I loved this woman deeply, we got married and i found out she was Bi-polar and dint want help. I cant seem to get past this. Alot of the love has turned to anger and i have never been a angry person. I loved her so much i feel incomplete. I have dated a few girls but i just cant get her off my mind i have thought about her every day for six months. Some people tell me to get over it and time will work it out but cmon its been long enough, why cant i move past this girl she got pretty abusive to me and then just up and left. Why cant i just move on i want to in my head but it seems like i cant.
2007-10-07 03:40:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've found bi-polar girls are great in bed usually and that can be addictive but the relationship problems are not worth it.
2007-10-07 04:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say how long she has been gone so it is hard to give a great answer but I will try. If it has been a short period of time, perhaps she may decide that she wants to get help and there are things which will help a bi-polar person lead a normal life.
If it has been some time, remember that you married the better part of her and the other parts drove her to leave you.
remember the Gestalt prayer::
I am I and you are you
I am not in this world
To live up to your expectations
And you are not here to live up to mine
If by chance we meet,
It is beautiful
If not, it can't be helped.
In your situation, if she doesn't want to get help to deal with this, it is simply "It can't be helped" and you have to realize that and move on.
2007-10-07 04:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, 6 months are nothing when you loved someone deeply; Besides, you married her and were living with her.
Give yourself some real time, which means, take it one day at a time, until you feel that you can move on; that thinking about her is not painful; then you know you have moved on.
Feelings are uncontrolable and in time, the pain goes away.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 03:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time heals all wounds. But if you keep opening the wounds, like you have been doing, it is going to take longer. My advise is do not date for a while. Just keep moving forward and find a productive way to occupy your time.
Try charity work.
Or you can always find a separated and divorced group and go to it. Be honest and express your feelings there. You are not alone.
Good luck.
2007-10-07 03:45:18 · answer #4 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOu love her and probably always will, that wont go away, so you have to find someway to deal with it, its gonna be hard and years will pass, but when you truly love someone, you never stop.
2007-10-07 03:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you still love her and have feelings for her. There is nothing wrong with that. You know that you can't live with her for your own sanity. Go get some counseling to get things off your chest. Don't keep burying it.
2007-10-07 03:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you didn't have any closure with her and some people need that before they can move on.
It might help you to go get some councelling to help get some closure and then to move on.
2007-10-07 03:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Spring 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Love doesn't turn off just because it's what you should do.
2007-10-07 03:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by LAL 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because you are getting a two for one. Sweet Polly Purebread one minute, the wicked witch of the west the next.
Man that's like a threesome but with only two people in the same bed! I'd keep her!
2007-10-07 03:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 6⤋