What do people think about a marriage with a 30-year age difference? Specifically, the woman is in her mid '20's and the guy is in his mid '50's. He has kids from a previous marriage as old or older than her. They aren't planning on having kids. Are the odds good the marriage will last?
2007-10-07 02:39:42 · 25 answers · asked by Tiger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No......it will not last! A man that truly loves this young woman would look past the here and now and want more for her future. What she feels that she could live with in this moment could change in the coming years.Someday she may change her mind about wanting children and the physical difference would be important at a later date when and if you are unable to keep up with her sexually. Your adult children may not take her seriously and this could open up a whole new world of problems in her life and you! She has only begun to live and experiece her world and there are many differences here to consider. Over the next 10 years if anything medically could go wrong with your health would you expect this young woman to wait patiently at your bed side only hoping to nurse you back to health or wishing you were dead so that she could move on with her life? I would find someone closer to my own age where we share more things in common and appreciate the older woman for her wisdom and deeper understanding about you in her life. I am sorry but I feel that no good would come out of this relationship in the end....and if you are financially stable you could possibly lose more than just the relationship before all is said and done.
2007-10-07 04:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin was married to a man 35 years her senior. They are both highly educated, interesting people and fell in love despite the unconventional age difference. She said that they HAD talked about having kids and although he'd raised a family (his ex-wife did all the raising and he was at work almost 24-7) HE said it would be fine if they had children, too. Years went by and when she hit 30, she realized his attitudes had changed and that he really didn't even like kids. By the time she was 35, they'd been married 9 years and he was back to his workaholic ways and she hardly did anything with him. They divorced and she found a great guy and had a baby and she says she's the happiest she's ever been. Moral of the story: It's not about age. It's about common goals. (also, workaholics make rotten spouses)
2016-05-18 00:15:02 · answer #2 · answered by freda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds suspicious to me. Several reasons, the woman in her 20's either has no self confidence, low self esteem, too arrogant for men her age, unattractive or a gold digger. The man in his 50's is a pervert, Hugh Hefner's bio son and Bill Gate's sole brother, who stands to inherit billions from these men, trying to relive his youth, has stock in Viagra or again is a perv.
I really do not see this lasting, particularly, this man is probably in his last moments of life and this 20 year old has the old man thinking she does not want kids..... with his old azz she doesn't want kids and probably because he cannot have any more!!
The grown children will make his and her life a living hell as they are bound to be suspicious too. In this modern day, there is not that much dayum love in the world to have that much of an age gap and can relate to each other!!!
2007-10-07 02:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO...No. What would a 20 year old have in common with a 50 year old. When I see couples like this I think he's looking for a trophy wife...and she's looking for a father figure or money! WIth that said I'm sure there's couples with a 30+ year age difference that work...but the odds are slim!
2007-10-07 02:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by purplebee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is handsome, patient, and sweet with sexy, I think of Hugh Heffner, and his 3 lovely ladies. You can have a very very good union. I wouldnt mind doing something like that myself and at 30 I was dating a 50 year old, so no big issue as long as you have common issues to keep her engaged mentally and you can have some fun sexually you should be able to have a blast :) AND she would feel safe with someone mature, I am not talking about the cheat/factor, I am talking about how nice it is to have someone with more experience and more knowledge. Young guys can also be so rude sometimes...I love it when a guy thinks about my feelings and adoration from an older guy is wonderful on top of all of the other things he can provide. I think love from an older gentleman is sincere and real, young guys are just chasing for conquest but they dont even know themselves let alone what a girl wants and how to give it to her :) Take Care and I hope you guys have a marriage made in heaven :)-Rachel.
2007-10-07 02:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
odds are pretty low. why? because the kids are older than the bride, so they won't respect her. they will likely resent her and will probably won't try to include her in any family activities because they think the marriage is a joke. just ask paul mccartney, stella mccartney, and heather mills. you see how well that ended.
the age difference is too great. these two people are at very different stages of their lives. they may have great sex or even bond on an intellectual level, but once the routine of everyday marriage sets in, that won't be enough to overcome the age & lifestyle differences.
2007-10-07 03:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,
I am 28, my husband is 54, and we've been married for 1 1/2 years, it's on the rocks. His daughter is 27, his son is 20, and we're all not happy campers right now.
It was fine in the beginning, but then problems started and everyone is leaving us alone to work it out, but it's really difficult.
The most difficult thing is that we don't have a lot of things in common that we first thought, we are going in two different paths, he is semi-retired, and I work all day, and I find his habits boring now, and he is jealous of my working all day, and on and on ...
If you think she's right for you then fine, but think about your common interests and be realistic. She may want kids, do you?
2007-10-07 09:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The odds are not good, but you never can tell. I know a guy in his late 70's who married a girl 20 years younger then him when he was 40. They are still together. So sometimes it can work. But the majority of times I would say no.
2007-10-07 05:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Half of all marriages dissolve, period.
The girl would be giving up her need to have children, which is very strong. She must be totally captivated by him.
I would find it more interesting if the guy were in his 20s and the woman in her 50s. That would be more novel.
2007-10-07 02:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hard to say... as her biological clock starts to tick as she hits her 30s... she may change her mind... even if he doesn't. Then it could create some problems for them. In your 20s... it's hard to know if you do or don't want kids. AS her friends start to marry and have children she may very well... want to have babies...
Is she looking for a daddy figure? Some young women like the stability ( and money) and security an older man provides. He clearly wants a trophy wife... and to prove his virility with a young wife...
hard to say if it will last or not.. some do... some don't
2007-10-07 02:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋