and I'm not talking about permanent situations, not phases. Let's say you're a successful lawyer and he's an elementary school teacher?
2007-10-07 05:03:18 · 29 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
EDIT: I AM talking about permanent situations. Sorry about the typo.
2007-10-07 05:05:18 · update #1
shauna: I filled it out.
2007-10-07 05:31:27 · update #2
This is one area where feminist are better than non-feminist women. I believe and cheer on the women who say they don't need a man to make more than her to remain attracted to him.
2007-10-07 08:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that both parties knew what they were getting into or potentially getting into at the beginning of the relationship, so it couldn't have mattered then and shouldn't matter later on. How can someone you love be less of anything, in any way? For instance, if one of the partners suddenly becomes disabled--is that person somehow less in the eyes of one they love? (I'm thinking you're asking about someone in a relationship rather than two individuals who are friends or whatever). I figure if anyone looks at people in that way--lesser/greater--they're not very evolved people and are really not worthy of anyone's time. (This goes for your other similar question as well). Interesting idea, and I know there are people like this out there, but I don't want to know them. It seems very petty to me. (note: A successful lawyer as opposed to an unsuccessful one? And what's wrong with elementary school teachers? In Canada, they make HUGE money, and so they should).
2007-10-07 13:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by teeleecee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have 5 older sisters and it's not an easy answer.
It's not so much about making less money, it's about feeling "secure".
Sure, maybe women just like to put a play on words, but I've seen it in action. There's something about having that successful man that ensures the woman there won't be problems. A lot of relationship issues stem from financial conflicts.
I can also tell you I've seen the opposite type of woman. One of my other sisters could earnestly care less what the man makes. Albeit she owns her own chain of bakeries and money is of no concern, she's happily married with 2 kids to a man who sells cell phones.
2007-10-07 12:10:18 · answer #3 · answered by grafxtasy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, at the moment, it would be impossible to make less money than me.
I don't judge the worth of a human by their income. If, by some strange twist of fate I made more, it would have no effect on how I saw my mate.
What would make me disrespect him would be if what he did for a living was wrong. School teacher is a noble profession, despite its lack of pay. I'd have great regard for him for doing a really hard, really important job.
2007-10-07 14:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. the way i see it, the money is all going into the family pot. i wouldn't mind making more than my hub (and i did until he got promoted). it was never an issue in our marriage. my mother has made a lot more than my father for years and they don't seem to have a problem about money. i think the only couples who have issues with this are those that think their pay check quantifies THEIR value. besides, being a teacher is a respected profession that society views as even MORE noble because it's not financially valued despite its obvious importance to society. lawyers are looked at as scum, so i wouldn't mind being a female lawyer married to a teacher.
2007-10-07 12:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I would not feel he was less of a man for making less money than me.
I would feel he was less of a man if:
he didn't work or couldn't keep a job (unless there was a legit health reason)
Didn't take his place as head of the house
wasn't being a good father to his children
wasn't loyal to family and friends
didn't value our relationship.
2007-10-07 17:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. I think this is a pretty serious issue in a lot of relationships. My boyfriend and I both make the same amount of money right now, but I would hope that if I made more he would not feel threatened by that. I wouldn't look at him any differently.
2007-10-07 12:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My husband is an elementary school teacher and I make significantly more as a Medical Technologist. It has never been an issue. We are both in jobs that we love and have a good marriage.
2007-10-07 12:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by aimee_id 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Life is not a competition in my humble opinion. As long as he is working hard and is successful in his own right. I will not hold that against him. After all, we are a family based on mutual affection, not amount of money each of us brings in.
2007-10-08 15:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society in general, tends to correlate finances with the personal value of the individual.
I don't see the link...the amount of money he makes does not determine what he has to offer me as a person, so no, I don't care, as long as he has a job (which means he's willing to pull his weight), it is all good.
2007-10-07 13:57:38 · answer #10 · answered by Quelararí 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋