The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes.
How do you cope with the fear of loneliness and the possibility of loneliness?
If i strike out on my own, without friends or a partner, then how can i deal with the possibility of isolation?
What can be done to alleviate feelings of loneliness?
2007-10-07 02:09:27 · 8 answers · asked by Zag 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thats a discision I also had to make,years ago.I chose a rout,and became somewhat of a loner.Society isn't always going to agree with you.Thats a stand one has to take.Do whats best for you.Let your spirit guide you,not your feelings.That is also a lesson I am still learning.It can be a bumpy road but in the end it may be better for you.I am still on my road.
2007-10-07 02:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by gotabedifferent 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Zag, thank you for asking this question. I only have a few superficial solutions. One of them is spend more time in answers connecting with people...it's easier than doing it in the real world though it does have it's problems too. Another idea is to journal about your fear...find out what is at the root of it. When did you first begin to fear lonliness, what prompted that feeling. Then rationalize it...remind yourself you are not alone. Make a list of all your friends and family with email addresses and phone #'s. Don't let any fear keep you paralyzed. You never know, this major life change may bring many new and wonderful relationships to your life! Let us know what you decide!
2007-10-09 17:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Risking a better future because you're afraid of being alone is something you're going to have to really think hard about. Think about the advantages and weigh them against the disadvantages.Just because you strike out on your own does not mean you will no longer have the ability to make new friends and contacts and network and meet many new people. Have Faith and confidence in yourself, you can't life with that safety blanket all of your life, you have to spread your wings and fly and be who you were meant to be. Follow your dreams and make them happen, don't let the past hinder you, the future is out there waiting for you!
2007-10-07 10:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You must get out of your shell. Take action, I realize you can't start by doing major things first, so start with little things you want to improve, resulting in improved confidence overtime. And I hate to say this, but if you continue to fear loneliness, you and your friends will drift apart, resulting in less confidence. I hope this helps.
2007-10-07 09:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Brandon_EBP 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fear of loneliness alone should start you on the road of change and making right choices > who wants to be alone and or lonely most of all who wants to be fearful? > I have started with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ > that may be a good place for you to start. Remember our Triune God gives us what we need when we need it we just have to listen for that still small voice. Also remember everyone makes some not to good choices sometimes > yet, one must get up brush themselves off and keep on going and in time > truth > joy > love > understanding shall come > you must get all the knowledge God has for you and ask for wisdom from our Triune God > I believe you are on your way to victory > because you have realized what is standing in your way and put your question forth seeking an answer > our Triune God states that before you ask I shall answer and while you are yet speaking I shall hear. Much love and peace to you > Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life > the price has been paid you just have to tap in to what our Triune God has purposed for your life and have faith which works by love. Remembering God is Love.
2007-10-08 01:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by ShinningStar 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try to keep positive,keep busy, doing the things you enjoy most. reading, going for walks, biking, doing crafts, go for a coffee, join a group or activity you enjoy, to be around people is a good thing. things will eventually fall into place
2007-10-07 09:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Colors&#Hmm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard but u adjust in order to find friends u have to take risks to get them. I left my friends behind when i moved and have not made new ones but also like where i am so itwas worth it.
2007-10-07 11:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
focus on things that make you feel good about yourself and that you are interested in. once you are happy with yourself then you will look forward to spending time alone.
2007-10-07 10:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋