If so, what do you do to maintain the "power balance" in your relationship?
2007-10-07 04:56:04 · 12 answers · asked by Lioness 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
It probably depends on what the delta is between the two paychecks. A small delta is probably a non-issue. A big delta could be a blow to my not-all-that-fragile but not-unbreakable male-ego.
For example, guys who're high earners are usually confident about their economic power and are exposed to women who are also high earners and know that they are just regular people who've figured out how to leverage the system better than the average person. So what.
Bottom line, I wouldn't really care personally since I do OK. . . unless she were close or a 7-figure earner. Then, I'd feel kind of small driving around in the Lamborghini Murcielago she bought me.
2007-10-08 03:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make me feel less manly. In fact- money is not important for me in a relationship. I plan on making a lot more money down the line but I don't tie that into relationships. Why? Because relationships are about love, compassion, intamincy. Not about material objects. If I am in a relationship and I can't respect the girl for her personality then it's over.
2007-10-07 05:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
This hasn't been a problem. I've never devoted conscious attention to empowering myself in a relationship. If anything, I've tended to take too much responsibility for the outcomes in a relationship, and have tried to slough off some of the power. It's been more difficult to try to empower the women. Even when they earn more.
2007-10-07 07:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the great philosopher Popeye once said, "I am what I am." What I am is intrinsic to me and does not depend in the least on external factors. I don't need a power balance in a relationship. But maybe I'm just abnormally well-adjusted.
2007-10-07 05:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by gunplumber_462 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It wont hurt my manhood in fact f I had to choose between a beautiful poor woman and a good looking rich woman id take the rich woman instead.
2007-10-07 05:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brandon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I could not imagine why anyone should, unless his views stopped evolving sometimes in the 50s and he defines his worth as a person through his income.
But then, those men have some serious confidence issues and won't end up with a successful intelligent woman anyway. ;-)
2007-10-07 05:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ithilien 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
i don't put a monetary value on other people. if i did i would think warren buffet was one of the greatest men alive.
since i don't put a monetary value on other people, why should i put a monetary value on myself?
there have been three important relationships in my life (i've been lucky). two of my partners have earned more than i did for at least part of our time together.
but since i didn't choose them for their money (either way) it never bothered me.
2007-10-07 22:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by synopsis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband did, that's why he's my ex.
He could handle just about everything to do with feminism, but his "failing" at his career (his words, not mine), and my "succeeding" at my career (his words, not mine) was too much. I never said a word about how we spent our money, but it didn't do any good. He felt too humiliated I guess. He never would discuss it with me either. If I encouraged him in his career, I was pressuring him. If I didn't say anything about his career, I didn't care. Can you say passive-aggressive? Oh well, his loss. Too bad, I never cared about being successful financially, but I think that's what hurt him the most. He wanted so much to be rich, and I could care less.
2007-10-07 11:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by edith clarke 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel less "manly" when the woman makes more money and acts more "manly" before me for making less money.
According to a recent study conducted with rats, 99% female rats feels more manly in this way.
But only 19% male rats who make more money feels more manly than others (male/female) who make less money.
2007-10-07 06:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by UseAnotherNickname 3 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I think I would just because of the sterotypical thoughts out there. I wouldnt hate it or let it affect anything is my wafe made more money than me, but I would feel like I would want to get a higher paying job just so that I could be the one "bringing home the bacon"
2007-10-07 05:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by futuretonyz 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋