How did it go? Did you get him in the end? Now I don't mean stalk, harass, annyoy, I mean...you know, subtly, made him a good friend and then after a while, he fell in love with you? The reason I ask is I've fallen in love with this guy who has flirted with me. We were with each other recently..one night. The thing is, he seems to be taking it very casually and I havnt told him how I feel. I think I may be more in love than him. It doesnt help that its long distance. Any advice? Thanks!!
2007-10-07 00:08:02 · 5 answers · asked by must see 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didnt necessarily 'pursued' him but i was really great friend with him for 2 yrs before i began to have any feelings other than something platonic for him. I just fell for his sense of humour, his friendliness, his generosity.... after around 3 months, i decided i had to tell him how i felt and he told me he had felt the same [for the past yr!] but was afraid to tell me in case i would change our friendship or if i didnt feel the same way. Luckily i did, and two yrs on, we're still going strong.
However, this guy you've fallen for seems to be stringing you along. Perhaps you should be honest with him and tell him how you feel, but whatever way you choose to do things, take it slowly and don't jump into anything that you may later regret.
2007-10-07 02:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be open with him do and say little things he likes, read between the lines to find this out, but dont give in to his every whim. Obviously there will be times that you are upset as in every relationship, but if you show you have your own mind and are self sufficient to a certain extent he will feel challenged and want to get in more. On the other hand, dont be too independant or opinionated though or he may feel the oopposite that you dont need him - play the feminine bit but surprise him sometimes see what i mean?
2007-10-07 09:06:12 · answer #2 · answered by Nadia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go there unless you are ready to be hurt. I have been there. They to avoid him at all costs. When he finally understands that YOU are the only one he wants, then he will change things. Until then, leave him alone and he will figure out if he misses you all on his own and he will come back running. BUT until then, starting looking somewhere else. There are MANY men out there.
2007-10-07 07:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Girl with Attitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow his lead. Take it casually too. Keep the communication level as high as possible. Talk to him about everyday things. If it was meant to be, it will develop.
2007-10-07 07:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Philippa B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't pursue. I have a hard enough time choosing the right man for me as it is. I'm a horrible judge of character.
2007-10-07 08:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋