I have an aquaintance that seems to enjoy others misfortunes. Example : Someone miscarried and she tells you with a smile or a grin, someone was laid off and you can see the glow on her face she is actually enjoying what she is telling you. She does this when people get in trouble at work , can someone tell me why she is horrid like this? Or is this normal for a person. Funny when she goes through something she expects you to feel sorry for her and I just can't.
2007-10-06 19:04:48 · 22 answers · asked by lolita 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
To answer Redheaded Charlie ,
She has no clue how obnoxious she is she is just this way, and believe me she is not showing greif when she grins and gets excited when she is telling you of these mishaps!
2007-10-06 19:15:55 · update #1
I do know someone like that. I don't care for that kind of attitude.
2007-10-06 19:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by noonecanne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I have known people like that, The best job I ever had was working for a multinational company, and there was a guy there who was always sulky unless there was conflict, then he positively lit up, he was always "stiring the pot" and manipulating people to get others written up and to file lawsuits.
Well the joke was on him, they closed the division and now he's working a dead end job for half the money and no benefits.
He was a lazy slob who hated the hard workers and now the hard workers have good jobs and he's in the sh!t.
A measure of justice is seen to be done for once.
2007-10-07 02:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yay...I'm not alone...Yes I am familiar with similar behavior and I ask myself each time a situation arises,am I reading this wrong...But unfortunately they are out there and whatever pleasure they receive from others misfortune is beyond me...I realize that obviously the person is lacking something somewhere...we are not supposed to judge as people...and I really try to keep that perspective...so when a situation arises I do my best to maintain and usually deal with it the way I see fit at the time...I've learned to not let it get the better of me,as there once was a time that It would drive me nuts...another one of lifes lessons...:) Take Care
2007-10-07 02:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by Trix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but I have a young friend who absolutely relishes the reactions of annoyance she stirs up when she misbehaves. I have tried repeatedly to tell her that upsetting people is not in her best interest but it is some sort of natural tendency she has and it's almost an automatic reaction in her. I would imagine that this is the precursor to the behaviour you are describing and I cannot fathom how to deal with such an issue. Is this person even aware of how obnoxious her actions are?
2007-10-07 02:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by ǝןqɐʇdǝɔɔɐun ʎןןɐıɔos 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we all know at least one person like this. I agree the ones I know are the same way, when something happens to another its just glowing euphoria, but when it's their misfortune they can't understand why people don't really care and make it sound like you are a horrid horrid person.
2007-10-07 02:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by ͏҉ ßõhrçmrïñsÿ★ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she gets titillated when she gets to tell someone something they don't know about yet. It probably makes her feel important and, thus, the smile or grin. The fact is, the only reason she would bother to tell someone something is not because she cares about another, but because she gains attention from it.
2007-10-07 02:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. i know a lady from work who cheers up whenever some people are in trouble, maybe she's thinking that misfortunes or mistakes of others make her look good over other people. i can't feel sorry for her too when she screws up
2007-10-07 02:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep... I have a sister just like that.
I miscarried my 2ND child and she sent me a text telling me it was my Karma catching up with me.
She feels her life is miserable and if yours isn't then she goes out of her way to make it that way.
I have no sympathy for her either.
Why are they like it.... Who knows. All I can tell you is that you are luck you are not related to this person. You can walk away from your friendship. I'm stuck with mine forever.
2007-10-07 02:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Piccola Sorella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may just smile or giggle when she is uncomfortable. A lot of people react like that. Many people do that because they are uncomfortable with certain feelings and don't know how to express themselves in another way. Try to be understanding of her. It doesn't at all mean she's evil or mean.
2007-10-07 02:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by stew 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a term known as....
Schadenfreude
It derives from Schaden (damage, harm) and Freude (joy); Schaden derives from the Middle High German schade, from the Old High German scado, and freude comes from the Middle High German vreude, from the Old High German frewida, from frÅ, (happy). In German, the word always carries a negative connotation. A distinction exists between "secret schadenfreude" (a private feeling) and "open schadenfreude" (Hohn).
Usually, it is stated that Schadenfreude has no direct English equivalent.
2007-10-07 02:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If that person is really like you described you might want to hang with someone else. That's not cool.
Some people are just like that. Misery likes company and all that. We've all know at least one.
2007-10-07 02:07:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋