I have a serious problem w/ my brother's relationship. I am the older one, when I am upset at him, I hurt him and abuse him. I really don't know how else I can control my anger. I blame him and I hurt him. I really want to stop this abuse and find a healthier way to relieve my stress/anger w/ him.
2007-10-07 06:13:14 · 11 answers · asked by IamDavid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to find a way to get anger management counseling. Good for you for taking the first step and admitting that you have a problem. That takes courage and strength of character. Don't stop there though, don't wimp out now. Keep going and you'll have a happier, healthier life. Good luck!
2007-10-07 06:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Saphira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to seek some anger management/counselling. Your brother might need some as well. Sit him down and let him know that you're seeking help and you're very sorry for what you've done to him. you're older and should know better but you're going to get help so you can stop what you've been doing. also in the meantime get a punching bag, when you're pissed, go for a walk, yell into a pillow, do anything but turn it onto the people around you. This behaviour untreated is going to follow you through life and relationships. no woman's going to want to be with an abuser so please seek help while you're young still.
2007-10-07 06:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by colostomy_punch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect your honesty and wanting to change attitude but definitely not to your act of violence. Violence is not only a problem its a disease that will lead to destruction when its not dealt with with seriousness.
You can be rehabilitated as long as you are willing. Besides, doing sports, you can attending anger management courses or speak to someone(counsellor) who can always encourage you. Remember, violence is not the solution to any situation.
Whatever is done cannot be undone and there's no point for you to cry over spilt milk anymore. Instead, you should reflect on how the milk had spilt and how to prevent it in future.
Since you have done the prior. So continue to do the latter. Keep on keeping on. But do remember to confess and make apologies to your brother. Make your feeling and weakness known to him and there's nothing to be ashamed of when admitting and acknowledging your shortcomings and weaknesses to him. You have to first forgive yourself in order to seek forgiveness.
Others may be doubtful or sceptical with you, but as long you are genuine and willing to prove, time can bring proofs & healings. Although you cannot change what others may think about you but you can always change yours. Willingness is the key to success.
2007-10-07 07:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REALLY!!! I had an older brother like you!! He used to beat the crap out of me, when anyone made him mad!! I always told him someday I'll grow up, and I did. The nest time he tried his crap w/me I just knocked him out!! He didn't want to fight any more, you wanna know why??? Because "YOU BOTH ARE COWARDS", find someone your own size, and turn lose on them and see how far you get!!!! That was 25yrs ago, and I still don't acknowledge him. He like you, is a BULLY & A LOSER. You will lose your lil brother. He doesn't need you in his life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-10-07 09:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get anger management right away & maybe counseling http://www.theledger.com/article/20071005/NEWS/710050393 was in the newspaper of my hometown just 2 days ago good luck to you & your brother
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2016-10-21 08:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling, fast. If you can't afford it, go to a church or community center, there are free resources available.
2007-10-07 06:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand n trust me none can change ur situation ....neither the anger management lessons nor any guidance until u urself feel the need to change...take out time for urself first and see wat frustrates u coz its ur frustration that ur removing on him n its not ur anger thats being used
2007-10-07 06:36:49 · answer #8 · answered by sameer_billu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a punching bag and punch it whenever you are angry. you don't have to eleminate the fealing of anger, but you can't hit your brother.
2007-10-07 06:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by ▫□ █ ▄ ▀Square▀ ▄ █ □▫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are such a sissy. shame on your age and all the education and gifts you have recieved so far. shame on you
2007-10-07 06:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋