this guy pursue me,,,,and i didnt agree anything yet.. we were having dinner and good time yesterday and was quite happy... he ask me to help him clean house today but i rejected because i dun think is appropriate to clean his house since i have not agree anything.. I even got things on..
then i call him today,,,he didnt say much and was quite cold to me because i say i cant help him...
what's wrong with him? is he feeling rejected or being manipulative when i disagree? now i think he is going to ignore me....i do have some feeling and care for him...but due to some personal problem i cant accept his advance yet...
what should i do? thank you for your patience and help here..
2007-10-07 03:13:52 · 5 answers · asked by wishingforpeace 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
He just wants to sleep with you, getting you help him clean his house was a way to try and lure you into a position where you were alone and he could try once again to get you to sleep with him. I applaud you, that could have been a dangerous situation where you would be alone and no one would be there to help you if he tried anything. Stay away from him. No gentleman will ask you to help him clean his house.
2007-10-07 03:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This “guy” may or may not have some ulterior motive, some hidden agenda but no one knows except him and maybe he doesn’t know. What you have to do is take care of yourself. Would an objective observer believe he was being “quite cold” or is that just how you believed him to be. Could there be another reason for the way he acted? The only way to know is to ask HIM! When you do you will get one of two options. He will tell you the truth or lie. If he lies he may or may not know he is lying or why.
Although this guy may have problems, that is his problem. You would do better working on your problems. You write “now i think he is going to ignore me.” This is irrational thinking. You seem to believe you have magical powers and can tell the future. Could it be your own thinking that is the problem?
I believe you would do better asking HIM as to what is going on then asking strangers.
2007-10-07 11:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by gdc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most probably he is acting as being rejected to manipulate you in agreeing to help him clean his house, don't be naive, have you ever stop to think about his ulterior motive? This is the time to test him if he is really sincere in his motives towards you.
2007-10-07 10:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by alecs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants a maid, not a relationship, please don't continue calling him. I don't know whats wrong with him, but you will probably have a terrible relationship with him if this is how it starts. Yes he's being manipulative, and that is not a good thing.
2007-10-07 10:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by b w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a control issue. good for you. don't become someone's housekeeper or doormat. he is being passive aggressive with his behavior. find someone healthy would be my suggestion.
2007-10-07 10:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋