what you hear! You and your wife need to talk about the "what ifs".......

While I have not experienced a swap with a couple, during my first marriage we brought in another woman and while the excitement was high and the night was great, there was this thing in the back of my mind. The other woman was married and her husband was not aware of what took place that night. I wondered if my wife ever returned the favor?..... In the end, it was not workth the uncertainty.

Good luck, you may really need it.

Answer 3

Be very, very careful how you approach this.
If you ask your wife if she wants to try it, you run the risk of her thinking you have the hots for the other wife. And then there is the messy leftover if you do it and then one person decides they don't ever want to do it again, but the other three are keen.
I know couples who have 'swung' for years and can't imagine living any other way. I also know some who have broken up as a result and I am one of them. This happened because one of the people involved only participated because they felt pressured into it, and all friendships and relationships suffered as a result.
Perhaps, if you want to try swapping, the first time should be with a couple you meet for that particular purpose, rather than good friends. That way you will know if it is right for you two, without risking a good friendship.

Answer 4

Okay, I hear you but I don't believe you would actually consider it...How much do you love your spouse? Evidently not enough, since you would even consider swapping. And futhermore, they aren't your friends. True friends would not even ask such a thing...I am here to tell you, once you cross over that line, there is no turning back and you can't undo something you've already done so think it through long and hard. If you go thru with it, it will always be in your mind and her mind what the other was like...And looks has nothing to do with stepping outside your marriage. Once you've gone there, you will never be the same. Could someone out there please tell why aren't any couples faithful anymore?? I think all of those that aren't faithful need to try and find out what true love really means.....

Answer 5

Unless you've lived through this scene you will never know if it will turn out good or bad everyone who has answered so far only 1 has actually experienced it .

I'm going to give it to you from someone who was in the scene for 5 years , If your not stable , if you suffer from jealousy , if you cant set boundaries and stick to them , if you cant make rules and stick to them , if you cant respect the KING rule of swinging which is you NEVER swing with the same couple/person more then once because that's only inviting intimacy and emotion you dont need , then dont do it.

If you doing it to enhance your sex life or you doing it because the wife has discovered she is bi then find 1 female to be a 3rd party , if your doing it because your wife wants more manhood to party with , dont do it.

In short 87% of marriages end after swinging , the few who survive have a lot more respect , dignity , trust and follow rules without a hitch.They never get any emotions towards the 3rd and 4th parties , its just sex nothing else , if it become's more then they never see that person again.

Are you man enough for the roller coaster ride your wife wants to take you on?

My roller coaster ride ended badly , people got to close and I payed the price , how will your ride end?

If any doubts , dont do it .Good luck.

Answer 6

Talk it with your wife hearthily before the two of you agree to the idea. Be sure your respect to each other is extremely high and you don't ever feel to jealous even a little otherwise, not good to spouses who have lack of understanding instead of doing good to experience the variety something lead to ruining both of you if you can not control to handle your emotions out of the aftermath.

Answer 7

It's sad that there are people like you on this planet. I hope you don't have children!

What the hell do you mean "his wife is nice looking" oh, so you might consider it? You people only know about looking good and having sex! That's all your small immature minds focus on.

If any of you could even consider "swapping", then there is absolutely no love and respect in that marriage. Therefore, your marriage will eventually end anyway, so who cares? What difference would it even make? Swap with any creature you want. Your marriage is already over.

Answer 8

This is a very improtant step in your lives. Both you and your wife must be 100% sure that this is something that you both want to do and experience. There must be absolutley no jealousy. Remember this is sex for sex sake and not love. You will be going home and living with each other. If after a thorough and hoest discussion with each other about it and you still want to pursue, then I say go for it and have some fun. Please let me know how it turns out.

Answer 9

Temptations like this this is hard to resist. Your wife needs to curb it more than you do. For all you know, the couple made friends with you/your wife with an ulterior motive - for this swapping in the very 1st place!

Answer 10

it's tempting

but it weakens the promise you made to love only her.

what if she starts liking the guy better than you and starts seeing him on the side.
it would really hurt you

or if you fell for the other girl.

fantasies are incredibly fun.

they're also pretty slippery cuz you really can't hold them down and examine them under a real honest light.

I think you know it will turn out bad.
you should know that.

not to judge or condemn man.

i negelected my lawn all year.
now the only thing growing well is the weeds

so I'm out there pulling the weed, and puttting down grub killer and overseeding and watering.

can I get my beautiful lawn back?

Yeah, maybe.

would it have been easier to just take care of it and keep the weeds out?

yeah.

peace out dude