How can I get over being paranoid?

Question

Anything anyone says, I get paranoid about it. Be it from my family, to my friends, I get paranoid over EVERYTHING!! ANd now, I've made a REALLLY good friend, and whenever she says anything, I get paranoid, and I think it hurts her...
HHHEEEELLLPPP!!!!!!

Answer 1

Hi, AJ! I think you just did the best thing you COULD do, under the circumstances... you explained your "problem". And, I think it already has had a good effect. Jasmine understands.
A little openness and trust go a long way, AJ. Most people will be more than willing to meet you half way.
They really will...!
Remember, Free To Be Me is here for you, and so are a lot of others... (if all else fails, you can try me, ok? *smile*)
I really mean it, AJ, I'm here, and I DO think you did the best thing you can do; now your friends have a better idea of what goes on with you!
Good luck kiddo! I'm on your side; and so are most of us! }:>

Answer 2

Good morning A.J.,
Sometimes, it's just a matter of asking yourself why you should feel that way. Don't analyze everything so much. If I say I like you as a friend, just accept it as that. That was just an example. Okay? Do not always try to find a hidden reason or meaning to what people say. I also think it might be a problem with trust. If you don't really trust people, you will question why they say things. Trust comes in time, when you know the person better. The more you trust people, the less you will question things they say.
If you want to talk, you know how to email. Okay?

Answer 3

geez, all been giving some really serious and long answer.
my will be shorter.. I'm a guy anyway. LOL

Okay, sometimes I get paranoid too but I get over it by always thinking about the positive outcome. Try thinking of something happy :) and if you get too paranoid, it's time to seek some help.. paranoid is a serious issue :p

gud luck man.

Answer 4

It must be very difficult to contain your paranoia.

The most important thing to do is to tell your friend that you have this issue. If your new friend is a GOOD friend, he/she will understand you.

I think you need a very good, close, understanding and loyal best friend to help you out with this. Someone who cares for you will be able to leap over your paranoia and get to you, and rescue you from your dilemma. Talk to somebody you're closest to, and discuss with him/her about your paranoia - what you get paranoid about, and what you can do about the whole thing. Things may work out gradually that way.

Maybe, too, somebody has the same problem as you, and you can talk to the person about it. Otherwise, you can consult the psychiatrist and seek help.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I thought I was paranoid when my ex-wife and her daughter always seemed to have strangely alternating text messages. All 3 of us in the same room and one phone would beep. Then,the others would beep. and so on and so on. I couldn't help but think this is weird. I checked her phone on a text message hunt. They were texting each other, with ideas of what to tell me so they could sneak out and play with the boys who had dope.Paranoid no,divorced YES.

Answer 6

Ask someone you may know that is a trusted friend, what things you are confused for what they really are. If your friend can understand you and is loyal by heart to you, he/she might help you differentiate truth from what you fear to exist or be happening.
If you have a really good friend who cars for who you are and is not trying to exploit you or hurt you, but simply is a friend because she cares how you are in this world, she'll not be hurt. She'll be courageous enough to listen to yur woes and fears.
You obviously have gotten to a point in life where your emotions have gone on the run, desperate to be placed at peace, at ease. You need to have a cool or able to discern things and events and other people without fearing them first.
I used to have the same reaction of paranoia toward my mother and the awful threats she'd make to me. One day arrived when my head could not give more room to these fears. So I told her I was not going to take part in the "game" anymore . . that I had a right to have peace, for I was certain, when I could think peacefully, THAT I was not doing anything bad to which she would allude to.
I used to lie in the corner of my couch in the foetal position in terror of my mother. One day after I knew for sure, that I would eventually would fall ill from this, I went to a friend, a woman who is very strong and has a good head on her shoulders - I tried to explain EVERYTHING! She helped me by trying to put things, including my reaction to them in more realistic perspective.
I am beginning to understand what is truth from fear about threats or exaggerations cruelly made by my mother. I even confronted my mother as to the necessity for these. Was it a control, power issue, but she hung up on me, because she knew I finally knew what terror she was inflicting on me totally unnecessarily.
I have not spoken to her since that. I miss her and wish I could tell her how I love her, but this she will not EVEN accept from me, BECAUSE, I had broken the mold of the old family dynamics!
I hope to have helped.

Answer 7

Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not after you.

Just learn to let things go, if you've made a good friend then they shouldn't be saying anything mean so nothing to be paronoid about.

Answer 8

I can only hope Iran gradually moves toward to being a less paranoid society that has less climate of fear and repression. In your case, society is partially to blame, and makes the personal battle that much harder to conquer.

But it CAN be conquered!

Answer 9

Really? I haven't noticed, but don't be paranoid that I'm looking at all your questions, I (sorta) would like to get to Lv.2 so I can give you and your Friends Thumbs up's... Maybe.

Answer 10

It's okay, I get paranoid sometimes. You don't need to worry about me getting hurt. Just tell me when something's bothering you. I'm always there for you.