It's been so long since ive had sex and so long since i dated i feel like im 13 again. I used to be sexually active and lost my virginity at a young age. I never remember being uncomfortable around the opposite sex until the past few years. I stopped having sex about 6 years ago and havnt dated all that much 'due to life circumstances'. Now im so uncomfortable it bothers me to even think of speaking to the opposite sex romantically. How do i get over this fear? How do i ever become intimate again?
2007-10-07 08:54:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds like there is something running deeper in your subconscious and there may be something traumatic in your past that has affected your ability to connect to someone that at the time you might have thought to yourself "no harm done" when in fact you were suffering from denial. I am no psychologist, but I think you need to so some serious review of your past relationships and find a good councilor to talk them over with.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 09:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by rulestheroostwithkindness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I totally feel the same way.
I believe that what the responder above said though, is very true. It is all a matter of 'really wanting it' lol - no pun intended, and getting yourself up and doing something about it. We sometimes though become to complacent with where life is in those terms, or have too many problems elsewhere to make that a top priority.
Best of luck.
2007-10-07 09:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Serendipity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back out there and start dating. That is the only way that you'll regain any confidence in that area.
A long dry spell can cause people to become a bit rusty when it comes to romance, but it won't stop until you jump back into the water.
2007-10-07 08:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by SoMunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't do it in a day. Start talking with women. Talk to 100 if that is what it takes to help you get over feelings of possible rejection and learn how to socialize again. Anytime we get out of shape, we have to work to get back into shape. It takes time and practice.
2007-10-07 09:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Max 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets forget about the past. Get off the Computer.
Go Talk to your Girl-friends about it. 1st step to talk to girls.
then talk to your guy-friends about it. 2nd step of realisation.
then notice the difference when u speak to both sex.
what does it tell u?
u'll eventually get out of this problem, as sometimes 'the question' is actually an 'answer'.
& u will get to know the "real" you.
all the best =)
2007-10-07 09:01:31 · answer #5 · answered by R.i.n.a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dint mention your age or the circumstances you refer to.id rather know more to give the best advice possible.eg i would give a different answer to someone in their mid 30s to someone in their 70s
2007-10-07 09:02:43 · answer #6 · answered by TREVOR B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try to go seeing a therapist. Maybe one that deals with intimacy and sexual issues.
2007-10-07 08:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask God to help you with it, live in the moment.
2007-10-07 09:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by di 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋