I am 13 1/2 and i feel really sad like all of the time. I am partially emo, not like hard core, but enough to be considered emo. And i am overweight, in the process of losing a little bit of weight. im not too much overweight though.
it seems like most of my life i am just a sad person. In school, since i go to a private school, their arent many kids in it, so there arent many different kind of people. All the girls in the school are preps except for me, so while finding somewhere to sit at lunch, i sit at a random table every day because i dont fit in. i dont have many friends. i used to have three close friends, then the turned on me and treated me like sh**. No one really likes me in school, except i have a few guy friends
and in my family life, well no one seems to like me. My cousin really close to my age likes my older sisters and their boyfriends more than me, and the rest of my family bassically ignores me.
why do i feel so sad?
2007-10-07
08:17:18
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i mean yea my mom pays attention to me, but im just really ignored in the family. I feel like i stand in the shadows in everyone. people make fun of me at school, for being bigger, and for not being a prep. it seems like i have no friends or anyone that cares about me. i can be out going at times, but most of the time i am quiet, and just sit in a corner with a notebook and write poems and songs.
it may seem pathetic but since my life doesnt seem happy, i play video games like harvest moon and the sims to make fantasy happy lives.
are their any ways to be happier?
2007-10-07
08:19:50 ·
update #1
My Dearest Little Emo Girl ..... what you are going through is what is known as a difficult part of life. This is all a part of growing up, it is never easy and often times sucks.
You stand out from the crowd because you are being true to yourself. In others words my dear emo .... you are being you. Which is a wonderful thing to do. Always be true to yourself, do not be a fricking robot like so many many others in the world. It has nothing to do with being young, it has everything to do with being the real you.
In this lifetime you shall experience a great deal of change in your life. My best advice to you would be to always remain true to you & who you are. Never ever allow others to dictate to you ( how to live your life or how to dress or anything else ) You be yourself always.... this way you will always be happy .... happy making your own choices .... happy be the real true you!!!! I wish you the very best on this situation my precious little emo .... Peace to you always =)
Sincerely,
Jerry Hamilton
2007-10-08 14:48:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Could be dysthymia--a long-lasting form of depression that usually shows up around the age of 10 to 14 in a lot of people. A shift in hormones can cause it, or a deficiency in one (that was the cause of mine.) You should definitely go to the family doctor and tell them what's going on. A doctor who knows what's going on with that will likely request blood tests. That's to search for all possible causes that can be treated, and they should do that.
Once the underlying problem is treated properly, you'll find that you're more outgoing than you are now. I would almost bet money that right now, everything is in somewhat of a fog for you. That's how I was. It took about four weeks for the treatment to work, but after that, I was back to (ahem!) normal, whatever the hell that is ;)
I've been treated for it for over 15 years. Before treatment, I didn't talk to anyone. Now, I'm a radio news anchor talking to hundreds of thousands of people in Connecticut. It's all about taking the initiative and fixing the underlying problem.
2007-10-07 15:24:41
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answered by Danagasta 6
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Hon, you're at a very tough age. Being accepted by your peers is something we all desire. However, from your post, it sounds like you don't have too much self esteem, which is so important. Have you talked to your parents about how you're feeling? They may not have a clue otherwise. Just sit down and have a heart to heart talk with them. You'd be surprised and how beneficial that could turn out to be.
As far as your schoolmates, just understand that we're all trying to find our place in the world - and most of your classmates are just as uncertain of themselves as you are of yourself - some people just hide it better.
I think you feel sad because you feel unsure of so many things most people find important - school (how do I fit in?), family (do they really love me?) and friends (I sure would like to sit with the same friends at the same table every day!). One more thing about your three ex-friends - I had the same thing happen to me when I was right about your age. It really hurt me and I felt alone for awhile. But, in time, I found new friends and I was happier. So, forget your ex-friends. It's their loss, not yours.
Growing up is hard. There are so many things to deal with. But, know that you'll be fine. It's just part of the journey of life. Talk to your parents, or maybe a counselor at school you can trust. You'll feel better. Forget about trying to fit in so much and just concentrate on things you enjoy. Are there any clubs at school you'd like to join, or a sports team? How about hobbies? Just try to involve things in your life that interest you and you won't care so much about what the prep kids think.
Hang in there. It really does get better.
2007-10-07 15:51:54
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answered by loveblue 5
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I think you should talk to your school counselor. They can help you with issues like this. You sound incredibly lonely. My son is close to your age, and I know how hard it is to go to school with morons and bullies. The schools seem to be full of them these days.
Please talk to a trusted adult, like a teacher or counselor or doctor, and get some help for yourself. Maybe you could join some after-school activities or classes for kids your age group that is not affiliated with your school. This would give you an opportunity to meet other kids in your community and perhaps make some new friends.
I hope things get better for you. Just please remember these other kids are the ones with the problem, not you. They just have not been taught proper principles on how you treat people.
2007-10-07 15:28:38
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answered by Lydia H 5
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Your parents are to blame here. Obviously they have not given you the love and attention that you need.
Let me tell you something,
I am 32 and feel the same as you. My mom and dad were not there for me, so I feel a big void in my life. I never fit in at school. The only way I was able to fit in was to drink and use drugs and run with the bad boys. NOT GOOD!
When I was young (15-20), I started drinking and smoking weed. I forgot all my problems. But when I got married and had a kid, I became depressed. When I looked for examples of parenting, I had none. When I needed support to help me with my young marriage and parenting tips, there were none. And yes, I felt that nobody loved me, either.
So I became depressed in my 20s, and I have been fighting it ever since.
I will tell you the secret: Don't worry about being liked! You can't control others. I have noticed that when I want people to like me, they don't. But when I am myself, more people like me. You have to be yourself. SOme people will like you and some won't.
Meanwhile, find something you like and become passionate about it. Become real good at it. Perhaps you like poetry, or you like to draw, or something. When you are really passionate about something, you will meet people who also like the same thing and you will have a lot more in common. But don't be phony just to fit in. You have to really like something and believe in it.
As for your cousins, they like your older sisters because maybe they have more in common with your older sisters than with you. Also, a lot of younger girls like to hang out with older girls. Guys too.
As for your parents, try to spend more time with them, if possible. If they go to the store, go with them. If they go shopping, go along, too. People automatically think that parent will LIKE them, but there are plenty of cases where that is not true. I know plenty of folks who respect their dads, but don't like them (and vice-versa).
As for the weight, start running and eating better. Since you are so young, you can lose the weight far easier than I or any other adult can!
So what I am telling you is, **** everybody else. Do your own thing. You'll be surprised how people start coming around.
2007-10-07 15:30:14
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answered by Anonymous
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I think being depressed is just a very tempory state of mind or at least it should be.I think you just have to realise that being depressed will not help anything try and solve your problems.the moment you start enjoing even the smallest things in life(and everbody has something to look foward to and enjoy in life)and look posetively on everything,smile everyday and treat the bad things that happen to you as challenge not a problem,trust me your life will begin to change for the better.Also remeber that highschool is not the end of life.
2007-10-07 15:33:34
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answered by Anonymous
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You should go to a doctor and see if you have clinical depression. I've always had mild depression but ever since I took fish oil and exercise I feel normal.
2007-10-07 15:21:53
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answered by Cake17 4
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You may have depression and should see a doctor about it. They may be able to help.
2007-10-07 15:24:59
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answered by punch 7
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Only you can answer yourself. Maybe you like to be sad. maybe it's an attention seeking ploy. Do you like yourself? If so, why ?
2007-10-07 15:23:51
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answered by Anonymous
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