Why do feminists want "career moms" to neglect their kids?

Question

I see it every day. A white baby in a stroller being pushed by a....black nanny.

The career white mom is away at work while another woman rears her children. No wonder the kids have so much issues when they grow up.

Answer 1

It's there way of showing how strong they are, unfortunately the innocent have to pay the price. Mom's that stay at home have the real strength. .

Answer 2

This is new? This is what the wealthy and privileged men and women have always done-they've had nannies, serfs, and slaves care for their children.

Don't see what feminists have to do with the difference between the rich and poor and how they've always treated children.

The rich hire others to raise their children, so they can do more "important" things. The poor families all work, men, women and children for the basic necessities to live. We've only had a middle class in our societies for a relatively short period of time, compared to the wealthy vs the poor classes. The middle class is caught between striving for a "better" life and raising a family. The poor have no such choice.

Answer 3

Sorry, but Mom is the primary "caregiver," so she is just who should be jailed. The boy is 8 years old and weighs more than 200 lbs. Last year he had to be taken to the hospital because he was having problems breathing!!! The Father is vile for not being part of his son's life...or letting this happen if he is in it...but this is pretty much ALL on the Mother! If you can't take care of your child...give it to it's Father, or put it up for adoption!!! But don't worry Old's Cool...I'm sure this "Mother of the Year" candidate will find an attorney who will allege that she was abused by the boy's Father, or stressed, or depressed...and depending on when she has her court date, she'll be back to feeding him chips, cookies and cola until she kills him. After all, YOU seem to think that her parenting skills are just fine! Then again, you seem to think that it would be wrong to tell pregnant women not to smoke and drink!

Answer 4

That's ridiculous. I'm a feminist and I chose to stay home and raise my three kids. I wanted a career, but I waited for fifteen years before pursuing one. But let me tell you this: I was lucky enough to have a husband who was able to pay for our needs with his income alone...though there were times money was so short we had to have foodstamps just to be able to eat properly. Who says feminists are never "stay-at-home moms"?

And what's more, some women actually have to work whether they want to or not. It is very difficult to sustain the costs of having a home (and everything that goes along with that), as well as pay for the needs of the children on a single income. Many families need two incomes just to make ends meet.

Who are you to judge someone else?

You sound like a racist, too. What the hell is wrong with a black nanny taking care of a white child?

Answer 5

Where do you live that you see black nannies everywhere? I live in the south and have never seen a black nanny in my life. Here, career moms take their kids to day cares.

Your question does bring up a few points however. Why is it that it has to be MOM who raises the kids? Dad had as much of a role in producing those kids, so why don't you say HE should rear his children? I make nearly twice what my husband does. If we have a child and want to have a stay at home parent, which one should be the one to sacrifice their career?

Also, a point to consider is that while people seem to think our economy is so much better these days than it was in our grandparents day, you have to remember that your grandparents were able to afford life on a single paycheck. These days a two income home is almost a neccessity. It is rare to find a family that can afford life on a single income. In too many cases you have both adults working one or more jobs and still just scraping by.

Finally, I have never heard of a feminist recommending "neglecting" children. What they do say is that women shouldn't have only one choice. Women shouldn't spend their lives cooking and cleaning for some man who spends his time at home in front of the tube while she scrubs and slaves from dawn till dusk.

Answer 6

You don't know any of those women personally and yet you are so judgmental. Feminists never said they wanted career moms to neglect their children. Why are you making such a generalization about 1) white women 2) career women 3) feminists? Just because of what YOU see? Try using your brain and actually read feminist texts.

Answer 7

"..black nanny..."? Got some issues there bud?

Otherwise - yes we now have a second generation of children in the USA being raised by minimum-waged-daycare-workers. Not the ideal place to teach my children morals, values, etc. We have rallied 'round the "being a mom is an unimportant job" banner to the detriment of children and of women. A poll of women today reveals that the Utopian dream of women's lib has NOT been achieved by women flooding out of the home and into the workplace. Pity, we tried to fix a system that wasn't broken and have made it worse.

The whole "two paycheck" thing is crap. We need two paychecks today because we think that life is all about money and possessions. We believe that 2 or 3 flat-screens and a 2 week vacation and an ipod and an iphone and designer jeans and.... are all NECESSARY to live. We're just ants in a big international anthill feeding the elitists while they throw us a bone now and then. We toil to make others lives richer and the important things get away from us. "The new job's a hassle and the kids have the flu..." Wake up America!!!!

Answer 8

Not all nannies are neglectful, and women of every race have the right to provide for their families how they see fit. Some are paying for a caring nanny while working a job that brings in a lot more money than you get for just being a mom; thus, they provide something for their children and keep their children well looked after at the same time.

Answer 9

Let's keep race out of this, OK? Working mothers are out there earning money FOR their kids, not just for their own pockets. They are also trying to instill a strong work ethic into their kids, instead of indirectly teaching them that it's OK to depend on someone else for money. There is no evidence that a nanny or day care has any averse effects on children.

Answer 10

Chances are, that white baby being pushed in a stroller by a dark skinned nanny doesn't have a mother who is a career woman. That mother might not even have a job at all but is married to a rich man. She is using a nanny to care for her baby while she spends her time taking tennis lessons, going to the spa, or going shopping with her friends. Lots of rich women do this with their children. It has nothing to do with having a career.

Answer 11

i disagree...
"neglect" is such a heavy word that you seem to condemn working mothers...why?! would you also say the same word to all working dads out there?
i believe that working mothers should be praise and admire for taking the responsibility of contributing to the growth not just of their children but also of society and of themselves...
you see, as a person the biggest responsibility that we have is for ourselves...these working mothers that we have are trying to find balance from their responsibility of self-growth and the responsibility of being a mother/woman...
my point is, how could you give it all to your kids when you didn't even have it all in the first place? these mothers are definitely doing the right thing by fulfilling their needs as a person first before giving what they've got...

as for the kids "issues" you were referring, i'd like to ask this, why are only the children wth working moms have issues when they grow up? doesn't these issues apply to everybody else?

common'! if you'll condemn working moms then condemn working dads too! ayt?!