was only being nice and sociable to someone in high school because I am not a mean person like that to not let somebody talk to me. It was only temporary because I thought that I wouldn't have to deal with that person after I left high school (and trust me, they annoyed me constantly in high school! Never gave me a space to breathe and kept coming up to me and annoying me when I was with my friends. One of my friends actually ended up not coming to a class ever again because it was that annoying and bad.. and my other friend ended up skipping classes because it was that bad as well) However, this person tends to see me a lot now with me going to college, and I don't mean to sound nasty or that, but it's kind of the same thing. I don't want anything to do with this person, I have tried giving them hints that I dont want to talk to them by maybe listening to music loud, or ignoring them in the corridors and that whenever they say hi, and it makes me look nasty - which I don't like because I am a kind person. They still didn't get the hint after this so I told them over MSN to leave me alone, and they still won't get the hint. Even though I said to be left alone in block capitals they still continue to come up to me, interupt me when I am with some of my friends and that, and basically attention-seek and never leave me alone. How can I tell this person straight to leave me alone without being mean? I have a firm feeling I will end up hurting their feelings, and I don't want to do that - but I have warned them that's what's going to happen if they do not leave me alone because I will take action. It's going to make me feel twice as bad and guilty for telling them out straight, but you have to be mean to be kind really, and because I am such a nice person I will have difficulty doing this. Can someone give me some advice here?
2007-10-07 07:49:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you really were a nice preson you wouldn't have ignored the or played loud music to avoid them you would have told them straight out you didn't want to be friends..look up the definition to the word nice..i think your mean
2007-10-07 07:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this person is not that popular and you do not want to be guilty by association.
Anyways, to get to your question, how about avoiding her without letting your feelings get in the way....if she is hurt, that is something that is her problem, not to be mean, but to be truthful, sometimes people need to go threw there emotions to move on...not your problem.
Try this, when she comes up to you, say hi and greet her and tell her you must run and end it with nothing else and walk away. This should bring up questions in her head that you may not be interested in her and she may stop or ask you what is up. If she ask you what is up then tell her your just very busy and not to take it personal and walk away.
2007-10-07 07:56:37 · answer #2 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused. Is it one person or a group of people. Either way, some people are just inept at reading the nonverbal communication. It seems like you have to verbalize it. If they make you feel uncomfortable then express what you feel. I think you have done enough in beating around the bush. There are ways in getting your message across verbally without sounding mean. If you do have other friends that you do like hanging around with on campus then say "I have to talk to my FRIENDS about something. I have to go now. Bye" or something along those lines. I am sure you can think of something. Good luck!
2007-10-07 08:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by OH83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy. This person sounds
a.) annoying.
b.) persistant
What you can do:
I agree with you that being mean is NOT the way to go... afterall they just want to spend time with you. Be patient, but be FIRM. If she starts talking to you, say I'm sorry but I have things to do. If things get really bad, trying tell her how you feel. Tell her you two have nothing in common and perhaps she should meet new people. Tell her you aren't trying to be rude but that you really believe that you two aren't really meant to be friends. But BEFORE IT GETS TO THAT, just try and fade it out more.
Good Luck!
2007-10-07 07:55:19 · answer #4 · answered by Navy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a very polite, understanding man, but if the circumstance demands it !! I don't pull any punches, I don't raise my voice, I just say it straight up!! Stay polite! But just tell him, look, I given you every possible effort, and I just can't have you tagging slong w/me thru life, so plz lv me alone!! And if that doesn't work be more firm and less polite!!
2007-10-07 10:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why make hints? Be truthful. Tell this person what gets on your nerves. Say...you know **** I am uncomfortable because you do ** and ** and ***. I dont; want to be mean but this behavior is unacceptable to me."
Speak your truth.
Why do you think this person is in your life? What are you learning from this person. Perhaps it is to speak your truth. Which, for alot , is not easy. You don;t have to be rude...just be honest.
2007-10-07 08:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by karla k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a million. verify they'd't get out of the domicile, they'd get misplaced. 2. circulate away them countless litterboxes. 3. circulate away them countless water bowls. The extra the safer. 4. Use an computerized feeder, like Le Bistro of Petmate. or purely a feeder that shall we countless foodstuff pop out. ideally 2 feeders only in case one would not artwork or they smash it. And circulate away some foodstuff putting around besides. 5. verify there are not any traps open, like bathrooms, threat to get to the oven or cooker, and so on. 6. tell a neighbour your cellular telephone and ask him/her to maintain an eye fixed on teh domicile, like if there is any incident that would placed the cats in threat they could call you (housebreaking or sth.). 7. placed collars consisting of your telephone on the cats, only in case. 8. If somebody in charge could come like as quickly as to bathe the clutter and examine on them... only verify they don't enable the cats out.
2016-10-06 06:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completly unnessary. Tell this person.....I can't hang out with you all the time, maby we can get together once a week. Jokingly say...." ugh girl let me breath honey...you are sufficating me." Don't completly ignore her...thats all together rude.
Girl, What is your - friend - going throu ?
2007-10-07 07:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by eirama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoever it is probably socially inept and needs morale support unfortuantely for u, its u. They probably will hold on to u until they can stand on their own, and if u brush them off in a cruel and distinct manner they probably will commit suicide, no pressure there! no good deed goes unpunished
2007-10-07 07:53:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling them helps best
2007-10-07 08:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋