Do you wonder why you put up with all the crap given to you by a lot of people during your long lifetime?

Question

It angers me quite often when I remember things that I had to put up with on some really bad jobs or situations. On the other hand, I figure that I should just give the world the big finger and laugh, because I made it through life, and did alright, in spite of all the sh*t I was handed.
If I had a glass of wine to raise, I would say, "Here's to all you unfriendly and abusive people that I had to work with on some of the worst jobs that I've ever worked on, and my wish to you all is that you had to spend the rest of your working days on that same crappy job that I left in good time."

I know, I know, I sound a little bitter, but I'm working on it and trying to get over it. Growing up with abuse, then discovering much later in life that I probably had ADHD as a child, still have it I suppose, doesn't make for a life of ease, but I did alright. I'm retired now, and live with my wife in a very close and loving relationship. So that ain't so bad.

Great answers. How am I ever going to choose the best one. Oh-no, ADHD has struck again; can't make decisions, you know.
I know life is not fair, but I wonder WHY I allowed myself to put up with the crap; at the time I thought I had to, but now I realize that I didn't necessarily have to. But there were times, especially as a young boy, when I really had no choice.

Frankie: I suppose I could have run away from home.

Answer 1

PAD D , My MAN!!!!!! Ha, ha,ha,!!!!! There have been songs written about the way we feel from Johnny Cash to "Take This Job and Shove It" Johnny Paycheck. And look at us now, got a good wife,loving children and a "Dennis the Menace" next door to us that both gets on our last nerve but ya love em' just the same cause they do things that remind ya of yourself when you were little( I got one, he is 9 yrs old. I also have a neighbor who is 81 and thinks I am 'Dennis the Menace". Ain't retired life grand? We got our goldmine and they probably got the "shaft" !

Answer 2

I think in our life times, we all put up with more b.s. than we think should be tolerated, and perhaps we are right to be bitter sometimes. However, I think it is human nature to avoid conflict if possible, and find a way around the negative. Yet there are times that abuse just can't be avoided. But, without all of the trials and tribulations to form your (our) character(s), you wouldn't be the wonderful "you" that you are. I too was abused as a child and there was nothing I could do about it. I was bitter and angry for many, many years, then I just had to let it go because it was taking too much of a toll on the totality of my whole being. I didn't want my abuser(s) to win twice, so now that I am rid of that specific negativity, life doesn't seem so bleak all of the time. Hang in there.

Answer 3

I'll tell you, you are lucky to be in a loving relationship with your
wife after having the earlier strife you mentioned. So you are
one up on me, my friend. I've got a spouse that's like an old
houseshoe. We're comfortable together, we've had almost
45 years together. But we're not the loving couple we were
years ago, and I miss it. Now I've got a grouch for a hubby,
who stresses out easily, can't even drive if I'm talking to him,
and if it weren't for two little dogs to make him laugh and love,
well he'd be one miserable coot today. More miserable with
himself I think than anyone. I came from a dysfunctional fam-
ily, where I felt unloved because I wasn't shown any. I was
abused by my father and grandfathers' belts on two occasions and that made me think twice from then on, even
when tho I wasn't guilty the first times. But kids didn't talk back
back then. So I took the switchings and belt strappings.
I also took some flack on two last jobs and was naturally
unable to verbally fight back and protest innocense. Life is
often a cruel and unjust world. And what we have inside is
usually the most important things, in how we cope with the
daily stresses. Some do better than others. Some end up
having health issues. You didn't mention having any. So I
think you have little to complain about in the long run. I've
come to see, I've lost in about every category and still have
a smile each day and can muster up a laugh on occasion
too. Be glad you have no further complaints. I'd love to
be in your shoes with what you do have going for you.

Answer 4

I have been at my job for over 30 years. I have put up with so much crap...why can't we all get along while we are at work?.....that I couldn't take it any more and thought I was on the verge of going "postal". So, I volunteered for third shift. Less people, so I thought less crap.Boy, was I wrong!!! I guess like someone said earlier, you just have to pick your battles and ignore the rest.I would be thankful that you have such a great relationship with your wifr. You are truly blessed! Alot of us that have crap at work go home to more crap or nothing at all.

Answer 5

Welcome to the club. It's over, but you learned much from it. How do I know that? Because I did, too. We all did. This is what makes for wisdom, and you have it, it's obvious from your very last sentence.

Now that you're retired, you can forget all of that, don't let it anger you any more. It's over and gone. Spend the rest of your life in peace and contentment doing the things that you want to do with that wonderful wife of yours.

Putting up with all of the garbage made us strong people and now we have the edge.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Because life wasn't meant to be easy, and I'm sure people put up with a lot of crap from you too. You can be pro-active and get out of the situation or stay quiet, because reacting badly never did anyone any good, nor did being bitter.

Answer 8

Yes I do and I have to look back and wonder why I took what I did. But hey just look at it this way. We made it and we are much stronger for having them in our lives no matter how rude or unpleasant. Really karma can be a nasty bed fella so they will no doubt recieve back 10 fold. I raise my glass to you for having a wonderful wife and now a very good and comfortable life that you deserve.

Answer 9

I hear you!! :-)...and also am happy to read you are 'working on it' because holding on to the past and resentments can do you more harm than you know...well, correct that - it seems you DO know :-)

and the answer to your question is we do what we think we have to do at the particular point and time in life.......can't be undone now, so we have to just let it go and hopefully learn from it.

One thing I have learned and try now to practice is to avoid or remove toxic people, places and things in my life and focus on the blessings of my life. :-)

You are blessed having a good life now with a loving wife and I say congrats!! for not letting those negative things interfere with you having a good life...regret/remorse/resentments are a waste of valuable time :-)

Answer 10

Yes, I think I was always a "doormat" type of person, who let people walk all over me most of my life. But now, with age and experience, I'm much more confident and able to say "no" without feeling guilty. I'm enjoying life more than I ever did in the past, and wouldn't be young for anything !
Good luck to you on the rest of your journey, it sounds as if you are making the most of life. :)