Why should they accept her or not accept her as she is?
2007-10-07 10:27:42 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
She is an adult now. Parents are no longer responsible for raising her. If they want no part of her life then let them make that decision
2007-10-07 10:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by Eric S 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
She is free to live as she wishes. They are free to disown her if she decides to live in such a way that she violates their personal code. Would you fault a parent that disowned a child that decided to practice cannibalism? Or perhaps enters into a religious order that practices human sacrifices? I know today many feel gay isn't a big deal, and that's fine. These parents obviously feel it IS a big deal. I'm almost certain that it isn't her being attracted sexually to her own sex, it's that she is acting on that attraction. They don't accept her actions. Her parents are people too. They would almost certainly not disown her just because she didn't marry, or date men. Many people feel attraction to very young children. Does that mean parents should be OK with their adult children being pedophiles? Many of the answers fault the parents, because most don't agree with them. That misses the point. The parents are putting their moral standards, ahead of their natural desire to have a relationship with their daughter.
2007-10-07 11:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fair...who knows. We did not raise her. She's 22 and as an adult she should recognize where her parents were going to come out on this issue. Her decision to come out to her parents would likely result in attitude shifts...and she probably knew it or should have known it.
If she is a lesbian (and not just bi-curious as suggested earlier), then she should resign herself to the fact that her parents are not, at this time, willing to reconcile their beliefs (which apparently don't include unconditional love). She should love them anyway, respect it, and get on with her life in a way that will make her parents proud. Maybe then the will come around. Maybe part of their decision is not just the lesbian thing, but other lifestyle chocies they don't agree with....we don't know.
2007-10-07 10:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by ironjag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is unfair. Obviously, the parents should accept her, but they are free to do and think as they want.
Would I consider it unfair if my parents did something like that? Hmmmm, not really, because if my parents were willing to disown me, I would lose any love or respect I had for them in the first place, so I wouldn't care about being disowned. Hell, I'd disown them right back.
2007-10-07 10:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by pr0ph3t1cl1v1ty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since when has a 22 year old been a child? She is an adult who has made her own choice (was that fair?) Her parents are entitled to their opinion also, even if it isn't P.C. There are always two sides of a story, possibly her behaviour has been an extreme embarrassment to them. Parents don't usually readily disown their children.
2007-10-07 10:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by LOOBYLOO 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To those here who say that being gay is a choice, you are wrong. Is being straight a choice? Did you ever consciously choose to be attracted to the opposite sex? Gay people don't make a choice either. That's just the way they are.
No, it's not fair. This is their child, they raised her, and it's very small of them to reject their own flesh and blood because they don't like the final product. If she is a good person, if she lives a righteous life, and if she enters into healthy monogamous relationships, why should they turn her away for something she cannot help?
2007-10-07 10:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, its not fair, but lots of things aren't fair. The child cannot force the parents to accept her, but the parents are hurting themselves as much or more than they are hurting their daughter. The daughter needs to put this behind her and find new friends and create a new family for herself.
2007-10-07 10:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
They only want whats best for her. Being a lesbian comes with having a harder life, being judged etc. They believe that you are not really a lesbian, that it's only a phase. If you are 22 than your parents are AT LEAST 40 and pretty old fashioned. Good Luck! :)
2007-10-07 10:31:29 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it isn't fair. But, it is perfectly legal. She is an adult. Quite frankly, if I were her, I'd disown my own family for such behavior.
They should accept her because she is their child.
Nothing else should matter.
2007-10-07 10:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not understand what is "unfair" about it.
The daughter made a choice now the parents are making a choice.
I am not equateing the two but look at this example. I fyou daughter had a taste for human flesh. So she decided to eat people. Would ypu just accpt her as she was?
Would it be fair for you disown her??
Or maybe she like animal sex.
TYhe information you provided doe not provide enough information to answer your question adequately. For all we know the parents have accepted their daughters choice. They are not living in denial but accepting her lifestyle choice and adjusting to it.
2007-10-07 10:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
They have a 22 year old ADULT. Some people have strong feelings about others sexuality.
2007-10-07 11:22:03 · answer #11 · answered by sensible_man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋