my husband was text dating and internet dating?

Question

We only married in June this year I found out in July as I wasn't getting any interest from him so why has he gone out and done this, maybe married men can answer this

I have thrown him out as he still denies it all even though the proof is here in black and white by the way yes it was just before we got married as well I am having the marriage annulled

Answer 1

This "man" is way too immature to understand what commitment really means. Also, this "hidden life" of his has probably been part of his life for a very long time. The fact that he continues to deny it happened, despite proof, is actually more worrying in some ways, as it shows that he is one of those guys who plays serious head games as well. You are well rid. Good luck in getting over him and healing from this.

Answer 2

I think you need to sit him down and say, "I know about the text dating and internet dating - I want an explanation." Get evidence to back it up incase he tries to deny it. Only he knows the answer, other married men don't. It's unusal as you've only been married a very short time, it seems he's probably been doing before you married. To me, it's cheating but to other's it may not. The fact he wasn't giving you any interest seems he is enjoying the internet/text relationships more. Talk to him and decide what to do from there on. Good luck

Answer 3

Maybe he married you and does not know what that means? I would ask him what his understanding of a committed relationship is to him? I would also, let him know what is and is not acceptable here for you to remain married to him. It appears that he is already setting himself up for temptation to cheat. This is unacceptable here and he needs to stop before he does you wrong if he hasn't already? He is acting out as if he were still single and you have a very big problem going on with him and he needs help! Get him into some marriage counseling and find out what his issues are and why he is doing this. I would not put up with this emotional abuse and allow him to bring me down like this. You have only been married for a few months and this should not be happening. I would be as mad as hell here for him disrespecting me this way and be giving him an ultimatum for this kind of behavior!! He is handing you a dirty rotten deal here and he should be feeling that he is still on his honeymoon with you. I would say hell no and I mean hell no!!!!!!

Answer 4

Was he doing this before you married? He probably enjoys the challenge of winning over another woman, although that is not a justification. If you want to stay married, you need to sit down together and if possible don't get upset with him but listen to what he says, then see if you can get some counselling together, your marriage IS threatened by this behaviour no matter what he says - he is living in a fantasy world and your reality can never approach his imagination or what the women he meets will tell him. Good Luck I hope it works out for you.

Answer 5

Are you very sure he was not doing this before you were married and is a case of you have just found out? Some folks can get addicted to this sort of nonsense. I feel very sad for you but way I see it there are always choices.....maybe he needs help as in for addiction .......maybe if you see marriage guidance and could salvage....but then once trust is violated it is a hard road back.......OR just get rid and in time revenge will be served cold?

Answer 6

You have to be tough on this one, woman! I'm a 58 year old guy and I can assure you that your hausband hasn't grown up yet and his behaviour indicates a serious unwillingness to accept the reality of your future together. He doesn't care about you in the right way and his web activities at best mean he is prepared to cruelly disregard you in his own (almost certainly sexual) interests. At best he might be putting you at risk of disease or whatever. There's deceit in this too. You can't achieve a happy married life if this goes on. I'd seriously consider a. arranging counselling for both of you and b. if he doesn't accept the offer to go to the counselling leave him and start again. In fact I wouldn't even tell him that's what you're planning - if he won't seek help with you make your arrangements and go to a safe haven and don't even see him again except in the company of good friends or a solicitor. Your future's at stake. You know it! Sorry. Best of luck.

Answer 7

The grass appears greener on the other side - bored - fed up - thought he could get away with it - excitement of the chase - who knows what goes through his mind.

Unfortunatley - you have to find that out from him and it is highly unlikely that he will be able to tell you.

Sounds as though he regrets his decision to marry or he has a long history of playing the field that you were unaware of.

Whatever the answer you need to sort it out now - and get the answer because it does not sound as though he will change to be honest.

Answer 8

Seriously, good luck to you. This kind of behaviour is all over the internet. The fact is that the imagination is much better than reality because they can have it exactly as they want it to be. It's a dangerous game and most men don't get that it is no different than physically cheating. You should talk to your husband about this now before it's too late!!

Answer 9

its a shame what he is doing here, 1 month into a relationship is not enough time to even get started to cheat on u, so he has been cheating on u before u were married. he's disgusting, he's wore out by the time he gets home. drop him like a hot potato, he's never gonna change and just 1 month into the marriage just kills me.

Answer 10

I did it,
i thought it was harmless flirting, we were apart at the time and it stroked my ego.
It was only when my girlfriend at the time found out and i saw how hurt she was that i realised doing it virtually was just as bad as doing it for real.
You need to sit down and talk to him, show him how hurtful it was and I'm sure he will feel terrible.
Many many many people use the Internet to play out alternate lifestyles outside their real one.
Hence the success of things like second life.
How many men are pretending to be lesbians in chat rooms.
Fat people as thin people, old people reliving the youth they always wanted.
Hopefully you catching him has given him the wake up call he needed to snap back to reality.
Now is definately the time to get that car you always wanted him to buy you.....